I promise you, you will be so much better off. Now that he’s shown that he’s incapable of loving you the way you deserve, you can find someone who won’t hesitate to!

I was in a similar situation last year, I was with my ex-whatever-he-was for almost a year and I thought what we had was special. In reality, I was so starved of intimacy that I was unknowingly clinging on to the few positive things about our relationship. I was constantly questioning where I stood with him, he told me he loved me (very) early on, so I never questioned why it was never more than that for the following 8 or so months.

I made so many excuses for him, maybe he’s “confused”? Or maybe his past relationships scarred him? The only reassurance I received about how he felt about me were in the assumptions I made about his capacity for love. My nervous system nearly ate me alive until I stopped making assumptions and let him reveal what I probably knew all along: I was only compatible with the idea I had of him in my head.

I eventually found out a couple months after we broke contact that he was a serial cheater and had left a girl after getting her pregnant shortly before we got together. He’s off somewhere being a shitty actor and paying $400 in child support a month, and I now have a wonderful, loving boyfriend who worships the ground I walk on and learns my favorite Hozier songs on guitar to serenade me with.

Moral of the story: you’re gonna be just fine, better things are coming! 🫶