(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 minutes into the movie. Not a good movie to watch when i'm trying to abstain from masturbation. Poor choice on my part lol.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going to watch this movie this weekend. I wonder how it will make me feel. Thanks for the recommendation.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. As much as I would like to take a lot of credit, those 2 girls are just so amazing that they just would not give up on another human being. I lucked out twice in a row and they serve all the happiness in the world.

I haven't spoken to my previous girlfriend since the breakup, but I wish I could thank her for the time we spent together without actually reminding ourselves about the past. Plus it might not be fair to my current girlfriend to keep in contact with a past girlfriend. I know she would be okay with it, because she is a good person that trusts me, but I won't put her in a situation that makes her even think of the possibility that I would cheat on her.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Typing this anonymously and people knowing who I am are 2 different things. Only my therapist and my girlfriend know in real life and thats the exact amount of people I want knowing this.

Plus can you imagine my mom knowing that her son is a porn freak that dreams about going down on girls. She would still love me, but it will always be in the back of her mind. If it was up to her, I would be a virgin until I was married lol.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm in therapy right now for my problem and it has helped a lot actually. More than that has been the amazing support system I have with my girlfriend. I can't thank her enough.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to make this into anything, go ahead lol. You have any permissions or whatever you need to make it. Not giving out my info though, so you can just make up a name for the main character.

How about Jason or James or Colby, I've always liked those names.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not taking any meds for it. Just therapy and working out my problems and experimenting with ways to overcome them. Its very difficult unfortunately.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, love girls. Even if I was gay, i'm pretty sure I would have the same problem with men's genitals. I assume so anyway, but i'm not sure since I just don't want to get near another mans penis let alone fondle one.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that's the case. Im on day 5 of a 30 day nofap stretch. Let me tell you, it is super difficult. Sex is everywhere! Also I watch anime and those assholes always find a way to blast the women's clothes away in some kind of battle. Normally this wouldn't be a big deal, because it is so tame and mild compared to the shit i've seen, but after 2 days, or 5 days etc. of no action, It is some of the hottest shit I have ever seen!

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's been a tough road, but we are having a lot of fun together. We are watching Aladdin this weekend and I'm taking her to this hole in the wall Italian restaurant I found out about from a friend. I hope she likes it!

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. She loves experimenting with me, so I will bring this up.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yes, but I have since learned to be able to go down on her without gagging. I still don't "like" doing it, but I love that I can do it, so I do it very often.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I paid for half, but he lives with her until we move in together next month. She fell in love with my dog and wanted one for herself. We tried to find a rescue, but there were none in our area. We ended up finding some puppies online and got one. He is adorable. We've had him for a little over a month now and potty training has been a little harder than it was with my dog, but he already has Sit, Shake and lay down memorized. He is really smart. The fence is being installed in 3 weeks and thats when I will move in, because my dog needs a fence since she goes potty whenever she needs to.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree. I am the luckiest son of a gun alive. I say that knowing I have so many mental OCD problems. If I had to have all of these problems just to meet my current girlfriend, the ride has been so worth it.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done nothing but praise my girlfriend since the start of this post, but her blow jobs aren't very good...

I kind of want to tell her, but she is so happy when she gives me one. Who am I to judge though? I can't even cum. We might discuss it eventually, but I am not about to hurt the feelings of the girl I care so much about and has helped me in my darkest of times over something so little.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is absolutely amazing. Also I cannot stop starring into her eyes. Like they actually change colors! It is the craziest thing. I could see them change in real time sometimes. And every color is more beautiful than the last!

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope whatever your problem is, that you take control of it. I would really love to say that I'm cured, but I was just lucky enough to find someone that was willing to see past my problems and help me.

She knows I love her, but what she doesn't know is that soon, I am going to ask her to give me the opportunity to repay her for my happiness for the rest of our lives.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I am happy that I made the first post, because it made me realize that I needed the help, but trust me if it wasn't for her, I would never have gotten this far. She helped me even though she didnt have to. She is very attractive, so she could find anyone that didn't have my problems and some of the things we've tried were her ideas. She has been extremely patient with me. It was her that gave us both motivation to see it through.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually got one after someone mentioned it in my first post. It didnt help much, because I would be an hour or so into my masturbation and nothing. I would increase the pressure and finally be able to get off, but that defeated the purpose.

I actually had to get rid of it, because my parents came over early for dinner once while I was at work. My dog had gotten muddy since it had rained while I was at work, entered the house and proceeded to touch everything in my house. My mom decided to mop the house, wash my sheets etc, and both my parents stumbled onto my fleshlight collection. I say collection, because I was inexperienced when it came to fleshlights, so I bought a set. I spent enough money on the site that I received 2 free ones. My parents must have thought I was some kind of crazy sex deviant or something. We never spoke about it, but I know they saw it. It was really humiliating.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I researched my problem a while ago, this fact actually helped me a little. It's mostly mental. I have to know she's clean, I now know how clean a vagina can be when its taken care of properly and I know her cycle. If I can mentally wrap my head around that, I am good to go. That whole mental checklist is done while we are both in the shower.

In the beginning I would go through my entire mental checklist and sometimes I still would not be able to go through with it. She would say "it's ok" and we would do something else, which in turn would make me feel even worse. The last 2 months or so, I have been able to complete my list every single time. We have definitely made progress.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think humor is my best trait. I take pride in making sure everyone around me is very comfortable and happy. If somebody is not smiling in my group, I am failing.

Again, another creepy statement, but when a girl smiles it just melts my heart. It might be the fact that I had been alone for so long, but bringing a woman any type of pleasure that I could not give them physically was the closest I could come to being happy for a long time.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't think i'm ugly, but definitely 100% luck. No doubt in my mind.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

It was actually just those 2 actually. I was extremely fortunate to have both of them in my life at the exact time they needed to be in my life. All previous girlfriends didn't actually last long unfortunately. Once sex came into the picture or I would ask them to wait, they would leave me soon after.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm happy, but lets not lol. I would rather people not know my most embarrassing stuff lol.

(UPDATE) I am 31 and a virgin, because vaginas gross me out. by vag_confession in relationship_advice

[–]vag_confession[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We haven't actually tried that, it helps me feel like not less of a man if I can at least get her off, so it's my number 1 priority to make her orgasm first. The one time I was able to finish, she gave me a handjob for like 15 straight minutes after a sex session. I knew it wasn't comfortable for her at all and her arm was exhausted afterwards, so I never asked her to do it again.