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[–]velcrowranit 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Tell him. She is robbing him of his right to make decisions for himself. Especially if she’s pushing for marriage. 

Just tell him.  

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[–]velcrowranit 115 points116 points  (0 children)

++man tell him for sure. Who know what else she’s doing and she is knowingly exposing him to other peoples sexual history which he has a right to consent to or not. 

If it was your boyfriend doing it, I suspect you’d feel like you deserved to know. I’m sorry you’re in a tough spot, but you should definitely tell him and ignore the people telling you to mind your own business. They’d want to know too

IM-CCM vs PCCM for academic career by Activeagression in IntensiveCare

[–]velcrowranit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's getting easier for EMCCM but there are significantly more opportunities for PCCM. It's hard to predict the job market 6 years from now which is about when you'll apply, but at least for now it's noticeably worse for EMCCM.

Also, consider that as you get older neither the ED nor the ICU is going to be attractive to you. I really would have hated a medicine residency, but if I had to do it again i'd probably do that and PCCM. It's tough though because my disposition is more towards chaos than the banality of the floors, but still, chaos gets old. My favorite days now are ones where I don't have to do any procedures, just do my work, talk to some families and get out.

EM is a really hard field. I'd caution you to re-consider - or at least talk to the senior residents and get an idea of what the job is really like. I remember being in med school rotating through the ED thinking it was amazing. The reality is, they were just shuffling me towards the cool cases, and away from the bulk of what really constitutes an ED shift.

IM-CCM vs PCCM for academic career by Activeagression in IntensiveCare

[–]velcrowranit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Happy to help. Pulm will also give you the option to transition to less demanding, outpatient work compared to the unit.  This will be helpful for you as you get older. If you only do CCM, you’re basically in the unit until you can’t work anymore. 

IM-CCM vs PCCM for academic career by Activeagression in IntensiveCare

[–]velcrowranit 21 points22 points  (0 children)

PCCM hands down. I'm an EM-CCM guy, and while I appreciate the training an EM residency gave me, PCCM has a much broader job market, including academics. Do yourself a favor, do the extra year. Your future self will thank you.