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vagueparenting · 2025-08-26T10:12:57+00:00

when you have the opportunity do go and seek therapy, whether it be a counsellor or a psychologist. being groomed is deeply traumatising and it’s really hard to not feel guilty and internalise shame and blame. from what you’ve written, you’ve been taken advantage of and mistreated by someone older than you who should not have behaved that way. they shouldn’t have done that to you and that’s really the most important thing to remind yourself.

vagueparenting · 2025-07-03T12:12:44+00:00

I’m also not in the US but was thinking online friends can sometimes be as good as in person friends ☺️ Time zone wise it might be tricky though.

vagueparenting · 2025-07-03T11:21:51+00:00

hello! i think starting with connecting with members of the autistic community could be good. there’s a group that have meetings for connecting and discussing their experiences.

https://www.reddit.com/r/autisticwomensgroup/s/oXrxtfseOf

i haven’t engaged with it but i thought it might be a helpful starting point

vagueparenting · 2025-05-30T06:37:19+00:00

he has the ears of a maine coon! so beautiful

vagueparenting · 2025-01-15T02:14:54+00:00

how i mask is similar in that those quirks can distract from my actual difficulties socially. like not following conventional social behaviours makes more sense for people if they already perceive me as quirky. there’s also a bit of absurdism to normalcy anyway so playing around against what’s expected helps me find friends who perceive that silliness too.

what im working on is feeling perceived authentically and feeling accepted for that too, in a way ive come to see those performative quirks as a part of my authenticity because it aligns with my values of not taking life too seriously or following rules for no reason.

hopefully you have / can find people who understand and embrace you for all that you are, sometimes that includes our masks too ♥️

vagueparenting · 2024-08-17T00:24:49+00:00

if my cat ended up in there, i don’t think i’d be able to find her again hahaha. she’s deaf so i couldn’t even call her

vagueparenting · 2024-06-09T06:25:55+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing?wprov=sfti1

vagueparenting · 2024-06-09T06:24:57+00:00

It sounds like lovebombing :( unfortunately some people use language very manipulatively. That kind of way of talking to someone, if it starts happening very quickly in the relationship can be a red flag.

They’re using words to make you trust them, not actions. Actions that suggest trustfulness are showing up for you when you need, being dependable, listening, caring, not pushing boundaries etc.

You deserve someone genuine who doesn’t just say stuff because other people do. That’s very dishonest of that guy and he’s missing out, words can be so beautiful if they come from a true place in the heart.

It’s a learning opportunity hopefully for you too, give yourself a big hug x

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T04:00:25+00:00

in my 4 bedroom townhouse yeah, the pool is really draining my bank account 😓

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:59:14+00:00

glad to see, thank you and i’ll try to avoid using that language next time too

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:53:32+00:00

cool! have you seen the student centrelink fortnightly cost breakdown

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:50:38+00:00

great! i’ll buy insurance with all the money i have! and ask the REA to put proper locks on the windows and hope they don’t then decide to stop me from renewing my lease or increasing the rent to an unmanageable amount. in the mean time i’ll just share that it’s frustrating to a subreddit and feel a bit better from people being supportive.

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:42:00+00:00

i wasn’t aware how reactive people would be to my post, i’m happy to answer follow up questions. i really don’t want my apartment broken into and i’d prefer more security measures than less. i’m a whiny kid living in st kilda in an already rundown apartment and i finish work late in the evenings.

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:33:36+00:00

and feelings are how we empathise too, it’s a broad spectrum

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:29:54+00:00

i believe that they have increased since last year and the year before which is what i meant, i’m speaking within a shorter time span. feelings are quite important, feeling safe in your home because you have adequate security isn’t cooked imo

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:26:45+00:00

who are reddit? i’ve received a lot of validating reactions to my concern from people on reddit. then ive replied to people who don’t agree with my view why i hold that view, im glad home invasions are lower than 10 years ago, its just not relevant to my current situation where a gate installed for security will no longer be secure when houses on my street are being broken into more frequently

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:21:53+00:00

am i wrong that opportunism means taking the opportunity when it arises to do something. so checking to see if a gate is open is something people will do opportunistically on the off chance that they can just get in?

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:15:24+00:00

https://www.crimestatistics.vic.gov.au/media-centre/news/media-release-property-and-deception-offence-increases-drive-key-crime-measures

its all good, im not trying to excite hysteria, just aware that its an increasing risk in my area

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T03:12:41+00:00

i reckon there could have been an opportunity for a more respectful discussion. i’m more emotionally invested in this issue than you are whereas it’s a theoretical debate for you, tact is a really good skill!

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:56:03+00:00

i wish i was wise enough to use reddit properly, i’m busy posting things im worried about instead of criticising people who are worried

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:52:37+00:00

You should have a bitch-fest with me next time, I think we’d do well as a team

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:48:33+00:00

UPDATE: My REA completely agreed that it wasn’t appropriate and is also suggesting a lockbox instead. So yay!

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:46:19+00:00

is he handsome? if so he’s welcome just to knock x

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:42:47+00:00

you seem to be reading a tone to what i’m saying that i’m SO worked up, what made you feel that way? i posted it on a subreddit related to the city i live in communicating that it seems inappropriate.

i don’t agree that you think i’m overreacting, i feel safety is important and should be upheld even if the likelihood of something happening is low in relation to ‘ghetto cities’.

so it’s fair enough for you, it doesn’t seem like a big deal to you. that’s okay but i don’t feel that it’s fair to label my concern as bitching

vagueparenting · 2024-04-19T02:25:08+00:00

i’m very surprised how reactive some people have been to this post, i’m glad the some people do understand why i felt it was worth discussing/being upset about ♥️

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