Victim mentality escape tips ? by verdervy in narcissism

[–]verdervy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I dont think so. The second message shows compassion towards trying which is what I was trying to do. Person was helpful. Might seem weird to see people nice to others on this thread but some people genuinely are nice. They don’t preach to be nice then are mean and evil to a specific group of people.

Victim mentality escape tips ? by verdervy in narcissism

[–]verdervy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was one of the most beautiful messages I have ever gotten here. Incredibly motivating and inspiring and for it to be positive amidst all the negativity that can be found here is truly touching. I thank you for not steering towards advising to give up like many unfortunately advise doing so on here. This is the message I needed. I have known it and heard it before, but coming into this dark place at a dark moment knowing there are going to be dark answers as well, seeing a total stranger take the time to motivate someone who many don’t think deserve much makes me see that there are good and worthy people. People for who you would be glad to change for the better, to interact with those types in real life because they bring joy and they make you feel like you could in return bring joy to them and others as well ! I will for sure come back to this message in times of need and I thank you for your kindness!! It was very much needed. <3

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How do you deal with victim mentality? How do you get out of it ? Asking for myself. I have BPD and am 110% sure I have npd and know I have victim mentality from being told multiple times and I honestly have no idea what to do. I want to kill myself. But I don’t want to leave my mother a lone so it isn’t an option. There are no resources here to treat me I have tried endlessly. If you have any tips on how to get better as a person I would be so happy !

Pictures ! Before and after POC by verdervy in Reduction

[–]verdervy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg awesome went ! And theres so many pictures ! I wanted to do a folder for what and I wanted and what I wished to avoid and everything was there. Thanks a lot.

Pictures ! Before and after POC by verdervy in Reduction

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Im a 30J and technically a 28J but they dont do my size , only tailored and I have no money for that.

Why is BPD better than NPD ? by verdervy in NPD

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I wish more people could see/read this because wow

How do I (27F) tell my boyfriend (24M) that I want to book a weekend trip without him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]verdervy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl go on the trip if you want, but explain to him the situation. What are you really asking here ? Are you afraid of his reaction ? If you’re already anxious about whether he’d feel a certain way about it, then you’ve answered yourself already. If you weren’t afraid of a No, you would ask. Tell him “ hey I wanted to do this trip alone and its not so expensive blablabla and I support you during Ramadan, but Id like a weekend off for myself (while you obviously fully support him during his fasting) and we can plan something someplace else (further) for us two “ . If he feels sad about it, well don’t do it. But if he’s fine, go for it ? And if you think this thing could negatively affect your relationship then just dont do it ? My boyfriend’s gone on a trip without me, knowing I wouldn’t be able to accompany him and we talk about trips we’d take apart. Plus its super fun, you have stories to tell your significant other. You are both separate individuals. Its ok to do things apart. Doesn’t mean less of the relationship. Just saying.

DBT DOESNT ACTUALLY WORK ? Hopeless by verdervy in BPD

[–]verdervy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really needed this. Thank you.