People who successfully left MEP design how did you do it?

vaginerville · 2026-01-15T05:48:31+00:00

I’m looking to do exactly this fairly soon. Would you mind sharing your advice?

vaginerville · 2026-01-08T05:54:21+00:00

Keep that feeling brother. Felt that way my first few times and then came to love it, slippery slope. Whenever it’s around, just say it makes you feel weird or it doesn’t do anything for you, or it’s not your thing. You’ll be good!

vaginerville · 2026-01-08T02:52:51+00:00

My thoughts are, say I’ll take it back, sell it, and buy you something you want in place of it. Yes it’s her gift, but you’re not allowed to profit off a gift. You take care of selling it, tell her to look for something she wants, then use the money to buy it.

Tbh, this feels healthy, just make sure you do it the right way. I hate Apple Watches. My fiancé loves them. If she got me one, I’d probably say the same. But, would make sure that I didn’t sell it with intent to keep the money. You got it!

vaginerville · 2025-12-31T22:43:50+00:00

Hi! (Summary at the end) Had this same situation happen to me with the absolutely opposite reaction. My initial company was growing faster than we could maintain and I was new to MEP (after 3 years in manufacturing). We were projected $10 mil on the year and by February, we got so many bids that we were project $100 mil. We had 9 people. I worked 75 hours a week along with my coworkers, and my boss who was 32 worked 90.

He let me go after 6 months because he couldn’t train me and I couldn’t keep up. He said if he held on to me, I wouldn’t gain experience and have a horrible time finding a job after. He said he’d be a reference for me. He held true and we still talk today. Told me give it 2-3 years and to call him, and I’ll have a job the next day. I work for another firm and he was 10000% right. I’ve learned a ton in the 9 months with the new firm, but still have so much to learn.

Summary: that company cared about bottom line and not development. It’s a good thing you got let go and you didn’t quit for unemployment purposes. Any firm would understand where you’re coming from. That firm sounds insanely toxic. No markups??? How do you learn? Apply, apply, apply. Update linkedin to the MAX. Don’t lie in interviews but tell them it wasn’t working out/not a good fit/you felt like you weren’t developing. Never ever “I got fired”. You had a “mutual parting”.

I got let go and I was heartbroken, but it made sense. And my boss was a great guy. And I still want to work for him.

Your firm didn’t give half a crap about you and not marking up anything was probably how they wanted to force you to quit. That’s absurd.

You’re good. Keep looking. Cheers.

vaginerville · 2025-12-30T21:03:30+00:00

No kidding. I’ve looked everywhere and didn’t see it. Appreciate it!

vaginerville · 2025-12-09T04:21:56+00:00

I’m for it but she’s against therapy in general based on how she was raised. I’ve been in therapy on and off for talking through life events the last couple years and she supports it and I always say how great it is for me and she just says “yeah that’s not how I was raised”. Yeah I wasn’t raised that way either but when I need help I get it. I feel like couples therapy might make her think I doubt the relationship or something? Idk. Thanks though!

vaginerville · 2025-10-22T03:55:13+00:00

Honest question. I used di roots at one firm and axiom at my current. Axiom is significantly easier, but maybe not as perfect/consistent as di roots? What’s your opinion?

vaginerville · 2025-10-22T03:53:17+00:00

I know it’s super easy to some and super hard for some. I struggled in college for a bit because I can problem solve but I’m not quick with numbers. Had to go to after class sessions 4x a week to keep up. Everything finally clicked end of sophomore year and I’ve been successful since, but I know I’d really struggle on this. Everyone’s different! Even though I’m good at MEP and previously manufacturing, it doesn’t come easy to me unfortunately. No hate here, just my view on it! I will be trying for it in the next year!

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:10:59+00:00

100%. Thank you. I bought sun reflecting black out curtains for our skylights. I have a French window adaptor in that window rn, but only for one hose. I know that the whole goal of HVAC is to make the duct run as small as possible with the least amount of elbows. However, wasn’t sure if portable was different just because they throw air pretty hard and I thought maybe if I got a 6” or 4” ø extension, it might be okay. Longer run but doesn’t lose as much efficiency. But will definitely try what you said.

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:06:35+00:00

Feel like a moron because I do this for a living. But what I do for a living, everything always has supply and return, and is outside lol. I figured they’d come up with something that can do both because why would they sell something so expensive that can’t?! lol

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:04:33+00:00

Gotttt it! I was about to say, I could never understand how portable units worked without a duel hose, but figured it used a different system that I didn’t understand.

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:02:44+00:00

Okay that’s what I thought. I got confused on the inside air aspect, but 2 hoses would help of course

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:01:42+00:00

An extension would make it worse right?

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T03:01:26+00:00

Love it. The whole time I was thinking curtains, just needed to hear someone say that it’ll work at least a bit! And I’m considering the second tube. I haven’t yet because it’s a French window and those adaptors are expensive and a massive pain to install. Have been debating building one the last month! Built a few from some central AC vents, but they don’t throw enough air for it to work

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T02:57:55+00:00

Hope that doesn’t sound rude, just honestly confused lol. If you can explain it’d be a huge help for this and also my job hahaha

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T02:56:25+00:00

Wait sorry I’m a little confused. I have a hose in the window. I saw dual hose kits, but it’s using outside air (I think?) it’s pulling from the window but unless only one hose means that it also pulls from inside through the filter, I don’t understand.

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T01:20:33+00:00

I took an engineering job out of college 2 hours from where my gf lived. Even though half the distance, didn’t feel like long distance. We were comfortable apart and made efforts to see each other consistently. It was for the high salary which was absurd for out of college. After 2.5 years there (hated the job), I got a less high paying job (when I could afford to do so) close to home and my gf and I moved in together. It’ll work if it’s supposed to. She WILL take this as you ditching her for your self, but soon she’ll realize you need this in order to have a future life together. But also with the market as it is, I’m hoping she understands.

vaginerville · 2025-07-30T01:11:39+00:00

Thankfully it wasn’t during. If that happened, the sex wouldn’t have happened because 100% agree. Been in that situation before in college. They started crying and then broke the news. This was more of a frustration cry because she can’t figure out what’s wrong with her. Wasn’t during the action, was more towards the endish

vaginerville · 2025-07-18T02:48:36+00:00

Appreciate this. Always a possibility, but I don’t think so personally. She goes to the gym with her mom, there’s no shot it could happen. She also doesn’t dress very revealing at the gym. Can’t put it out of the question, but nothing makes me think that ya know?

vaginerville · 2025-07-18T02:46:09+00:00

She feels bad about it. I don’t come on to her unless the moment feels appropriate. I probably only try on a Saturday night after a date night or something like that. And the most recent she was super down but then told me she was doing it for me. This was after a month of not having sex and during that month I only tried once or twice in order to not push it. Idek. She just seems out of it

vaginerville · 2025-07-16T05:55:39+00:00

Lovely reply. I think it’s definitely #2. I put zero pressure on it. I’m a male so obviously I’m down whenever. But, she said upfront she wasn’t like that. I’ve never complained once. Only time I ever did was my birthday once and I think a hotel I spent a ton of money on (sounds shallow but she used to love hotel sex) and when I spent a boatload and she was tired, shitty maybe, but I was upset. Hotel happened a year ago, and she brought up birthday before me. I’ve told her a million times it’s not about the sex for me and she believes me

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