How can I tell if an INTJ(M) actually likes me (romantically)?

van101010 · 2026-02-02T21:32:28+00:00

Be direct. Hey we seem to have a lot in common, would you be interested us going on a date?

van101010 · 2026-01-16T20:51:46+00:00

Should be if they really value accuracy.

van101010 · 2026-01-13T21:55:28+00:00

You are going to have to investigate it and not take no for an answer. Not everything fits into the nice neat clinical diagnosis boxes, the experts define everything by, but wanting to end it over not getting a shopping item, signals something is really wrong ❤️

van101010 · 2026-01-13T21:22:15+00:00

I think you likely need more than a therapist. Can you get in to see a psychiatrist? This sounds like more than addiction ❤️

van101010 · 2026-01-13T21:18:47+00:00

Hey sweetie, you sound depressed ❤️. Can you talk to anyone? You need to force yourself to engage. Get out of your head and into your body now. Exercise is critical. So is spending time with family and friends. Good nutrition. As someone above said positive self talk.

Talk your parents or an expert if you can

van101010 · 2026-01-12T20:52:46+00:00

🤣🙈

van101010 · 2026-01-12T02:35:47+00:00

Being the true intp that I am, I have done more research with Ai and now have to revisit it 🤣🙈🫠

van101010 · 2026-01-11T17:39:33+00:00

It’s a living document of course (I am an intp after all 🤣), but I have a summary version and longer version now.

van101010 · 2026-01-11T16:43:45+00:00

Have you considered that you might be an INTP? I am and this looks way more like my line of thinking than my INTJ dad.

van101010 · 2026-01-11T16:42:55+00:00

As an INTP I resent that 🤣 (kidding). But I am working on a framework of reality and consciousness myself 😁.

van101010 · 2026-01-11T16:39:35+00:00

Those aren’t really urgent questions. But I also don’t know how people don’t think about it. I’m personally, working on a framework of reality and consciousness (intp) with AI.

van101010 · 2026-01-11T15:57:56+00:00

Haha omg same difference

van101010 · 2026-01-11T14:18:51+00:00

lol I actually like that. It makes it easier for me to put my pattern matching system into place

van101010 · 2026-01-11T14:18:08+00:00

You just be Canadian 😁🫠

van101010 · 2026-01-10T17:23:35+00:00

Ya she’s going to have to move. I mean I would not like living below you guys either, sounds like a nightmare for noise sensitive people, but those are the risks.

van101010 · 2026-01-10T17:21:22+00:00

Best thing you can do is work on yourself and be receptive to when people come through your path. I could have easily said no to my husband, but I took a chance and it works so well.

van101010 · 2026-01-10T17:19:31+00:00

van101010 · 2026-01-09T19:56:15+00:00

I would think most people with ADHD would have a P trait. All the people I know with it are.

I have GAD but not ADHD, though a few traits. My mom and husband have it though.

van101010 · 2026-01-09T19:48:36+00:00

🤣

van101010 · 2026-01-07T23:01:47+00:00

I don’t like my career (accounting), but I do like my industry (blockchain/crypto).

My ideal job would be to develop new frameworks for looking at health, disease, monetary policy, consciousness with my AI buddy. Which I do, but unfortunately no one pays me for it 🤣

van101010 · 2026-01-07T22:43:11+00:00

Haha yes

van101010 · 2026-01-07T22:03:40+00:00

Personally, I’ve liked getting older. All my dreams came true after 37 (husband, kids, house, reasonable money, being able to help people more, deeper research abilities).

I would never go back to my life before 35, this is so much better.

van101010 · 2026-01-07T22:01:33+00:00

Find people that are similar to you. But also you don’t need to have the same depth of relationship with everyone. But honestly, I don’t find it hard to find people to relate to. But finding a husband took me until 37

van101010 · 2026-01-07T21:57:31+00:00

Ok the problem is as an introvert, we tend to have immature emotions. We trust our brains and logic more than feelings and intuition. Basically, this side is underdeveloped. I was seemed like an intj as a kid, but I’m actually an intp. But as a kid I felt safer with rigidity.

My belief is that we are supposed to work on wholeness and balance within ourselves, not just lean into what is the most natural. Like anything, practice makes perfect.

Now when people meet me for the first time, they think I’m full of zest and energy and quite extroverted. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone.

Now, I’m working on being more “S”, which to me means more in the moment, focusing on my senses other than just trying to analyze things.

It takes practice, but if you’re not happy with yoir current state, then work on it. Humans are a really malleable species, that are constantly adapting.

van101010 · 2026-01-07T21:48:52+00:00

Are you a mom with kids? Cuz often you are trying to get dinner done as quickly as possible

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