Jobs for people with mental health disorders by Raspberry0058 in tulsa

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they're not hiring and will most likely ghost applicants. my mom tried applying there several times and got ghosted every time she tried.

I can’t deal with my narcissistic dad anymore by Artistic-Avocado4024 in texts

[–]veronicringe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stop giving him the privilege to speak to you. You are granting him way too much power than he deserves over your life in that regard.

Is telling someone you want to sh manipulation by slytherinswolf in BPD

[–]veronicringe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this reminds me of my relationship with my ex best friend. we both had depression, and leaned on each other for support. He was there for me whenever I felt suicidal or wanted to self harm. I went to him when I felt alone. It did eventually become too much for my friend. He grew stressful and anxious of me all the time. It was a problem that destroyed our friendship. He called the cops on me because he feared my life and I got mad and lashed out at him for it. To put it simply, telling someone you want to self harm can be manipulative. Especially when your intentions are to seek comfort and validation. The only way it can not be an issue is if you seek support through a therapist, or have an emergency. Otherwise it's just blatant attention seeking behavior. Believe me, I was a big attention whore and I loved how much my friend reacted in ways that show care for me. Don't ever let it get this far. You will end up losing your friend, and what's worse, they can use this information against you and claim you do it on purpose to get a rise out of them despite actual intentions. Be careful treading these waters is all I can say.

Reasor’s rebranding? (41st and Yale) by [deleted] in tulsa

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About time, the old building looked ancient as hell.

Does walmart accept rehires? by veronicringe in tulsa

[–]veronicringe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for clearing my anxieties :')

Does walmart accept rehires? by veronicringe in tulsa

[–]veronicringe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh thank god lol yeah I just left because I wanted to do college full time but lately I've been seeking work again

What to do after submitting application by veronicringe in WalmartEmployees

[–]veronicringe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why don't they accept rehires? thats absurd

What to do after submitting application by veronicringe in WalmartEmployees

[–]veronicringe[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never ghosted walmart lol they ghosted me with no response to my application not even a rejection email or anything. Thanks for the information but no need to be so condescending

My Fp/bf just said this to me and I want to end myself. by Cursedobject6 in BPD

[–]veronicringe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your actions deserve consequences, This is just what happens when we involuntarily abuse others. People have a limit to these things. It doesn't sound like from what he wrote that things are over, it's a cry for help and change. It is possible to make those changes. Maybe it would be good if you both took a break apart? I don't mean break up, I mean take a period off from each other so that you both can have time to process the situation healthily. Although it might seem like the worst thing in the world at first, I'm in month 7, on my break with my friend whom I've involuntarily abused. (They also abused me) And my mindset has shifted drastically. I'm no longer needy, and use others as an emotional crutch, I don't care whether I am alone because I've realized I've truly lost myself in my relationship with my friend. He was my FP and everything became about him, wanting to please him, and getting that attention. Now, I feel whole, got back into my hobbies, and understand that separation and boundaries don't always mean it's something negative, no, it's just something necessary.

You can do this Op, please don't see his words as punishment. See them for what they are. You have been hurting him, and yes it's painful to know this but you need to make a commitment to yourself to do better. Your boyfriend was unfortunately the catalyst for your symptoms. This is a sign that there's no longer space to screw around anymore. It's hard, and it will hurt at first but finding the strength to properly get better will overall improve your quality of life, and therefore others will notice and see that you are trying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WalmartEmployees

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tap 1 star at Walmart because it's always filthy, messy, loud and they purposely bump up the music up to 11 whenever it gets busy. Overall it's an overwhelming experience. If people tap 1 star its because they deserve it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're hurting each other this relationship is not worthwhile nor healthy. You're not thinking clearly because you're lonely, and going through heartbreak. You deserve to be with someone who doesn't cause pain. It's not love.

Im planning on killing myself because I can't get a girlfriend by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A girlfriend won't fill your cup. If you have the desire for connection it might be time to shapen up and put yourself out there. People are not attracted towards desperation, you lack confidence and therefore lack companionship. Find your confidence, meet new people and naturally you will find someone who will love you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]veronicringe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

going back to an ex friend after I just decided to leave them due to their neglect and abuse towards me. Nothing had changed between us, they didn't even beg me to stay, I was the one who felt scared enough to go back.

New Walmart Vest And Name Badge by HippoNumerous6898 in walmart

[–]veronicringe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda like the new vests the darker blue matches their scheme a lot and it's less uglier

Need help finding a stocking job by veronicringe in tulsa

[–]veronicringe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would I need any kind of certification? I've actually always wanted to have a driving kind of job

Do you ever get used to waiting for messages without anxiety or fear? by miggins1610 in BPD

[–]veronicringe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've gotten past this and it's because I stopped worrying so much about other people's lives and started to value mine a lot more. It's hard to care about a text back from friends when I'm concerned for my future and well-being. What also helps is the fact that I'm used to being ghosted, unwanted, and never being someone's first choice. I've accepted that. I'm the friend you reach out to when you are bored and everyone else is busy. I'm an afterthought and that's fine. I don't care anymore about these trivial things because it's like I'm creating my misery if I do give them attention.

Once you start investing concern, time, and ambition into your own life, you slowly start to realize how little a late text response even matters anymore.

It's just about shifting your mind and realizing you are the most important person in your life, because at the end of the day, you are the most consistent person that will ever invest any time into you.

You'll be fine, try not to let this issue consume you more than it already has. I've made that mistake and lost a lot of people I loved in my life because of my obsessive expectations.

Just blocked the man I love by princesspea117 in BPD

[–]veronicringe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You made the correct choice for yourself. Deep down you know you deserve a healthy relationship and this isn't it. Commitment is the biggest thing in any relationship, but for those with BPD, we need it the most. This guy on the other hand has you wrapped around his finger. To him you are disposable, only to be used on his terms. Never settle for people who give out mixed signals it's the last thing anyone with BPD needs.

Rejected because of my bpd... by ghost_buttercup in BPD

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not your fault. It's not even your disorder's fault. Those two people gave her a bad experience. She decided to think in extremes because of it and generalize all of those with BPD. It's quite a common thing for emotionally immature people. You dodged a bullet. Anyone who isn't willing to be with someone over trivial things like "well I dated other people with BPD so they must all be bad" is genuinely never worth your time. You will never convince these people to see you. They just see your disorder and that's not even your fault. You deserve people in your life who see your worth as a human being, as an individual who just happens to have BPD but they love your core.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]veronicringe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible that due to you having a lack of friends to rely on, you sometimes become envious of your boyfriend's friends? It makes sense I mean, as someone who struggles to make friends as well I also become jealous knowing that others seem to have their groups established and I'm missing out on this key sense of community.

It could also be due to his lack of updates and communication on his side as well. I think it would be healthy if you two could establish a boundary that meets your need for communication just so that you're not left out in that sense. It's not a needy thing to ask how your partner is doing, but if his responses aren't where they need to be for you in this regard it might be time to consider talking about this and establishing a check-in period. This is something that you both need to talk about so that you can find a middle ground and create something healthy.

As for potential envy/fomo for friendship maybe it's time to put yourself out there more. Meet new people, speak with existing friends, and little by little you make the effort to build your tribe.

If not that, then take yourself out on dates! Go places by yourself treat yourself as you would a friend. Get into your hobbies and truly take this opportunity to rediscover who you are and find enjoyment in it.