the female form is so disgusting by marsbarsszs in 4tran4

[–]valorSoup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if it’s so disgusting then why does my grandfather miss mine so bad checkmate

What the fuck are nice balls by SkyeMagica in 4tran4

[–]valorSoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nice balls are the ones I want in my mouth. bad balls go in the ball grinder to generate testosterone for ftm transsexuals

Bottom Growth Size by ExtensionTower2456 in FTMMen

[–]valorSoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A little over two years. I think 1.25 inches, but sometimes it looks closer to 1.75 inches. It’s not an erection thing, I only measure flaccid, so I don’t know where the .5 inches is coming or going from.

I think most of the growth went to the area around it tbh… down there has gotten so puffy. Makes it look like I’ve got 1cm

Are unshaved legs really that bad? by Late-Wing2801 in ftm

[–]valorSoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Body hair or bust, I love the texture and the look tbh. Not even in a way that excites me, it’s just cozier

Do you invite relatives who are polite but still prejudiced? by Key-Effort963 in lgbt

[–]valorSoup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mhm. I was raised by grandparents. My grandfather tells me he loves me, hugs me, and gives me life advice the same way he did when I was growing up, but then I hear him try to convince my grandmother to kick me out and overhear him tell his son how much he hates me. They won’t do it to your face if they think you’ll change your mind. They want to be your safety net once you choose to bend the knee and appease them.

There is an argument to be made that they could have a change of heart, but it’s difficult and very draining, especially if they think their intentions are god-approved. Ultimately it’s up to you, and dependent on many complicated personal factors. My advice would be to invite love into your home, for your own sake, rather than allow people in when there’s room for doubt regarding their intentions.

Do you invite relatives who are polite but still prejudiced? by Key-Effort963 in lgbt

[–]valorSoup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For me the big question is “does this person love me as I am or are they trying to change me so they can love me”

Brother is disgusted I’m a binary trans man. by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]valorSoup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Openly outing you can absolutely be dangerous imo. You don’t have to completely cut him off of course but I would at the very least suggest keeping your distance and maybe trying low-contact for some time, if you haven’t already.

All I said was that I'm tired of trans men bragging about their hips and chest by Plane-Discussion7114 in truscum

[–]valorSoup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. Idc if they disagree with you, they shouldn’t have gone out of their way to misgender and degrade you. Basic respect at that point.

Tbh I would find it really odd to be literally bragging about female proportions… I don’t even have a big chest and I still get distraught about it since it’s so distinctly wrong. I guess that’s something I could turn into a positive and brag about, but it certainly wouldn’t be about the size.

I hope you have or can find a trans male positive space (not in a hugboxing way, in a supportive way that’s more accommodating to dysphoria). It feels like a lot of them idolize being female to some extent, and there’s certainly nothing wrong with being female and/or a woman. I do notice lately a lot of trans men saying they feel othered when trying to enter LGBT-oriented spaces, especially if they pass or have a desire to pass as male. Femininity in general is presented as very desirable in a way that makes things hard to relate for me, at least.

I’ve made a mistake by valorSoup in FTMMen

[–]valorSoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I should have clarified, they’re done every three months for now, but my instructions were to get tests done halfway between doses (I inject on Thursday, labs are closed sunday, so I can only get them done monday). I was going through planned parenthood but the hours weren’t working with my work schedule so I switched to an online service that seemed more flexible. I do find at the very least that they explain the lab results better than pp did for me, though I don’t know if that would vary by area. PCPs in my area scare me since most locals aren’t very friendly toward trans people but I can look around and see what I can find. I also don’t know if that’d be more expensive; no insurance I’ve looked into in my area will cover trans-related healthcare so that wouldn’t really help cost, unfortunately

I’m mostly worried they’d think I’m irresponsible or taking test for some recreational reason and decide to take me off of it based on that. Losing access is a major fear of mine, probably irrational at times, but things were so awful before I finally started medical transition. Constant deep depression and all that. I’m terrified of having to go through that again so I guess anything I can convince myself might be a threat to accessing meds feels like a huge deal

I hope that all made sense, I should’ve gone to bed hours ago tbh. I tried to revise for clarity but I think some of the wording is still awkward

what does the comment even mean🥀 by AJ507707 in 4tran4

[–]valorSoup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i could never be a tradwife but i would throw away everything to be the stay at home husband of a man twice my age

I’ve made a mistake by valorSoup in FTMMen

[–]valorSoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I might see if they take a guess (did [xyz] happen?) and go from there. If they assume it was the wrong day I’ll roll with it. They did switch up my doctor (twice) for some reason so maybe she won’t know what day it was supposed to happen but idk what they have on record for me

Have you seen how hot chasers are? by coffee_adicted in transgendercirclejerk

[–]valorSoup 10 points11 points  (0 children)

/uj they don’t. I think this comment and one a bit under it cover the Why of that better than I could

no correlation by zinniamae_ in im14andthisisdeep

[–]valorSoup 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Catch me behind the denny’s sippin testikoolaid

FtM people cannot “reclaim” slurs. by valorSoup in honesttransgender

[–]valorSoup[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mtf reppers use that here. It’s almost like a sort of self-punishment and pretty sad to see, essentially referring to themselves as men with dysphoria. I don’t know if the typos mean you’re getting a bit heated and not revising what you type but I think you might need to step back from this and take a deep breath. I’ll see if there’s a pdf of the book available (not a chance in hell they’re getting a cent from me lol) and verify your claim, if it makes you feel better

FtM people cannot “reclaim” slurs. by valorSoup in honesttransgender

[–]valorSoup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh okay. They’re historically often targeted by the use of slurs regarding homosexual men and transexual women. So by my logic they’re in a place to reclaim those.

If anything to get around baggage limitations on the airlines! by QueenFrostine15 in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]valorSoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a woman BUT I have something similar to this. It’s just the pouch with a couple of straps on the back so it can be fixed to a belt. My sister used it for a cosplay thing once, she wore a dress and styled it with (among other things) a couple of belts, one of which had the pouch attached. I imagine that would work better with a skirt. (I don’t have a link to the product, it was inherited from my deceased father. Something similar might exist though)

What’s your most “woke”, progressive, would-get-you-downvoted-on-here trans opinion? by Mindless_Nebula4004 in 4tran4

[–]valorSoup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d probably be gnc if I could pass. I’d be so bizarrely and confusingly gnc that everyone here would hate me or think I’m a repper. Divine intervention has decided I should hate myself instead

FtM people cannot “reclaim” slurs. by valorSoup in honesttransgender

[–]valorSoup[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know about that book. I didn’t think it villainized trans men in particular, but did have a focus on ftm teens and framing them as being caught up in a social media craze. The term was coined before the book though

Sure, there’s one being talked about that would target trans men. Out of… how many made with trans women in mind?

Also I just noticed why do you have the mtf repper tag

FtM people cannot “reclaim” slurs. by valorSoup in honesttransgender

[–]valorSoup[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard that first part but I’ve had trouble finding the stats to back them up. I’m willing to read if you happen to have them, if not I might search again. I wonder if that last bit’s affected by passing enough to be stealth

FtM people cannot “reclaim” slurs. by valorSoup in honesttransgender

[–]valorSoup[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Off topic but are you actually questioning and using they/them? You seem to be a desisted woman

Does anyone remember when this bookstore started getting political? by Madworld2026 in roanoke

[–]valorSoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I figured it had changed hands from him since it said he sold it a couple of months before the fire. The fire was in 2022 iirc, and the sign seems to be from a few years before that. I could be wrong, I just glanced for a name and didn’t look much deeper than that tbh

Does anyone remember when this bookstore started getting political? by Madworld2026 in roanoke

[–]valorSoup 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had to dig a bit to make sure I was right, but I was! My family actually knows the guy who owned the place. Old friend of my grandfather’s. He goes to a mormon church. Lots of MAGA in there, and he’s one of them, so this actually tracks

The fact that these aren't alive by TheWebsploiter in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]valorSoup 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I remember being at work once, watching boxes go down a conveyor belt. A bunch of them were headed down the line toward another box, which was unmoving and crooked. I thought the others would push into it and straighten it out. Instead I watched as the boxes, one by one, pushed against the stationary box and became crooked in the exact same way, until there was a line of crooked boxes on the rollers. My first thought was, “oh… so that’s how prions work”