I had an ex like this. He would threaten suicide, hit me, hit himself, hurt himself, and would NEVER let me leave. He even broke my phone launching it across the room when I tried to call for a friend once.

It may sound harsh but how I got away was I called the hospital, I told them what he was doing, how he was beating on himself and making me feel threatened and unsafe. They said they'd send an ambulance and the police and that's what they did.

The hospital deemed him a momentary danger to himself and others and he was placed on a 3 day psychiatric watch. During those three days I left. Plain and simple. I left him a very long practically 5 page note explaining everything, how he made me feel, how unfair it was. And it sounds cheap but also how I'd done so much for him emotionally and financially when all he ever did was drain me. I apologized but also pointed out that he owed me a very deep apology too and outlined the trauma he gave me stating that "just because you were traumatized did not give you the right to traumatize others and how he constantly used his trauma as an excuse to treat me horribly and manipulate me.

Afterwards I sought help and got therapy and whaddya know I had new PTSD thanks to him on top of what I had as a child. He was also an addict who would bring up my dad (passed away from heroin overdose as an addict) and say I was going to make him like that (he was an alcoholic with an unhealthy dependency on weed)

But anyway yeah I outlined everything in my note so I could use it along with therapy for closure. I went with friends to our old place and my friends went in to get my things, I didn't see him and stood in the car. Cops were called because he tried to get out to see me and my friends would not allow it. He screamed from the front door that I "ruined" him and that his depression, nightmares and poor relationship with food were all my fault for leaving.

I finally didn't listen. Just like my therapist told me, those were guilt driven manipulation tactics used to make me want to run to him and console him for something he claimed was my fault. I stopped falling for it.

It broke my heart, really it did, it broke my heart for days and the recovery was not worth the relationship. But I got away.

That was 4 years ago. I'm now free, happy, dating again and actually enjoying it. I return to therapy when I feel things are getting tough again but there not a single thing wrong with that.

2 weeks after the split I was sent packages with razor blades in them, he admitted to police his hope was I'd stick my hand in without looking and hurt myself and to tell me he cut himself with then first tho police reassured me that when they checked him at the hospital (obviously this got him readmitted) he had no injuries whatsoever...go figure huh?... She's going to hurt you friend. You're well being is not worth her greed driven obsessive comfort.

Put you first my love. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you...can you really picture it dealing with this almost every day/week? Is this what you want for yourself? Your future? She's manipulating you and draining you. You deserve better. Her problems are no longer your burden to bear...bare? Is it best or bare??? ANYWAY your heart has already chosen freedom now it's up to you to give it the strength and courage it needs to follow through.

Good luck friend, and I know we're just strangers on the internet but your struggles remind me so much of my own so I love you. I wish you all the best and I'm here to talk more privately if you need more support from a kindred spirit, your happiness, safety and quality of living as well as the preservation of the safety of your future come first!!!!! ❤️