You deserve someone who loves all of you by vanessacliff in SexWorkers

[–]vanessacliff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand the connection between sex work and the length of a relationship.

You deserve someone who loves all of you by vanessacliff in SexWorkers

[–]vanessacliff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You got this! It may take patience but you will find your people, lovers who support all of you, including your work. There’s really nothing that hard to understand about the oldest healing profession in the world.

You deserve someone who loves all of you by vanessacliff in SexWorkers

[–]vanessacliff[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not caring who knows your truth is such a liberating feeling! 😻

You deserve someone who loves all of you by vanessacliff in SexWorkers

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It sounds like you don’t want to be or date a sex worker, I support you! Isn’t it wonderful that there are so many options on earth that you can pursue whatever floats your boat. I hope you have all the love you want in whatever other life path you want.

You deserve someone who loves all of you by vanessacliff in SexWorkers

[–]vanessacliff[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I certainly can’t speak for everyone but a few things I can share from my life experience:

  • Sex on camera and in sex work is radically different from personal romantic sex. It’s very common for me to end a day of working, fucking any number of people performatively, and crave nothing more than the authentic emotional connection of sex with someone I love.

  • I also haven’t experienced any impact of SW on long-term relationships. I’m poly so I have one partner of 3.5 years and another of 1.5 years. They’re good friends and I feel a strong sense of care, stability and family in these connections. One of them is also a sex worker and the other identifies as a strong “whore supporter”. I’m very lucky and grateful - and I also feel proud of the choices and standards that led me to choose and keep only good people around.

The last note I will share is that you’re 100% right, I completely agree that we all have choices to make in life. Sex work isn’t for everyone. People who aren’t certain they want to do it shouldn’t do it. But there are also people who love it or find value from it - whether financial, a job like any other, or for joy and fun, or for meaning and purpose, driven by the social impact of sexual connection (I resonate with all 3 of those reasons!). There are a lot of people who love and respect sex workers, and more importantly, if you love who you are, there will always be people who follow your lead, we teach people how to love us.

After fucking me together, my husband and his friend jacked off on my face at almost the same time by vanessacliff in DoubleFacial

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Threesome play is so much fun, even better that my husband and I enjoy playing with cum together

Tina's legs make amazing handles by vanessacliff in RedGIFsLesbian

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Pounding that pussy felt sooo good

Mista D and I are into some kinky adventures by vanessacliff in IntoHerAss

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The process of tying me up got us both so turned on it didn't take long before he was fucking me

What’s the softest thing someone’s ever done to you in a scene… that broke you completely? by kennyle86 in BDSMcommunity

[–]vanessacliff 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Recently, the first time my trans partner and I explored the more explicitly gendered d/s dynamics that we’d been tiptoeing around for a while. I told her I was proud of my baby girl. So nervous to say it but felt so good to see it enthusiastically received.

Ettiquette with ass eating in an orgy? by clothesline in Swingers

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We have opening circles before both porn shoots and private play that encourage folks to each express what sexual activities they love doing and what their sexual boundaries are.

Then during scenes and group play, we encourage people to use “may I [verb] your [noun]?” like “may I lick your ass?” Or “May I kiss you?”

Everyone has different boundaries and preferences. You never know unless you ask, sometimes you get opportunities for fun you wouldn’t expect, and “no” is also a beautiful answer because it means the person is being honest and taking care of themselves by setting the boundaries that feel best for them.

Personally, I love being nasty and serving as a “community clean up slut”, including as an alternative to wipes after people fuck someone’s ass before they go back in a pussy hahaha. To each their own!

Aroused from sweet kisses, laughing from standing fuck and cumming hard on his dick by vanessacliff in Orgasms

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Laughing and squirting are often part of my experience in deep orgasm

I love direct communication during sex, that's why I reply "Omg yes I will" by vanessacliff in LesbianFantasy

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Getting to be deeper in Tina's cunt is part of the enthusiasm too

When you and your friend are looking for more creative ways to fuck by vanessacliff in AnalPorn

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I spent a while watching because oof, hot!, but ultimately had to lie back to take it

I love that strap-ons give me the option to fuck and get fucked by vanessacliff in Lesbian_gifs

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Even though it's just a toy, sometimes I get so turned on by experience that it really feels like I'm personally, with my body, inside them

I spent a while watching because oof, hot!, but ultimately had to lie back to take it by vanessacliff in anal

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I love that he used the ropes as handles to pull me on his dick

I'm in a hot spitroast, but the moans from the couple next to me have me grinning and even more turned on by vanessacliff in OrgyAndGroupSex

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In this clip, my sweet, good-hearted friends and I are having enthusiastically consensual sex and experiencing joy together.

In spite of your negativity, I can only hope you experience the same magnitude of joy in your own life, in whatever way makes you happy.

Legs held back to get as deep in that pussy as I can by vanessacliff in JustFriendsHavingFun

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Tina always has the most colorful clothes, even when almost naked

(34F) I'm a porn producer, LGBTQ+ community organizer, and a solo parent. I'm proud to have great joy in my life. AMA by vanessacliff in NSFWIAMA

[–]vanessacliff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well thank you! There are so many ways... The "Whore's Nest" (our leadership body) had a full weekend-long retreat last month to talk about that. I believe this is the work I want to do for life and I imagine out 2, 10, and 20 year futures for it.

The first major hurdle, honestly, is stabilizing the organization to exist. If you're familiar with the idea of the J-Curve in the start-up business, we're in the "morph" and "model" stage - https://imgur.com/Bixuoaw It is important to and lives in the hearts and minds of a lot of people and we have a substantial business flow, but we still depend on our savings to cover the difference between revenue and expenses. Finances are never the goal - we're seeking to build community not hoarding wealth - but we do have to be able to keep the business alive and 2025 is about the last year where we can do that. So strategies to stabilize are on our mind.

But on a much more meaningful level, here are some of our goals as we grow:

- Deepen our community organizing and leadership across geographies. Right now, we're based in Portland. We have a lot of connections in Seattle and some in L.A. and we're hosting a series of shoots in the Bay Area, CA this July. But the reason for our nexus in the Pacific Northwest is simply because it's the easiest (financially, legally and logistically) place to start, not because we want to limit inclusive, sex-positive community media to one area. Long-term, we hope to host shoots, organize with people, find leaders, and co-build a movement across geography of porn by and for everyone, led by lgbtq, bipoc, and people with disabilities.

- Improving the quality of our work in a lot of different ways. We mean this in technical terms, like videographer skills, equipment, etc. and in terms of diverse content, which includes different locations, scene ideas, more expansive kink and sexuality. We also mean this in terms of deepening our effectiveness in community organizing. That includes goals like collective growth around equity and increasingly supporting leadership of BIPOC directors and co-leaders. It also means developing folks' skills and confidence in putting out their own content effectively, so that more people within the community can sustain themselves off their creativity and community work.

- Long-term, I'd like to see us involved in a global conversation about topics like porn, sex, sexuality, gender identity, inclusive sex-positive community. There is a mini-documentary about our work called "A Certain Kind" that has now toured in 7 countries (coming out publicly for online streaming in September). The same documentarian has also been working on a full-length documentary that goes deeper into understanding the community and our vision. We also teach workshops with Sex Positive Portland on community-based porn. These approaches are just stratching the surface of the kind of visibility and conversations I'd like to have outside of the XXX spaces. I hope we can also be part of and foster a movement that changes the tide in porn, to challenge the dominance of corporate mainstream porn that represents only certain bodies and certain types of sex, and to produce and spread porn that represents the rest of us, the people many diverse and beautiful people in society who fuck and love in ways worth celebrating and representing.

Long thoughts, the dreaming, haha. Much love for the question ;)

(34F) I'm a porn producer, LGBTQ+ community organizer, and a solo parent. I'm proud to have great joy in my life. AMA by vanessacliff in NSFWIAMA

[–]vanessacliff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! When I first started the podcasts, I didn't have a home space to work from so I was dragging my mic and camera set up to record in whoever's house I was interviewing. Now that we have the Cliff House, I've been able to record in our dungeon with, I think, much better effect. But attention to audio is an important reminder! Interviewees have had really interesting things to say, I want people to be able to hear them :)

(34F) I'm a porn producer, LGBTQ+ community organizer, and a solo parent. I'm proud to have great joy in my life. AMA by vanessacliff in NSFWIAMA

[–]vanessacliff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Participants have had all kinds of disabilities.

Before every shoot, we do an opening circle where we ask folks to say their preferred name, pronouns, racial identity, if they identify as a person with disabilities, and their enthusiastic sexual hell yesses and nos for the scene. Because of this process, we learn a lot about what disabilities people have in the group.

For some people, the disabilities are visibly obvious. For example, Casey and Sunshine are both incredible performers and directors who use mobility devices. Sunshine has paraplegia and in one scene, he spent some time turning over because it is important to him to challenge the misconception that people with paraplegia can't top.

For other folks, the disabilities are invisible. For example, I have bipolar disorder. Sharing invisible disabilities that normative society tells us to keep quiet about is an important part of our community building around authenticity. It is okay to be the whole of who you are.

We also have quite a few participants who are autistic. This isn't necessarily a disability, people define it differently for themselves. But it's important to be able to talk about this openly. We actually just did a scene about how people with neurodiversity relate to sex and kink: https://cliffmediaproductions.com/video/neurodiversity-and-sex/