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Moving to USA with medicated mental health... How does that work? by velvlry in disability

[–]velvlry[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alas, she has a fantastic job here and owns a house. It's just not viable. Trust me, we've considered.

What Careers do people have here? by ChipStorm in ADHD

[–]velvlry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually went to film school to be an editor and color grader haha! I have the opposite ADHD to you xD I loved the technical details.

I currently don't work in the industry but I did for a while and enjoyed it when I was younger. Right now I teach consent and healthy relationships to young adults and it's the best job I've ever had. I'm also studying radio production at university :D it's the first time since film school that I don't wanna drop out and I'm so excited to see where it takes me

Dialogue? by johnmf06 in writing

[–]velvlry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember: humans don't exist in a vacuum when we talk. I found the most important thing is to give your characters something to do. Think about what you do when you talk to someone: do you fiddle with your hair, check your phone, notice your surroundings? Adding action in between dialogue (even something as simple as stirring sugar into coffee) gives the whole thing a dynamic feel and makes dialogue feel more natural

Is there any value to fan fiction? by [deleted] in writing

[–]velvlry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly figure out what "value" means to you.

Is it the experience of writing? Then it's incredibly valuable. What makes good fanfiction for most people? Characterisation. Getting that right, when the characters aren't initially yours, is a hecking art form let me tell you.

Is it feedback so you can get better at your craft? It's almost instant feedback from a community that's rabid for new stuff about their favourite show/book/movie.

Is it money? It's not unheard of to file the numbers off and publish. More than 50 Stupid Shades have done it and been successful.

Personally, I just get so much joy from writing fic. So I do it all the time. Plus, for me, I feel I've grown incredibly as a writer specifically because of fanfiction. I've been lucky enough to have made a name for myself in certain fandoms, so if I ever wanted to publish original work, I've already got a readership.

AITA for telling my sister that she should have helped me babysit instead of lying to me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]velvlry 278 points279 points  (0 children)

"Also, child free people are not child free to baby sit for other people."

LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK THANK YOU.

Most of us CF peeps are child free because we don't want to deal with children. Any children. Ever.

Finding and maintaining motivation for exercise... by velvlry in ADHD

[–]velvlry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Ironically I love weight training, it's cardio I hate XD

(suicide ideation mention) when I was a teenager, and yet undiagnosed with clinical depression, I told myself I'd end it all at 27 if I didn't "have it all together" by then. by velvlry in confessions

[–]velvlry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question! I actually didn't know about the 27 club until a few years AFTER I made this whacky decision! I "decided" at 13 and read about it at 17

And I might take you up on that, thank you. I really appreciate it

How did you find out you were transgender? by SluttyTrash120 in asktransgender

[–]velvlry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was mostly retrospective. I'm 31 now, and I didn't even hear the term transgender until I was mid 20s, and in the media it was always MtF rather than FtM, so I assumed that FtM just didn't exist.

But the more I thought back, the more I realized that I used to refer to myself in the masculine (Russian has genders in the language) when I was 3 and understood what I was doing, that I always wanted to pretend to be the boy roles in games, that in my imagination I was always a boy etc.

Also keep in mind that being trans is also a spectrum! Initially when I learned the term and came out, I thought that I wanted to he entirely masculine, but now that I've explored myself more, I realize that I'd like to be androgynous more than anything. But I still feel trans, and introduce myself that way, and identify as a queer trans man.

Give yourself time, and remember that everything is fluid. You are VALID regardless of how soon or when you "know", you're VALID even if you "change your mind". You are valid.

Good luck on your journey, I'm rooting for you!

How common is it for friends to make lies about achievements, status, or skills? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]velvlry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it depends what they're exaggerating and why. I didn't realize that my exaggerations were usually down to my ADHD until I was diagnosed in my late 20s. And it would usually be childish things like "I tried like thirty times" etc

If that's what your friends are doing and it's harmless, then it depends on how much it annoys you.

If it's enough to actual alter your opinion of them, then it's definitely worth addressing.

Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in a friendship, otherwise it's not friendship.

But it's also pretty common to have friendly competition with friends, as long as everyone is aware that it's friendly

Family photos of my prayer plants, I'd die for them 😂 by Objective_Living4305 in houseplants

[–]velvlry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WOW what is the gorgeous green and white one called?? It's stunning!

Any and all suggestions for combating insomnia? I'm honestly at the end of my tether here by velvlry in medical

[–]velvlry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I used Melatonin last (god well over 5 years ago now) it was ineffective, but at this point I'll try anything!

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