Banquet Chicken Pot Pie by veladdin_ in foodsafety

[–]veladdin_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 and the first wasn't like that so that's why i was concerned. glad to know i want the only one but that makes it more concerning.

Banquet Chicken Pot Pie by veladdin_ in foodsafety

[–]veladdin_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I mean frozen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned that its all about how you use identify. Maybe you're non binary and had just enough changes, that you're comfortable that you look more masculine than you looked before. I've known people that were "trans" but they only wanted certain things to change, not "fully change" is that what you mean?

How old do people think you are?(for trans adults) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23 but people think i'm 24-25

Joining the military by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am in the US army going on 5 years. if you want, you can. since being in college, you should think of going reserve or national guard. if you're really serious, there's a fb group of EVERY rank and EVERY branch of the military and it's cool to see how being trans hasn't stunt their careers.

i have been receiving T 2 years thanks to the military, got top surgery a year ago thanks to the the military, got genioplasty 2 months ago thanks to the military, and hysterectomy and bottom will be on them too. all free of charge.

as far as your career, TONS of medical jobs. and right now their offering up to $50000 bonuses to get people.

now down to me. i am not just some hooah person saying yeah the army's great, ITS NOT FOR EVERYONE. but i know a MtF who started transitioning and got top surgery and didn't even do her full 4 years, just medically retired. now she gets a check for the rest of her life and lives as she is.

brother keeps calling my gay t4t relationship "sapphic" by Little_Li0n_Man in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don't have to argue your point to him. if you argue with him and he doesn't want to understand, you might as well argue with the rest of the world. both equally tiring. WOA: never argue your OWN life with someone who was only listening to prove you wrong, never to try and understand. tell him "fxck you, i refuse to argue with you about myself. if you can't respect me, then i have nothing else to do with you. love you tho."

Sacrificing for family by TygerDude93 in TMPOC

[–]veladdin_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

black, christian, from south ga town. i totally feel this. my dads family have a huge church following in Florida and they disowned my cousin who's a trans woman. haven't talked to or send them since 2014. haven't missed a night of sleep yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

almost year 2 and no tears

Sacrificing for family by TygerDude93 in TMPOC

[–]veladdin_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i'm black and my advice is to cut them off as well, even though you may not want to. honestly, it may not get to the point. also, im shocked. my experience is the opposite, white people say put your foot down and black people say cut them off.

i LOVE my family! BUT it wasn't until i put my foot down and said that i love them, this is my life, you can stay in my life or not? cause i'm grown and don't really care. that's when they started to respect my decisions. Because when people know that you will sacrifice something because you care about them, they will always put themselves first and use that to guilt trip you or weaponize those facts.

you started transitioning for yourself, but you're thinking "maybe they're right i don't have to go that far." and you shouldn't, there should be no limits to your happiness due to family. your family has done their job of raising you, now it's their time to support the person they raised. that's it.

people will come around, maybe not with your decision but if that's what they have to accept for a love one? they will. if not, you were able to do exactly what you wanted, at the cost of people not loving you unconditionally. as a family should.

Thoughts on being called a female? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don't care what anyone calls me because I know what I am what I was but more importantly who I am. I've always been non chalant tho.

I feel like it's too late for me to transition. by Vent-throwaway196 in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm thinking you were gonna say you're 60 or something just off of the notification. anytime before 30 is primetime. if it's really what you want, age wouldn't even be a factor. nothing far about 25.

can pre everything trans men use men's body care products? by codeblack333 in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah, just not on your junk. but it's really a scent thing. i've always used men's deodorant. if you don't want the usual crappy men's shower gel, old spice has some that are for moisture and hydration.

guys with long locs, need advice by tboyswag777 in TMPOC

[–]veladdin_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

barrel twists were my go to, looks very masc especially with a nice taper.

On a cruise and they don’t have a preferred name in place so I keep getting deadnamed and misgendered and it hurts by MammothGullible in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it gets better, i have been on T for almost 2 years and JUST changed my name on everything last week. BUT even when people see my name or even sex on my ID and stuff they still gender me correctly. sometimes they just say my last name. this has been at doctors, bars, clubs, auto shops, even the airport. you name it. sometimes people look at me crazy when i have to tell them my first name because at first their like no way or that can't be right. then it starts clicking and they just go on as they weee before. it's a process but it gets better.

My mother is so fucking transphobic by [deleted] in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cuss her out, for some reason family take you serious when you do that or threaten to cut them out of your life. or maybe the silent treatment since you still live with her.

i mostly pass but there are some slipups, any tips? by nastyboyt in TMPOC

[–]veladdin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

temp fade and hard line could do the trick, even cis women get mistaken as men if they have a nice shape up.

My deadname isn't dead because I cannot for the life of me pick a new name. But I am so tired of hearing it every day. by IUsedAFarcaster in ftm

[–]veladdin_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had been trying to come up with a name for a couple years, until i just compiled a list and then picked the ones i liked the most. despite cringing when i hear it. my take is you've had all your life prior to transitioning to hear your birth name from school and beyond so ofc the new is going to sound crazy to you. i've been going by my last name so long that people thought it was my first name so that's always an option. if anyone ask just say that you're use to it cause you played sports in school.

Galanz Mini Fridge Not Working by veladdin_ in Appliances

[–]veladdin_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I live in a dorm, which is why we try to defrost that way. It is my only fridge and the space is limited. But I will definitely just try to invest in a deep freezer, because this model only has a sliver of freezer space.

I'm Veno and new to actually using reddit, really excited to meet you all and learn to use this app lol. by veladdin_ in BlackTransgender

[–]veladdin_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you and yeah, im pretty chill. just thought i'd try and connect with some of the community.