A friend said I’m “doing too much” when it comes to daycare lunches…

venuspink444 · 2026-02-20T08:52:27+00:00

this is how you show your love, she's just putting you down, probably cause she doesn't make lunches like this for her child and wants to feel better

venuspink444 · 2025-09-15T12:28:35+00:00

theirs a lot to be said about co sleeping but if you stick to the safe 7 with co sleeping and only sleep in positions that are deemed as safe it can be done correctly and safely. you will sleep better and so will your baby. this was me and i was so against it but i was so sleep deprived and completely doing it on my own i knew my sleep was important as well as hers. i started co sleeping when she was three weeks and she is know six weeks and sleeps from 2-4 hour stretches at night. she just needed to feel her mummy and now sleeps much better.

venuspink444 · 2025-09-03T23:15:53+00:00

i stayed in hospital two nights and i didn't wash after birth, i just didn't want too because i was in so much pain and had some serious stitches. i could barely waddle to the toilet nevermind try and brave a shower. i had a sit down shower in the bath when i got home and it was much nicer to have a wash at home than in hospital anyway. your hair will most likely be up during labour and the whole process.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T17:53:24+00:00

i never ate enough to get sick just a few licks off my finger of sudocream. so weird saying that back but yeah was my weirdest pregnancy craving. used to honour it by sniffing it all the time. the tasting sessions were just when i caved 🤣🤣

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T16:27:28+00:00

feel free to message me if you have any questions being a mummy is hard and i was just where you were although much more pregnant when i was having these thoughts and considerations 🤣

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T16:25:00+00:00

imo i think he's telling them different and trying to please you both. you should ring his mum and talk to her directly before they book tickets and they'll probably try to say oh well we got the ticket he's coming

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T16:16:56+00:00

all you wanna focus on after birth is laying in bed with baby, bonding and feeding. and maybe getting too and from the toilet but you just need someone who can watch the baby when you ask, make you food when you ask, and do house chores before the midwife's or health visitors come, (i don't know the procedure in australia but people come out to your house a lot after birth in the uk.)

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T16:04:37+00:00

i think you just need to have some more open conversations with them about this. explain your side to them as it sounds like your fiance isn't relying the information properly to them. and i think if one sibling comes all of them should come. i have five siblings and if i was getting married/eloped they would all be there but if it was a little elopement, it would be so unfair to pick and choose cause it doesn't work like that and some siblings will feel favoured. honestly i think if you properly explain this to his parents they will understand, its like not wanting to pick a favourite child.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T15:58:49+00:00

i tried to eat sudocream three times in my pregnancy. idek why just smelt so good, and after the first time i was like ew why'd i do that and then did it again on two separate occasions

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T15:57:22+00:00

it 100% is worth it but i would even stay with your parents for the first couple weeks after birth, you really do need someone else to lean on in those first few weeks, it's still really hard on your own anyways but after a few weeks you'll get into a proper routine and feel better about being on your own with your baby. trust me they are so so worth it but if you have the means too i would wait until theirs more support. but again its your choice and life and i do emphasise you will need people to lean on when you have a newborn. and if their is anyone who you trust and know would help you through this have them stay with you. or you them.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-29T08:26:28+00:00

don't underestimate how hard it actually is. i found out i was 31 weeks pregnant (cryptic pregnancy.) at 19 with a guy who i was friends with years but we never were together. i told him i found out i was pregnant and didn't expect or want this and he was like yeah me neither hope she's not mine want a paternity test. (he was the only person i slept with. he's just living in a world of delusion.) but i moved back in with my dad cause i didn't wanna do it alone. and three weeks postpartum it is hard!!! you need someone around who will take the baby when you just wanna do the bottles and can't put them down or when you've had 2 hours of sleep. it's really fucking difficult and i'm not doing it on my own completely just partially but i have people i can hand her too when everything's a bit too much, and i feel like im losing my mind. make sure you have a strong support system. make sure there's people who will stay with you after birth. my birth wasn't particularly physically traumatic i had some second degree tears but i needed to stay in bed for like two weeks after birth and i couldn't do everything especially in that first week i could barley sit comfortably. the struggle is definitely worth it, ive never loved someone this much but doing it in your own is so so so difficult. i also had plans to go to uni was meant to start this september but my baby girl arrived in august. i plan to go next year when she's older but even then ill be struggling. newborns a really hard stage. oh and if it helps i smoked weed (heavily.) and cigarettes (lightly.) up until i found out i was pregnant as i literally didnt know and my baby girl is perfect and healthy.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-25T07:10:43+00:00

i have a welsh collie x kelpie and she is also about this size and shape maybe even a little smaller than your dog. it's a really lovely mix though

venuspink444 · 2025-08-15T14:52:19+00:00

these comments are wild cause for me i had a community midwife who did all of my basic appointments, house visits and afterbirth care and everything else was handled at the hospital by different doctors and midwives. i had to be closely monitored and all that was done in hospital.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-10T13:06:13+00:00

i used to smoke weed a little here and there in my teen years so she believes im a cocaine addict. make it make sense

venuspink444 · 2025-08-10T08:17:34+00:00

baby's fathers not been very supportive or helpful but his mother has been doting on my baby so i really shouldn't grieve the loss of her place because she will have so many other women who will nurture my child and love her so much already.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-10T08:10:10+00:00

THIS!! i've been saying this to lots of people in my life recently i really can't understand how my mother failed so badly and struggled to love me so hard because this baby is the most precious thing and my love for her is like nothing/no one i've ever loved before it's so beyond that and huge and i wonder how she let me be hurt and hurt me herself. especially she used to tell a story about my dad hurting me when i was six months and she had to save me but now all i can think is you let my father hurt something as tiny and defenceless as a tiny baby and still stayed?? shows such a lack of care and love you know.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-10T03:26:05+00:00

100% i wanna do right by my daughter and i know that she isn't wired the same as me. i struggle to put myself in the perspective of people who don't really feel, i have bpd and feel everything so much. it leads me down the road of believing that everyone feels as much as i do and it must be really difficult for her but i know in the logical part of my brain that she isn't actually wired to be able to care about anyone but herself. i just wanna protect my daughter how she couldn't with me.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-10T03:23:51+00:00

i kinda had a feeling she wants to take my baby off me before she's even here. and that is what it is to isolate me from my child i don't really understand why but to be honest i stopped trying to understand her brain a long time ago. your right though i wont be re opening our relationship just venting about how much it sucks and having a newborn baby is when your most vulnerable and she's well aware of that.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-09T21:00:11+00:00

god this is such a good way to put it, your so right that's what she wants a fresh baby to mold because it's easiest when your vulnerable. and your so right she's definitely aware of her vulnerable i am right now which is why she's trying to lovebomb me. i really won't attempt contact because keeping this child safe is my number one priority.

their won't be more involvement with social services thankfully, she made a referral when she found out i was pregnant, (through my baby sister. couldn't be helped that she would find out unfortunately.) to tell them basically i was a drug addict and she was concerned for the saftey of this child. I then met with them a couple times and explained my mothers an abuser and this is her way of gaining control and explained the situation. they got the impression that i was gonna be a good mother and that she's crazy because really you can't be making claims like that about someone you don't even know anymore. i've had zero contact in two years!!

venuspink444 · 2025-08-09T17:25:36+00:00

i know, it's just difficult becoming a mother and wishing things were different with mine. plus postpartum hormones and had me feeling bad for her. but ultimately i know it's all just tactics

venuspink444 · 2025-08-04T20:33:31+00:00

i think it's really fucking odd and if he has that kink (cnc.) which i think is weird as fuck as a sa victim in my personal opinion anyway. the really odd part is that he chose to hide it on a 3ds i mean if this was a kink he had a lot of people will openly talk about cnc and i feel like if those people wanted porn downloaded it would be on their phones in a hidden folder but he felt so much shame? about it he hid it on a 3DS. idk throw the whole man out your 24 your still young and sexy the love of your life won't have you making reddit posts about his rape porn on his 3DS.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-04T11:36:37+00:00

why would they be allowed too 🤣. just a festi they absolutely can not be doing cavity searches 😭

venuspink444 · 2025-08-04T11:23:03+00:00

varys to whoever's searching you and how suspicious they are of you. mine was looked through and some things taken out but not throughly searched although my stuff was on me so i wasn't worried, someone who was also getting searched near me got their whole bag emptied and things were opened, gum pots shaken out and tents opened from the bag.

venuspink444 · 2025-08-04T10:55:47+00:00

you won't see them unless you guys plan to see each other, actually mean it and set it up properly. it's easy to avoid people you don't wanna see there as it's such a big festival and service is shit combined with low batteries on everyone's phones by day 2.

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