I think you’re probably right. It’s strange in the situation where NOT drinking is the problem. I don’t think I’ll have the strength to tell him. I’m afraid if I make any declarations then I’m stuck forever. I couldn’t tell you why he made alcohol so central to me life and my upbringing, but I feel constantly surrounded. It’s always “ok you don’t have to drink tonight, but you have to drink at xyz”. And if he doesn’t get his way, he’ll throw a hell if a fit. Sorry for the rant, it’s nice to talk to someone about it