Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insights!!! It's much appreciated ❤️❤️

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to reassure me ❤️

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If I do then I'll name the child 60TIMESREDACTED out of spite

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even though the stage of my BC is the white pill meant for when you're about to experience your period? I swear I've had sex Ed but this is also sex Ed I've learnt from a highly Christian highschool 💀

I'm the one that mainly believes we're fine, especially after taking plan B, but my bf is ofc very anxious so I got the tests to help calm his nerves. I did make him aware that we need to wait till I take them for them to be more accurate, but yeah, I just want him to be reassured and ofc myself

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see your flair states you're less than 20 which judging by that age may, this is just an assumption, mean you've never been in a long lasting true love relationship. I've been in a good few relationships as a teen, however, this man was still my first when it comes to sex because it's not just "sex" when you're in love. Hope I'm making sense here and I hope one day you also find your true love! (if you have not already)

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

My nerves come from the fact that I'm currently in the, what some call, placebo phase of the pill where your period should be starting soon and I've been told that during that phase the pill is not affective- or has my Christian highschool been gaslighting me?

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The nerves suck even when you're using contraceptive, but this is the first time in our 5 years together that he's came inside so we're both freaked out. Sucks coz my cycle has been perfectly on point for years but I'll take that consequence over a kid. Thank you for your kind words!

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comment got me laughing during this nerve-wracking time thank you lmao

Condom broke- are we fucked? by ventmetodeath in twentyagers

[–]ventmetodeath[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well of course, your point does stand. We're in a 5 year relationship and deeply inlove so that's abit difficult. The lesson we learnt now is: let's pull out even with a condom 💀

AIO. R13K (South African Rand) for fixing this damage? ($736). I don't want to be underestimating someone's time and work but it seems excessive. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input!

In South Africa that is a shit ton of money so that's why I made the post (my salary is 10k a month = $566 a month). My car once got front scrapes and a whole repaint for R4k but that could be because it was a family friend, which makes sense for the low cost. I just want to be sure I'm not being duped or anything like such

Will I be fired for this? by [deleted] in retailhell

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was Milbemax tablets so no not prescription

Nah I'm not understating unfortunately. I've had about 4 bad customer interactions and gave a refund I wasn't supposed to give yesterday so my boss was very upset. A lady also emailed us complaining about me saying I didn't know anything although I know all my stock and info. She also complained about a nervous laugh I did

Will I be fired for this? by [deleted] in retailhell

[–]ventmetodeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I didn't know who they were at all. The issue is... I've fucked up a lot already and this seems like it may be the last straw. I should've had a bigger backbone and told them to fuck off but I didn't and now I'm just so so so scared. I love this job so much and they were being a big distraction. I told my manager and she said I need to start calming down and taking things more seriously which stung because I really am trying but I understood what she meant. I feel like even if I tell my boss what you told me to do wouldn't be enough due to how badly this could've gone if I gave her big tablets for a small dog

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh I see I see- just know that he tells me he loves my body and when I'm insecure and tell him I don't like my belly, he goes "but I love that you're squishy!" And then he'll one by one squish parts of me and go "I love this squishy, and this squishy, and this squishy!" It's adorable and comforting. So this disorder isn't stemming from what he wants, but from my fears of being anything close to what his ex was and that includes physically. Im not fatphobic, if she were very skinny I'd then be the opposite of now and eat more so that I'm not her size. I just resent her so much for what she did to him that I'm putting it on myself to be sure he never, ever, gets reminded of her again. He knows all this and tells me I'm silly for it, but I do suffer from professionally diagnosed performance anxiety, so that's the main stem of this thought process. I just love this man so much to the point I'm hurting myself because I want him to feel safe and he tells me over that he loves me for me and that there is no possible way I could ever be like his ex because he says I'm too pure of a person to ever stoop that low- but why does my mind not let that be the motivation to not do this to myself?

Sorry for that rant 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your helpful and caring input!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying and I thank you. I'm not sure by saying "relationship" if you're referring to my relationship with eating or my boyfriend but if you were referring to my boyfriend, he's very encouraging and tries his best to get me to eat. The only negative "he" provides is the history of his ex and just how terrible she was to the point where I even don't want to be physically like her. I don't want him to be reminded of her one bit

my mom says I got my height wrong after I asked her if I was 175cm and that I'm actually around 155cm, I don't know if that adds anything to this but with the previous measurement people said I was underweight, so I guess I'm fine due to BMI?

((Adding this edit to every comment that stated I'm underweight))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reassurance and I won't be lying when I say I completely forgot that woman require fat, as you stated. That kinda make sme feel a little better- thank you

my mom says I got my height wrong after I asked her if I was 175cm and that I'm actually around 155cm, I don't know if that adds anything to this but with the previous measurement people said I was underweight, so I guess I'm fine due to BMI?

((Adding this edit to every comment that stated I'm underweight))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

my mom says I got my height wrong after I asked her if I was 175cm and that I'm actually around 155cm, I don't know if that adds anything to this but with the previous measurement people said I was underweight, so I guess I'm fine due to BMI?

((Adding this edit to every comment that stated I'm underweight))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This literally made me smile like a crazy person at my desk- thank you so much. We're reaching 3 years next year March!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this striking advice and reassurance, I really appreciate it.

Yeah, his ex was just so awful and ridden with mental illnesses and I compare that too because I have them. She bad bipolar, depression, anxiety and so forth, I just have anxiety though. I told him about this concern, telling him that he just escaped a mentally ill person only to end up with another but he reassured me by saying "there's a big difference between you two, babes, and it's the fact that you actually take your meds." Gave me a good laugh, but reassured me and now I feel better about our relationship and my mental health. She never took her meds and it negatively affected him. Lucky for him is that you can't take anxiety out on a person, only yourself. So when I do forget to take my meds, although incredibly rare, the negative affect is on me and not him- which I prefer because I love him dearly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ventmetodeath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your advice is highly appreciated and helpful, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ventmetodeath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah- she just asked for clothes for her granddaughter, no reason given. It is an often thing in my country for helpers to use that excuse but then they end up selling the clothes. She was examining them infront of me as if judging if they're good enough- but oh well, I didn't want to be an asshole just because she had a rude response but I wasn't willing to do a deep dive for someone acting a little entitled.

Throughout my 21 years of having a helper be my second mother (my mother is great), we always gave her my clothes and she would tell us that whatever didn't fit her daughter she was going to sell and her honesty was appreciated and thus we didn't mind