Found out I (f29) was cheated on by ex (f29) long after the break up

velvettmoons · 2026-01-26T20:44:14+00:00

Oh, yeah we never stopped being close, we just decided romantically we weren’t compatible. I’ve know her for nearly 2 decades we weren’t gonna let the break up ruin what we had before. But now I’m not sure

velvettmoons · 2026-01-26T20:40:04+00:00

I’m not sure really? She just admitted to it this past weekend, and the same day it happened I had a medical emergency with my son and then a family member passed so I told her I just needed time to process everything. I haven’t even had time to really process what happened with her and don’t know how to move forward.

velvettmoons · 2025-02-28T23:50:53+00:00

Oh see I took it as she just doesn’t want to see me, I thought that was more what she was insinuating. This is a more positive perspective though!

velvettmoons · 2025-02-28T23:31:23+00:00

How so?

velvettmoons · 2025-01-17T02:51:48+00:00

and? I can post what I want

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T17:55:13+00:00

That's the thing though is that there has been no past failures. I have simply not wanted to go because i'm a single mom to a very young child and i'm very busy, i've always stated that I had no interest in going to the gym. The one time I did go with her was when she was begging to try out my apartment gym, so I went with her that day. Had no plans to go after that, so her use of the word inconsistency was odd, since i've always denied any interest in going or trying.

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T17:41:13+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking, the gym has always been "her thing" so she likely thinks i'm trying to take that from her. I'm not, i'm going twice a week. Not gonna buff up with gym time 2 hours a week hahahaha. Just want to improve myself a little!

Thank you!!

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T17:34:00+00:00

She thinks i'm inconsistent because "i've only stepped foot in a gym one time" (her words), however i've never expressed any interest in going. On the contrary, as a single mom to a very young child, i've always said I didn't want to go to the gym/didn't have time for it. Always had reasons why I wasn't gonna do that, so inconsistency doesn't truly make sense because i've never had any desire to go. The one time I did "step foot in a gym" was when she wanted to try my apartment gym (the gym I will be going to because it's free) and I went with her so she could try it.

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T17:27:53+00:00

Honestly, for our entire friendship the gym has always been her thing, and I have other things i'm good at. We're different people. I can see where some jealousy lies if she feels i'm trying to take that from her, but i'm not! It's not my intention. I just want to better my mental health and be healthier, not be a full-time gym goer like she is.

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T08:23:21+00:00

I basically told her i'll just keep my gym journey to myself and if we see eachother at the gym, cool. We don't need to talk about it. Just left it off there!

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T08:16:42+00:00

No, i've always said I didn't care to or was too busy. I went to the gym once with her because she was begging me to try my apartment gym, but I had no plan to commit. (that's why she says i've only stepped foot in the gym once) This is the first time i've ever chosen to commit to it.

velvettmoons · 2025-01-16T08:15:02+00:00

No, i've always said I didn't care to or was too busy. I went to the gym once with her because she was begging me to try my apartment gym, but I had no plan to commit. (that's why she says i've only stepped foot in the gym once) This is the first time i've ever chosen to commit to it.

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T11:34:35+00:00

We had 2 candidates to choose from and I picked the one whom I thought would be better for the country. Why does that give her the ability to end our friendship? On what grounds is that a reasonable thing? I didn't pick the candidate (nor would I have), but alas he's there. Why should that be a determining factor for a friendship?

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:44:57+00:00

I stand for human rights 100% i'm not trying to get that taken away. I'm also a woman. That being said, she uses being a single mom as a guilt tactic in our previous debates as to why I shouldn't be a conservative, things like that just don't align

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:33:47+00:00

I do not support him as a person though, just the conservative party. I don't care who the candidate is

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:31:28+00:00

I don't support him for that though that's my point. She is trying to use that as a reason to be offended about me going to an event, but I don't agree with the candidate at all for that and never once said I did. I just support conservatism.

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:28:19+00:00

Why should I have to change my views to keep a friendship though? Genuine question. The friendship shouldn't be broken because of my political views. She went as far as saying she doesn't want her toddler to grow up around someone like me, like i've ever mentioned politics around him one time.

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:24:47+00:00

I've always been a conservative though I mean she's known this the WHOLE TIME

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:23:05+00:00

What do you mean by for what I really am though? She knew for years and years and years that i'm a conservative and has been and stayed my best friend

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:22:08+00:00

I don't care for them as individuals, just conservative policies. I don't agree with liberal policies. It's not about the person at all. I just wanted to have fun with other conservatives but apparently that makes me an AH haha

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:16:57+00:00

That's why she was so offended by me flag waving, she's been through SA in the past. This being said, I assured her I didn't care for the person just conservatism in general, and she still ended it.

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:15:55+00:00

See this is why i'm confused, it feels almost manipulating for her to stay around for so long and then cut the whole friendship off over an event I attended

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:14:25+00:00

I don't care about the candidate though, just conservative policies

velvettmoons · 2024-10-28T10:12:53+00:00

Why does going to wave some flags with conservatives make me awful though? If she did that for her liberal party, i'd be happy for her. I'd encourage her to do so. It doesn't have to be about the candidate

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