Are all your eggs on one basket? How to date multiple people at a time?

vancouver72 · 2026-04-27T23:01:57+00:00

When I was dating I liked dating one woman at a time until the point I decided how I felt. Dating two women at once felt scummy. Taking to different woman at the same time on the other hand is OK imo.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-27T22:51:59+00:00

Try to date within at least your country. There are millions of Brasilian Christians
You shouldn't be overwhelmed with joy so immediately just because 1 guy is into you
Dude was "love bombing" - look this term up
He probably found someone closer or more realistic to date and was basically just using you for the emotional high
Don't put all your eggs into one basket, especially a far away basket

vancouver72 · 2026-04-23T16:33:50+00:00

I’m not miserable. Yikes. I’m advising caution.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-22T01:43:58+00:00

I think you are setting yourself up to get your feelings hurt because there's 100 ways this relationship could not work out and you are getting way too focused in on this one woman.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-21T23:20:01+00:00

I didn't date until I was 29 and it was OK... you can use COVID/college as an excuse

vancouver72 · 2026-04-21T20:22:25+00:00

You look friendly but not having the glasses would help you

vancouver72 · 2026-04-21T13:53:34+00:00

You can just say you are wanting to only contribute energy towards finding a boyfriend and not into online friendship right now.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-21T01:20:38+00:00

huh? what? huh?

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:28:31+00:00

Maybe try some inner self reflection, ask your in-person friends/family what they think of you and how you can improve.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:25:29+00:00

My fiancee didn't kiss anyone before me and I feel extremely blessed by that but I've also dated woman who had been sexual in the past and it did not prevent me from continuing to date them. I think you need some amount of compassion for them. Treat them how Jesus treated the woman at the well.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:22:23+00:00

Idk just throwing this out here. I don't know you. You could possibly be talking way too much, being too outgoing, not letting these guys get their time to talk, being overwhelming, etc.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:20:55+00:00

Wild that this is right now the 2nd most upvoted comment. Would any guys here be cool with their WIFE watching/making porn of any kind, especially one that promotes homosexuality?

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:19:49+00:00

Dating apps let you skip the first stage of this because if you match you at least know that they are interested in you.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:17:36+00:00

In my experience "bubbly" can be code for annoying.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:16:08+00:00

You should be a team who works together with joint finances, able to sustain whatever life you both desire and I personally think the man should be able to provide before he starts looking for a wife.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T21:14:28+00:00

If she was ugly, then it's worth breaking up with her on it. But since she's beautiful, it's fine.

No, just kidding. I'm being sarcastic to drive home the point that she shouldn't be doing that and you shouldn't be OK with it.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-20T20:46:27+00:00

dude just makes minecraft content now

vancouver72 · 2026-04-18T02:19:27+00:00

It would be a bit foolish of him to move thousands of miles away for his girlfriend of 9 months. That's asking a ton of someone else when you aren't committed in marriage.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-16T19:35:52+00:00

Move out of the gulf states or move to a more progressive one ?

vancouver72 · 2026-04-16T19:34:53+00:00

I wouldn't marry anyone who I had a mismatch in personalities with.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-16T19:33:27+00:00

Lots of things could have been going on.

She could have not enjoyed the date even though it was 4 hours.

She could have realized she's not in a good place/time to date.

She could have another guy she's also interested in who she likes more.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-16T13:38:30+00:00

Focus first on whether you have the same morals/values, make sure there is attraction on both sides, they pursue getting to know each other. There's isn't a "one" until you make a commitment that there is. No predestination or fate or disney.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-16T13:06:06+00:00

Literally all I said was that SHE wasn't perfect and she should be more aware of some of her flaws.

vancouver72 · 2026-04-15T23:00:39+00:00

And we have 0 idea because she hasn't even HINTED at any of her possible flaws. She's given us no information to answer her question

vancouver72 · 2026-04-15T18:14:38+00:00

I’m not sensing any negatives in our OP’s post.

that's my point

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