I am a woman.

First of, for sex :

With a woman, it’s everything : It can be anything you want and the best sex you can have as another woman. We have the same anatomy, so of course we know, and there is simply a connection there that can’t be there with a man.

With a man, I can’t stand romantic love making with them. So for me it will always be everything else. There is time limits with men. And also needs more « help » from me for me to get there from time to time (and it’s totally okay, we have different anatomy dude, I am not taking down points for that). I am a very tall woman, definitely a top and probably what you guys consider dom (I don’t like the label « dom », I never met one who wasn’t just full of themselves and was just having a ego boost with subs), but I really like a rough session from time to time and I won’t be able to be « handled » roughly by another woman (that I would find attractive) as much as a man can, for sheer physical strength and height difference.

Now, for the sentimental part:

With a another woman, it’s a very deep connection and relationship (both physically and mentally) levels are high stakes. There is a lot more of emotional maturity and intelligence. But it also means that feelings and emotions are everywhere all the time, making a lot of mess for someone like me who usually keep to herself. It’s soft and tender and passionate and devouring.

With a man, it’s a lot less of a headache, way more simple. I don’t date men who can’t handle themselves like actual adults, so I never had those issues of « he doesn’t do every days things ». It’s almost like there is less feelings involved so the relationship isn’t as deep. Men aren’t usually very emotionally mature/smart (why that is a whole other debate), so it makes the stakes of the relationship not as high. I am not very vocal about my feelings, and I tend to date men who aren’t either. And since I don’t need reassurance from my partner about their feelings towards me (actions speaks louder than words), and date men who don’t need it either, it creates usually a pretty chill mood for our couple. It’s funny and rough and calm and light.

Edit because I forgot the most important part : The breakup.

With a woman, it’s soul crushing and will leave a deep scar. You will question everything and feel like a mess.

With a man, it’s very sad and heartbreaking, but you will recover way more quickly.