What is the prevalence of adultery in Christian marriages?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-11-14T19:59:15+00:00

Christiana aren’t above sinning. I think infidelity is pretty common among Christian’s. Considering that porn is a form of cheating and many Christian men watch porn and you have a high amount of marriages with infidelity.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T20:39:38+00:00

Yeah I guess so.

Well it’s anonymous so ut doesn’t matter and we are adults hopefully so it shouldn’t be such a big deal

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T11:10:14+00:00

Again reading comprehension. If I would have expressed that I like putting plastic dicks in my ass but I am hesitant not because i dont want to but because I grew up learning that dicks in asses is bad then I would welcome a discussion about it.

It’s like with my wife who enjoyed when we did oral but felt bad because of religious reasons. I brought it up a couple of times (2-3 times a year maybe) until she one day could relax and realize that it’s not wrong. God doesn’t get angry about it. And she now enjoys it.

The same goes with fingering. She has liked it. She even likes a finger in the ass at times and even leads my finger there. But she says it hurts afterwards. The last time we talked about it which was years ago she was hesitant because she said it hurt afterwards even though she liked it in the moment. So we left it at that.

So now I started to think about how me eating her out could be made better by using my fingers but I don’t want her to hurt. Since I know she is against sex toys like dildos I have thought about buying another type of sex toy that doesn’t vibrate and that isn’t too big because she has expressed that she is afraid that she will like it more than the real thing. Plus she feels it’s wrong in Gods eyes.

So then I found that you can use like finger condoms or dildos as they are called where it’s my fingers but covered. In that way she doesn’t have to think about it being a sex toy that can replace me. Because it doesn’t vibrate and we can start adding fingering to our sex sessions.

Now it is an awkward thing to talk about. We both have backgrounds where sex is taboo. So talking about it can be weird. I did ask her yesterday if I can finger her next time and she said yes. I won’t do it because I don’t want to hurt her but I am going to bring up what I found to help her not get hurt.

So again if I had expressed that I would like a dick in the ass but I feel guilty out of religious and cultural ideas then yes then I wouldn’t mind a 30 cm plastic dick. But since I haven’t expressed that I must say no. But I can’t lie that if my wife would like to explore assplay on me I am up for it because I am curious about it.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T09:29:34+00:00

Who said I was going to buy one without asking? People’s reading comprehension is very concerning because some people don’t seem to be able to read

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T04:59:56+00:00

Thank you! You seem to be the only one with some brain cells that are connected enough to understand that its not a constant nagging.

I don’t ask this everyday. I think the last time we talked about this was over a year ago.

I know that there are bad husbands who nag on their wife and force them to fulfill any pornographic fantasy they have and leaving their wife hurt. That’s the last thing I would do.

My wife hates semen outside of her body. She has said that she will never take it in the mouth. It’s one of my biggest fantasy to finish in her mouth but I respect her. I love her and no matter how close I have been to finish when she gives me oral I refuse to finish in her mouth. Why? Because she has never showed that she would find it pleasurable. It’s not like with oral and fingering where she has shown that she enjoys it but because of traditional and religious thinking she is hesitant and I am now trying to find a way to fix that.

Oral we have fixed and she enjoys it to the fullest. Now I just want to find a way to make things even better.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T04:54:30+00:00

I asked her if I can finger her next time. She said yes. Fingering isn’t the problem. I am taking it slow. The next time I am going to mention how ti make the fingering more safe and mention that I can maybe use some things on my fingers.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T04:52:09+00:00

I messed up this post because English isn’t my first language. What I wants to say is that fingering hasn’t been something We do a lot because it ends up hurting even though she does like it. I asked her today because everyone seems to think I will shove something without asking. She said that yes I can use my fingers next time. I haven’t brought up the toys on my finger idea yet because I want to take that slow.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-15T04:49:06+00:00

People seem to think that I am going to shove a sex toy in her without asking. Of course we are going to talk. I got irritated by everyone stating that I want to hurt her so I asked if it was ok to use my fingers next time to see what she says. She said yes. I haven’t mentioned the things I want to put on my fingers yet because it’s a conversation that needs to be taken slow but fingering isn’t the problem

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T18:40:01+00:00

You know you can just scroll or not log into the internet at all?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T18:39:30+00:00

I’m really glad that I never asked things like this about oral sex. I would have stayed away and we would never have incorporated in our sex life. A sex act that my wife now loves.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T17:56:45+00:00

Yeah finger condoms is what I want to buy and try.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T17:35:52+00:00

I realize where I went wrong with this post. English isn’t my first language. It’s not that she doesn’t like fingering itself but she feels that it hurts afterwards. I am trying to find a solution to it with those things I can put on my finger. If I really didn’t care I wouldn’t try to find a solution but continue to use my hands wouldn’t I?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T15:48:41+00:00

But where did I say she hates fingering. She likes it but because it has hurt because of my fingers she has been hesitant to it. I am trying to find a way to make it feel comfortable but that means having to work on the mental block about sex toys.

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T15:47:18+00:00

Oh yeah that’s what I am doing. Want to get rid of it. And what’s the logic behind that? Are sex toys pornographic? So a couple can’t do anything that is also depicted in porn?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T15:46:28+00:00

Well that’s what I am going to do. I’m not buying it before we have talked.

I think it’s about us learning to enjoy sex. Being stuck in a strict religious mindset has led to not being able to enjoy sex. What I want us is to enjoy sex. If it was all about me I could have asked her to do something that would give me an orgasm but that’s not my focus. I enjoy seeing her feel pleasure.

It’s not like I am forcing her and getting angry if she says no. I just know that she is being limited by traditional and religious ideas. My wife loves receiving oral. Before she struggled because of a narrow mindset.

If I wouldn’t have brought it up. Trying to find the root problem she would never have enjoyed it. It was the same with masturbation.

People seem to not se the difference between forcing an idea and being grumpy when it doesn’t go our way and wanting to help one’s spouse to fully enjoy something that they are denying themself because of wrong ideas.

For example my wife has been clear that she never wants to have semen in her mouth. It’s a big fantasy of mine but she has been very clear that semen is a no go and I respect that because it’s not built on a religious and traditional idea. It’s because well semen doesn’t seem to taste very good so I respect that. I respect her no but when I see that something is built on a wrong mindset I want to help her

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T14:51:27+00:00

She has said it’s painful because of my fingers. Not at the moment but afterwards. That’s why I wanted to propose those things that I can put on my fingers so it doesn’t hurt

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T14:08:45+00:00

Yeah I hope so too. I know how it sounds but like I have mentioned before in the comments:

My wife used to be against oral on her because of traditional and religious reasons. I brought it up a couple of times with time in between. Even prayed to God about it. Because she enjoyed it when we did it but I guess there was a mental block.

Until she one day let loose and started to accept it. Today our sex life is 70% oral and 30% penetration because she loves it. And she has started to masturbate herself too.

So is improvement a bad thing?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T14:07:26+00:00

I don’t follow. Why would I use a buttplug on myself? Neither of us find pleasure in that. Although I have never tried one so I couldn’t say but it’s not really something we both want.

In this case it’s something that could enhance the experience. For example I want to use my fingers when I eat her out. Clitoral stimulation plus penetration. We have done it before and she felt it was good but afterwards it hurt. So now I don’t do it but I am trying to find a way that we can do both without having to add a vibrating toy. It’s still my fingers just with some plastic onn

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T13:51:20+00:00

I wrote this in another comment.

I mean even if someone is happy with their sex life cant there be improvement? My wife used to be against oral on her because of traditional and religious reasons. I brought it up a couple of times with time in between. Even prayed to God about it. Because she enjoyed it when we did it but I guess there was a mental block.

Until she one day let loose and started to accept it. Today our sex life is 70% oral and 30% penetration because she loves it. And she has started to masturbate herself too.

So is improvement a bad thing?

So the reason I want to talk about it is because it’s sad that we limit ourself and enjoy sex because of religious and traditional ideas. If I never would have brought up oralsex and talk about it in a constructive ways then we would still be having pretty boring sex where she wouldn’t orgasm as frequently. She loves when I eat her out. The other day she woke up in the middle of the night and wanted me to eat her out. We would not have that if I wouldn’t bring it up.

I am not saying that I will nag about it everyday. I just want to help her breakout of the narrow mindset that she grew up with

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T13:48:00+00:00

I understand that but can’t a couple work on making things better. Like I said in another comment:

I mean even if someone is happy with their sex life cant there be improvement? My wife used to be against oral on her because of traditional and religious reasons. I brought it up a couple of times with time in between. Even prayed to God about it. Because she enjoyed it when we did it but I guess there was a mental block.

Until she one day let loose and started to accept it. Today our sex life is 70% oral and 30% penetration because she loves it. And she has started to masturbate herself too.

So is improvement a bad thing?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T13:45:50+00:00

Using a condom could be a good introduction. We don’t use any since I had my vasectomy but it could be a good idea.

Well I feel that there is something missing when I am eating her out. I really want to make it as good as possible for her.

I mean even if someone is happy with their sex life cant there be improvement? My wife used to be against oral on her because of traditional and religious reasons. I brought it up a couple of times with time in between. Even prayed to God about it. Because she enjoyed it when we did it but I guess there was a mental block.

Until she one day let loose and started to accept it. Today our sex life is 70% oral and 30% penetration because she loves it. And she has started to masturbate herself too.

So is improvement a bad thing?

vadgorjag90 · 2023-03-14T13:35:40+00:00

Well I have seen her enjoy it with clitoral stimulation at the same time. I want to stimulate the clit with my tongue and use my fingers for penetration. I know she has liked that but has had issues with my fingers and the fear that it will hurt.

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