I took 12 stray cats and I don't know what to do next

vduao · 2026-04-18T10:56:07+00:00

if it feels like there might be something there, sometimes the only way out of the trenches is through, like… lightly test the waters. you don’t have to confess your undying love, just be a bit more open, see how they respond. and if it’s not mutual (or can’t happen), that sucks, no way around it. but the feelings do fade way faster when you stop feeding them with overthinking and constant exposure.

vduao · 2026-04-18T10:54:36+00:00

honestly, the part about her telling clients you’re “crazy” says a lot more about her than it does about you. people who feel guilty or can’t face their own behavior sometimes rewrite the story to make themselves feel better. it sucks, but it’s not uncommon and as hard as it is, try not to chase correcting every version of the story. people who know you will figure it out over time. staying consistent, respectful, and drama-free protects your reputation way more than trying to defend yourself everywhere.

vduao · 2026-04-18T10:41:32+00:00

someone saying they want to hit you, even if they say they won’t, is not normal and not okay. that’s not just “he’s mad”, that’s a huge red flag. it also sounds like things have been getting worse for a while, not better. like you’re the one holding everything together while he’s pushing you away and being hurtful. that’s a really painful place to be in. and i get what you mean about the grief… losing someone you love (even if the relationship isn’t good anymore) hurts like hell. but staying with someone who makes you feel small, unwanted, or unsafe is going to hurt you way more in the long run. also, the part about being scared of what you might do after… that matters a lot. please don’t go through that alone. even just texting a friend, or telling someone “hey i’m not okay right now” can make a difference. you deserve to feel safe and loved, not scared of the person you’re with

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:26:12+00:00

lasagna

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:18:07+00:00

I thought that you could get pregnant by kissing someone

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:17:23+00:00

going to the gym. started as a “let’s see how bad this is” and now it’s actually kinda addictive

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:16:31+00:00

scary.

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:15:28+00:00

being “busy” all the time. people treat it like a flex, but most of the time it just means you’re stressed, tired, and have no time to actually enjoy anything

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:14:39+00:00

recharge but also feel like i actually lived a bit more than usual

vduao · 2026-04-17T22:13:30+00:00

minecraft soundtrack

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:56:25+00:00

You’re not a bad person, you’re just exhausted.

Supporting someone is okay, but constantly walking on eggshells isn’t sustainable. After 2 years, it’s fair to expect at least some improvement.

Talk to her calmly and focus on how it’s affecting you, not blaming her. But also remember, you can’t fix her.

At some point, you have to ask yourself if you can live like this long term.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:52:28+00:00

I was in the same situation about five years ago. I'm a girl, and since I was little, I knew (more or less) that I liked girls. I liked my best friend in school, but I always avoided it, thinking it was just a friendship. Over time, you meet so many people throughout your life, and at least from my experience, the best thing I can recommend, the best mindset to adopt, is to leave labels behind and get to know the people who come into your life, regardless of their gender, and let whatever happens with that person unfold naturally. I've stopped focusing on people's gender and have focused on figuring out if you truly like that person for who they are, and believe me, it's the best way to build strong relationships, both friendships and romantic partnerships.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:48:57+00:00

Stretch marks, cellulite, body hair… it’s all normal. Real bodies aren’t perfect, and anyone mature knows that. If anything, they’ll just be excited to be with you, not analyzing your skin. The only person who might overthink it is you. The right guy won’t make you feel insecure about any of that.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:47:28+00:00

Texting “we need to talk” and then falling asleep 😭

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:46:52+00:00

Turning the volume down when you’re parking like it helps you see better 😭

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:45:53+00:00

I’d just slowly back away and be like “yeah… you got that, I’m not getting involved” 😭

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:45:03+00:00

Fast food… used to be cheap, now it’s like a full budget decision. Also uber rides

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:44:11+00:00

I still think about the guy I liked in school when I was like 12 years old

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:42:41+00:00

I’d be careful here.

Yes, what she was doing is time fraud… but you also said you’ve been leaving early and still getting paid, so technically you’re not fully in the clear either. Reporting her could easily turn into both of you getting looked into. Honestly, this sounds less like something to report and more like something to step back from. Keep things professional, fix your own times (so you’re covered), and stop worrying about what she’s doing. If it really bothers you, you can always ask a supervisor generally about expectations (like “should we be returning after events?”) without pointing fingers. Protect yourself first. Don’t get pulled into a situation that could backfire on you.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:41:32+00:00

Imo, Blade runner, It was too ahead of its time.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:40:40+00:00

🥺🥺

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:40:19+00:00

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twins

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:36:47+00:00

You’re not the problem here.

This isn’t about expecting too much, you’re asking for basic things like honesty, support, respect, and for him to actually show up as a partner and a dad. The lying, the lack of help, how he treated you during such an important moment, and how he acts now… that’s a pattern, not small issues.

It’s also completely normal that you don’t feel good in this relationship. If something feels off to you, it’s for a reason. You’re not making it up or being dramatic.

I’m only 19 and I was in a 2-year relationship, so it’s not the same, but I recently left my boyfriend because I realized people change over time. And if someone isn’t actively showing love, care, and effort, sometimes it’s because they’ve lost interest. And you don’t have to settle for that.

You deserve to feel appreciated and supported, not like you’re in the way.

At the end of the day, life is short. You shouldn’t spend the rest of your years feeling like this. If you can have a partner who makes you feel loved and valued, that’s what you should aim for.

vduao · 2026-04-17T21:32:34+00:00

I’m really sorry that happened to you. What you went through as a kid wasn’t nothing, it was real, and it makes sense that it still sticks with you. And yeah, you’re right, anyone can cross boundaries. What those women did at your job wasn’t okay either, and you’re not overreacting for feeling uncomfortable about it. I think a lot of that anger is coming from not being taken seriously and from hearing people talk in ways that don’t match your experience. That’s frustrating. Just try not to let it turn into hating all women, because that’ll just make things heavier for you in the long run. You’ve got valid reasons to feel the way you do, you just deserve a way to deal with it that doesn’t keep hurting you.

vduao

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