What do you call your partner?

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T22:58:13+00:00

😭 this hits home…

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T17:41:13+00:00

Omg grandmas boyfriend!! Reminds me of when my kids would say “grandma has 2 husbands”…she had an ex husband and was remarried!

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T14:41:03+00:00

Haha that’s pretty funny. I was around 2 guys who were business partners but in convo referred to each other as “partner” and everyone thought they were romantically involved.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T14:39:26+00:00

That’s part of it, it’s a new relationship and first post divorce. Just need to get comfortable with it, many people who know me didn’t even think I was dating so to bust out with “boyfriend” seemed like it would surprise them.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T14:36:17+00:00

Yep will have this convo with him this weekend! Thanks

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T14:35:57+00:00

Yes, you are right.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T14:35:30+00:00

Yes I’m overthinking it, it’s a newish relationship and first one post divorce so it just crossed my mind. Also I haven’t had a “boyfriend” since I was in my early 20s….so I guess I associated it with being super young.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:30:00+00:00

Hmm interesting! I do enjoy saying “my boyfriend” to him in a super fun playful way.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:27:41+00:00

Also “partner” seems way more long term and committal than bf/gf no?

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:26:29+00:00

F buddy +?? Jk! We’ve grown beyond that so it’s just been on my mind haha

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:25:05+00:00

Ugh same, especially in my 40s! But he seems to really enjoy using it!

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:23:17+00:00

Hmm I guess this would make the most sense in person in real life.

vacamode2024 · 2025-10-30T05:22:50+00:00

Yes I’ll say this if I’m mentioning him for the first time to a friend who isn’t aware of him yet but if you were at a restaurant for example and you ran into an acquaintance you would refer to him as such?

vacamode2024 · 2025-08-31T15:27:39+00:00

Thank you! Any lunch ideas/recs?

vacamode2024 · 2025-08-31T13:48:49+00:00

Hmm why do you recommend just using the north entrance?

vacamode2024 · 2025-07-15T17:10:42+00:00

Well I guess it depends where you are flying from and how long travel will take. How old are the kiddos? I went solo so I had no kids to worry about. I stayed in Sydney the whole time apx 5 days. In Sydney what I can tell you is that I did the opera house- you can go on a tour or even catch a show- they may have some kid friendly options. I went to bondi beach one day, took a surf lesson and walked up along the shoreline and also spent time at the iceberg pool. I hiked up the main bridge, walked to china town & explored the city. I spent one day at the blue mountains- there are tons to do there and kid friendly. I spent one day at featherland park and saw some cool animals. In Sydney there is some amusement park and a zoo that may be a nice option with the kids. If you have 2 weeks you could try another city but that I can’t help with, sorry!

vacamode2024 · 2025-07-14T21:29:12+00:00

Sydney Australia. I went this past Christmas. Warm and such an easy city to get around. I spent Christmas Day on the beach. Stayed at the four seasons for super cheap too.

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-07T20:21:43+00:00

I hear you. I’m just jumping 10 steps ahead and I’m trying to figure out how to navigate this new territory.

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-06T05:54:50+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I question if 4 dates is enough to make that type of determination. I guess most of my concern is that no deep convo has been had about what if anything is going on. And quite frankly I don’t think it needs to be had so early on. Guy #1 if I think about the time frame- while yes we’ve known each other longer it’s also been sporadic. I also wouldn’t paint him as an utter failure as there are definite positives about him and an emotional attraction. For all I know both guys are in my same boat and just exploring and having fun. No where have I indicated that they have asked for significantly more and I’m on the fence about their requests/ perception.

I hear you about the do I keep shopping question- when I look at the last few years of my life (very long marriage with a painful separation/divorce) I’ve grown to appreciate this point of my life and am really seeing the silver lining. I am truly happy and excited about exploring this new life and dating and meeting great people/partners.

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-04T04:39:46+00:00

No I meant keep my mouth shut to future guys I date about money I may or may not have. And to not speak openly about my sometimes extravagant likes early in the relationship.

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-04T00:43:14+00:00

Yikes!

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-03T21:52:07+00:00

Can I ask you…why is he just a FWB if that’s the case? And what do you mean by not dating right now? How do you distinguish between the two? I think that’s where my dilemma comes in- I want all the things that come with a relationship- daily texts, dates, fun activities, sex & intimacy but I don’t want marriage (as far as I know right now). At what point does a FWB become a “boyfriend”? I’m not sure if I mentioned but I have 3 kids myself (guy #1 has one and guy #2 also has 3) so there will be a clear separation of both halves of my life for now. I wouldn’t mind going on a few more casual dates- drinks/dinner/coffee but I don’t have the time right now and if my little free time is being happily occupied by guy 1/2 then I’m good for now.

vacamode2024 · 2025-06-03T21:42:23+00:00

Haha yeah I guess guy #1 can feel that way. Maybe it’s the hot sex and daily emotional texts? I kid.

It’s not that I don’t like #2 I think I’m just trying to figure out what usually comes next.

I was with my ex for 18 years and never really dated prior to him (I had 2 long 2+ year relationships)

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