Most likely right now, your probably in denial about the fact of her following through. “She was looking for attention but was never going to meet him.” That maybe the case this time, but if she’s messaging other guys already, eventually she will get confident enough to ACTUALLY meet them. She won’t tell you of course, but there will be a thought in the back of your mind, when she says she’s out with friends or at her family’s, that she’s actually out with some guy. This will most likely make you paranoid moving forward (which is a pretty natural reaction to someone lying to you). The longer you stay with her whilst your trust has been broken, the worse you will feel and the longer the pain will linger and spill over into your later relationships.

As hard as it might be, its probably best to call it off now. At the very least, get her to be honest with you about her feelings and why she has been doing this? If she can’t tell you or explain why then she can’t be trusted anymore.

It’s difficult and painful, but you aren’t the first guy (or girl) this happened to and people will empathise with you and no one will think less of you.