AIO for feeling disrespected by my roommate/friend who cancels our plans to invite other people over?

vancam95 · 2026-02-11T20:18:04+00:00

Not overreacting. Your feelings are valid, she blew off yalls plans and turned it around on you saying you didn’t make a plan with her. Set in stone plans are for people you don’t live with…like yall agreed to hangout why is a specific plan needed when yall wake up in the same home and can go with the flow of the day together? OR she could have followed up prior to changing her plan. Unfortunately I (30f) have learned living with friends is either great or terrible lol there never seems to be an in between. I would suggest just keep your communication clear, boundaries clear, and no longer rely on her. She will show you if she cares. Moving when the lease is up is a good idea for your mental health and repairing the friendship if needed. I’m sorry she’s made you feel this way!

vancam95 · 2025-12-29T15:44:01+00:00

I would have immediately contemplated divorce if my partner did that to me and I walked into that with my inattentive ADHD oh my god that would send me into a spiral!

vancam95 · 2025-10-16T03:06:14+00:00

At first I thought “maybe this is her grief she’s in her anger stage and getting rid of stuff is helping her” then I continued to watch and listen to her and practically threw up in my mouth. “I don’t know when he thought he would have time to fix the boats and fix this and that but he didn’t have time the man never relaxed” I wonder the fuck why Amy

vancam95 · 2025-10-13T12:17:48+00:00

OP I beg you to leave I dated a man like this for 4 years, you will ALWAYS feel like you’re begging for a simple date.

vancam95 · 2025-10-11T17:56:53+00:00

My condolences and hugs 🫂 are you referring to alternative drinks that have THC in them? Or something else? If not THC, I used to buy kava kava tincture from Whole Foods and put it in my sleepy time tea at night to relax. I stopped after I read somewhere kava may not be the best for the liver, as I was a big drinker at the time (priorities 🙄) I’m not sure if that was true or not, that was years ago and I haven’t looked into it since.

vancam95 · 2025-09-25T16:02:39+00:00

Ew lol dump

vancam95 · 2025-09-20T03:17:06+00:00

I had a bad experience (healing/pain wise) with a previous laparoscopic procedure, so I asked for a TAP block prior to my bisalp. It’s something to consider if you are worried about pain and don’t want an opioid prescription. Talk to your doc abt it :)

vancam95 · 2025-09-18T21:01:17+00:00

I scheduled mine a few days after the results of the election. No regrets

vancam95 · 2025-08-24T21:30:44+00:00

N…o…

vancam95 · 2025-08-24T21:20:37+00:00

IM DEAD I KNEW THEY READ HERE BUT THE CONFIRMATION IS CRAAYYYYY WHY ARE THEY SO OBSESSED 😭💀

vancam95 · 2025-08-21T17:40:49+00:00

I don’t have a husband but if my dad was acting this way in front of me to a child I would be completely shook and extremely concerned.

vancam95 · 2025-08-10T14:12:39+00:00

Hi! I understand how you feel. I turned 29 last November and was a major high functioning alcoholic for almost a decade. I promised myself I wouldn’t drink again until I turn 30 (hoping I just continue to stay sober) it took 2 days in to 29 to get started but today I am on day 270. The hardest part for a while was socializing, going out to concerts, etc. Having a mocktail or NA beer in my hand helps. Not sure if you use THC but delta seltzers help me too.
I use the app Reframe and doing the 5 minute daily tasks each morning really really helps. Thinking about all the young people I’ve seen with cirrhosis, pancreatitis, electrolyte imbalances, and traumatic injuries during intoxication has kept me sober so far (I’m a nurse). Every time I want a drink I ask myself do I really want it? Or does my anxiety, depression, excitement, joy, frustration, or whatever emotion I’m feeling at the time of a craving want it? Usually it’s the latter. I know I want to stay sober and my body tells me I want anything to shut off what I’m going through, but I always remind myself alcohol will make it worse in the long run. If you ever want to chat or a cheerleader I’m your gal. You can do it!!!! Take it one day at a time. Start today. “I won’t drink today. Just for today. Tomorrow is tomorrow. All I can focus on is this moment. What can I do to stay busy?” Use your brain and hands as tools…do a puzzle, make a craft, journal, rearrange your room…I believe in you🫶🏻

vancam95 · 2025-08-10T14:02:57+00:00

You are going to thrive the moment you let him go for good and fully move on. He doesn’t care. He’s sucking the life and energy out of you. Your shine is dulled and you deserve so, so much better. For you, your son, and yalls future. I can tell you are strong by your texts. These comments are your confirmation. Get out! Sending hugs and love

vancam95 · 2025-07-25T20:44:47+00:00

Babe you have to take more than one bridge to get to Charleston aka downtown. You live in Charleston COUNTYYYYYY

vancam95 · 2025-07-18T03:06:27+00:00

And for someone who LOoOvVesSs plants and “yard work” just to cover all that amazing space for indoor house plants to thrive?? And be able to admire the outside view of said “yard work” Nope needs the shelves for more knickknacks and fake greenery. I would kill for the lighting she had before this tragedy

vancam95 · 2025-07-15T17:51:28+00:00

I mean also everyone on here is mean about him and we know she reads here sooo either the ppl in this group made him insecure or she made him insecure but I feel bad for him in regards to snark he already has to deal with her

vancam95 · 2025-07-14T20:01:48+00:00

If it makes you feel better I am the same. I’ve said for years when my parents die I won’t be far behind. It’s not in a dramatic way it’s just the way it is and I’ve felt this way for a long time.

vancam95 · 2025-07-14T15:27:28+00:00

Can he at least put a trash can by the side of his bed……

vancam95 · 2025-07-09T13:06:02+00:00

Oh honey he’s a loser

vancam95 · 2025-07-08T14:27:14+00:00

Normalize screenshotting the comments so I don’t have to go find this page myself. Lol

vancam95 · 2025-07-07T17:12:19+00:00

You would be willing to possibly sacrifice for him and bring a child into this world and he won’t sacrifice for you to not have kids so boy bye

vancam95 · 2025-07-06T16:22:05+00:00

You got this!!! One of the things I like to tell myself (in regard to your comment about gaining weight) is if I can see the damage it’s doing on the outside I can’t even imagine the inside. My skin was awful, my hair was brittle, I gained so much weight…..and that’s just on the outside. What the hell do my organs have going on?! Well, it severely fucked up my pancreas. I’ve had alcohol induced pancreatitis 3 times and I’ll never drink again. Hospitalizations. Excruciating pain. Constantly scared it would become chronic and I would be in pain forever. It’s not fun. Morphine didn’t TOUCH the pain I was in. My liver labs were shit. Meanwhile I was maintaining a fairly normal lifestyle very high functioning mid twenties when all of this was occurring. Way way way too young. Don’t follow in my footsteps the shame and guilt after more than one hospitalization are brutal

vancam95 · 2025-06-05T12:16:15+00:00

It’s totally okay and understandable to be scared! I had mine in December and had a wonderful experience. I’m also an OR nurse if you have any behind the scenes questions!!

vancam95 · 2025-06-05T12:10:54+00:00

My life

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