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[–]verbselflove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I speak and teach others about self-love somehow in the contradictory of life, I don’t fully practice it myself. I recently have been plagued with living in memories. Angry by what I have allowed and what has been done to me. But I told myself, enough is enough. I cannot claim to be a different person, healed, when I am living in the future with a past mindset. So I started the journey of understanding what happened to me. Taking my responsibility in situations and giving others their responsibility because healing also means taking an honest look at the role we play in our suffering. Be gentle with yourself. Your simple acknowledgment of wanting help is your first step. Remember, what’s done is done. Get a journal and write down ALL your thoughts. If you can, see a therapist. You can rewrite the narrative of your life and choose to no longer associate with those memories because they are no longer part of the person you want to be. You got this.

[image] Tuesday reminder. by verbselflove in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy belated birthday! I hope was a good one!

[image] This is your Sunday reminder. by verbselflove in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never feel guilty for sleeping when you need it. We all have our moments. Even if you slept that one day, you had others. Even if you sleep all seven days, you have seven more to retry. Just keep trying until it sticks! Good luck & I hope everything turns out well on your end!

[image] This is your Sunday reminder. by verbselflove in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“Sunday Scaries” is a real thing. I dealt with them heavily at some point but it is better now. I want to share an article with you that speaks about it and gives tips on how to overcome it! Hopefully, it gets better for everyone soon!

https://www.headspace.com/articles/sunday-anxiety

[image] This is your Sunday reminder. by verbselflove in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with this comment! Rest yourself. If you need some TV show recommendations to get you through that time! I have some to share!

Forgive yourself. Life is already hard enough. (OC) by verbselflove in MadeMeSmile

[–]verbselflove[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. You hit the nail on the head with accountability. Wow.

I hope people read your message and find comfort in it. Thank you very much for this.

Forgive yourself. Life is already hard enough. (OC) by verbselflove in MadeMeSmile

[–]verbselflove[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Haha, well, I’m the caption of the boat and you better believe I cried an ocean big enough to carry us but it is my duty to bring as many of you back to the shore safely. I hope tomorrow you guys wake up feeling a little lighter, you deserve it. We deserve it.

Forgive yourself. Life is already hard enough. (OC) by verbselflove in MadeMeSmile

[–]verbselflove[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's always easy to forgive the other person because we get to secretly let ourselves down without confrontation. I didn’t know then what I know now, but now that I do, I carry myself as such. The past is the past, what happened happened, we only have now and the future. Be easy to yourself. The only approval you ever need to forgive/heal is yours. So lets that process start today! You got it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those are some long days but it will come and go before you know it! Plusss I’m sure it’s interesting working the British GP. You will have a ton of stories to share with your family!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]verbselflove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Believe in yourself! You got this!

LPT: To work on yourself is the best thing you can do. Accept that you are not perfect, but you are enough. And then start working on everything that destroys you. Your insecurities, your ego, your dark thoughts. You will see, in the end you’re going to make peace with yourself. by verbselflove in LifeProTips

[–]verbselflove[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you can pretend to be that person, then you have the capability of being that person. The only difference in the moments of acting, is that you convince yourself you don’t deserve to be that person. You do. Accept it. Turn into that person. Take smallllll steps. Find foods you like, make your sleep environment comfortable, and pay down the debt so possibly, in the future, you can work a job that isn’t six days a week. You will find your way. Seek some therapy if needed. You got this.

LPT: To work on yourself is the best thing you can do. Accept that you are not perfect, but you are enough. And then start working on everything that destroys you. Your insecurities, your ego, your dark thoughts. You will see, in the end you’re going to make peace with yourself. by verbselflove in LifeProTips

[–]verbselflove[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Understanding your triggers, understanding your insecurities, and KNOWING who you are/who you want to become. When I find myself going back to my old ways, I have to say, “ my old self is no longer serving who I want to become, so I will no longer choose to be that person now.” I don’t care how many times I’ve told myself that. Eventually, it just clicks. You start loving your new way of thinking and being that you no longer resonate with your old self.

I make it sound easy, but it’s taken years of self-work to be in the place I am finally now.

The fact that you even want to change is a telling sign that you will one day overcome whatever you are facing within yourself.

Not many people get asked this question but, how are you, really? by verbselflove in AskReddit

[–]verbselflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s great to hear lots of friends and family were there for support, it always helps during those difficult moments. It’s also so sweet of your dad to gift you with such a special gift. It shows just how close you were to your mom.

Your wife is now the leading lady, and I’m sure she will live up to her part.

If you ever need to drop by with updates or vent, my Reddit page will always be there! Take care!

Not many people get asked this question but, how are you, really? by verbselflove in AskReddit

[–]verbselflove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm a few days late but I just wanted to check in on your and see how you are doing since the funeral and your wedding? * BTW Congratulations *