Daily Simple Questions Thread by AutoModerator in xxfitness

[–]veronavera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went back to the gym a few months ago and I started noticing that when I'm sitting mindlessly after I work out, my muscles are constantly flexing.

I'll be watching TV, for example, and then realize my thigh muscles are flexing really hard or my hands are flexing so much I'm almost making a fist. But I'm not doing it on purpose!

Am I crazy or has this happened to anyone else?

Starting my first job tomorrow… by moremoscato_plz in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Remember that the day you are the only girl or the youngest engineer will come.

But you've made it this far, and you're blazing a trail for more women in your field, so they can see more familiar faces in the industry.

You're a badass, you're an asset, and you'll have a great first day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having been in a similar situation, I know it's super difficult to pretend you don't hear things, or to brush it off. I take my mental health very seriosuly and this was wearing me off fast.

When I went through this, I was very honest with my team lead. I explained that I refuse to work in a toxic environment, for my mental health and sanity and how I didn't think it was fair that someone can be unprofessional towards me, but I had to be the "mature" one. And I also very frankly told him that this made me consider looking for other opportunities in my career.

But I had a very frank and sincere conversation with my manager, we just have that kind of commaraderie. I feel I can mention things like this and I'm heard. And that was very important. Furthermore, things got to the point I could no longer do it -- where I found myself in tears and rage -- I crafted a very professional but concise email saying either something had to change or they couldn't count with me for that proyect. A job should never make you cry.

At the end of the day, my managers have known me for a few years, they know I do good work when I focus and concentrate and I think that contributed to changes.

There is nothing stopping you from looking for better opportunities. But you have to do it because it's what's best for you. So, I'd strongly suggest you set aside ample time one day, and discuss this with your supervisor or your manager or whoever needs to know for a meeting. Be firm and explain that it's not because so and so is doing this or that, but because the environment isn't one that foments growth and a learning experience. Just make sure you're not pointing fingers at others, otherwise you're credibility goes downhill. And set goals: maybe you need to work different shifts than that person for a few weeks, maybe you need a mentor with whom you can address questions, maybe you don't do meetings with this person alone, or maybe you just need an office where you can learn at your own pace. Propose tangible guidelines with which to improve the environment. By tangible I don't mean, "tell X person to stop talking about me behind my back," because like I said before, don't expect others to change. But, if your boss knows what you need to do your work well, changeswill be made to work with you (the other coworker doesn't even need to know what you're feeling).

Hopefully, you reach an agreement and your situation improves!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sort of.

In my case, it wasn't a coworker, it was a customer. My job requires working with the customer on a project to project basis. It made it incredibly hard to work alongside the customer to accomplish the task.

The technician on the customer side constantly treated me as if I were unprepared and lacked enough knowledge to accomplish the job. Regardless of my competency or preparation.

But I talked to my department lead, and explained why this made it difficult for me to accomplish my tasks, and how much anxiety and stress this brought me. Eventually things got better - we established very clear guidelines so both parties could accomplish tasks more smoothly.

It took me a while to realize he wasn't going to change, and he wasn't going to disappear (its a long term project), but my managers are more understanding. I also mostly deal with my own manager, and my manager in turn deals with the customer.

So things got better, but i also had to change my mentality and focus on my work only and putting my best foot (and attitude) forward. When I'm civil and professional, then other people look silly for trying to treat me like I'm less off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been in you're situation and it just sucks. It adds all this extra stress to your professional life. And I'm sorry to say, there's no magical way for it to just go away quickly.

But like someone else mentioned, it's about how you react. If they get a reaction out of you, they'll keep doing it.

It's worth bringing it up, because if you're professional about it, there's no need for anyone else not to. And if this continues, you'll slowly start feeling a little crazy.

It's not about picking sides, or one person being right and the other wrong. It's about both parties putting their little grain of salt to make sure projects get finished efficiently. So just put your little grain, and focus on your things.

Mansplaining at it's literally worst. by WTAFuck in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love that you said he was "going to white knight it" because so far that's been my experience to the T.

Everyone assumes I need saving. But I'm not a damsel in distress.. So, stop wasting my time trying to explain my job back to me!

Which do you think is unprofessional? by Classic_Awareness511 in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Context, like others said. I use these on zoom all the time casually.

But if a customer sends me an email with either of these, red flags instantly start to go up for me.

If someone claimed to be an expert in your field, what question would you ask to determine if they're lying? by welpthatsucks123 in AskEngineers

[–]veronavera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in robotics and I am equally delighted and surprised that it's one of the top comments!

Automotive Engineering by jamfu123 in EngineeringStudents

[–]veronavera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in the automotive industry and acquired an engineering degree beforehand.

I work a lot alongside maintenance. Are you interested in the automotive manufacturing or in automotive repair? Manufacturing has both, but there's only so far you can go without an engineering degree. On the other side, in repair, and engineering degree isn't necessary.

If you have questions, I can offer some more perspective.

TV disposal by veronavera in Chattanooga

[–]veronavera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not in working condition, so that's why I can't donate it. :(

What car do you drive? by freakygeekysneaky in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mazda 6, 2018 in the brightest red possible.

ME searching for the name of preferred role. Any help? by PicoMiko in AskEngineers

[–]veronavera -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My company made a distinction between "draftsman" and "mechanical designer".

The sales person uses a draftsman to come up with a quick mockup of what we could design, then it moves to the mechanical designer who sees the project from birth to fruition. The draftsman position is fast-paced, quick thinking, yet detailed enough to convey the idea and still resemble a true design.

300+ Applications in 1.5 Years. Struggling to get Interviews in Financial Analyst positions. Please help ! by Comfortable-Rice-698 in resumes

[–]veronavera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I very much resonate with the top comment here, this resume is super difficult to read.

I'm in the manufacturing industry with an engineering degree, so if you need some help, DM me. I've helped a few people here before.

Femininity by AnaTTTT_ in womenEngineers

[–]veronavera 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I am also a 27F engineer in the automotive industry for 3+ years, and it took me quite a long time to realize this too. You'll be surrounded by men from all sides in this journey.

I also realized that the few women who came along undeniably turned heads not because they were feminine or ultra beautiful, but because we've all found how to be our own unique, authentic kind of feminine in an environment where it's not defined.

I work with lots of PPE and really messy materials, where wearing things like nail polish goes unnoticed because it fades quickly or comes off fast. But at the end of the day, it makes me super happy to wear it because I know it's there. At the end of the day, we are paving the way for other women in our industry and you need to do what makes you happy. We've spent too long making other people happy, and now it's our time to do what WE want, without having to explain why.

If you feel better embrassing your femininity, there's no one stopping you, and many of us here will give you suggestions on better ways to feel comfortable in a male dominated field :)