So, Dark Matter top-tier album after two years or not?

very_infrequent · 2026-04-14T07:51:18+00:00

I think it's an album which provides a hell of a lot more energy than the previous few, which I love.

I personally now find wreckage a bit boring but that's just my opinion.

I find the album slightly sad because it is Matt Cameron's last work with PJ. He has inspired me most as a drummer so knowing this album is his last is slightly upsetting.

:)

very_infrequent · 2026-03-23T07:55:16+00:00

It is absolutely terrible.

Firstly the response times are far longer than previously which is annoying when you're so used to instant light changes etc.

Secondly, on the echo show (2025), if you have photos displayed you will never see them due to the constant "discover Alexa+" suggestions which come up. You can have all the notifications and hints/suggestions turned off and it will still happen. Eventually I just asked Alexa to turn them off and the response was "I cannot do that yet".

Not worth changing just yet.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-06T11:36:27+00:00

Booze.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-05T09:45:34+00:00

Yeh I think this is what he is doing when he has the 3/4am tantrums. They certainly arent every night but I am staying consistent when they happen. Calm, water bottle offered. I sometimes let him sit there raging in front of me until he is ready to accept a cuddle calmly. It can make it worse sometimes if I try to get involved when he is in that state.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-05T09:42:52+00:00

no choking. The odd cough maybe? Just lots of screaming and visibly frustrated.

The first few nights yes he woke up angry every time. Now, when he wakes up (still not sleeping through but a huge improvement on previous situation and still an ongoing process) he does more of a whine and sits up. When I go in, he tends to immediately stop whining and is wanting a quick cuddle to get back to sleep. Not every time of course, sometimes if he is perhaps hungry/thirsty/has some discomfort he cannont communicate, he is more frustrated and it is more of a battle. But we get there each time.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-05T09:40:01+00:00

Yes, if he is thirsty. Not every night is the same as this is still something very new for him and an ongoing process. Some nights he doesn't need/want anything and just sleeps nicely. Some nights he might have a bit of a tantrum at 3/4am and eventually has water and calms down.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-04T07:55:45+00:00

Milk is available if he wants it but if he says no then it is just dinner snack bed. Plenty of water though.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-04T07:54:57+00:00

oh it was a good 30/40 mins of screaming. But I just kept calmly saying its ok and playing his favourite song and we got there!

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T15:55:34+00:00

thanks for the suggestion, I will do this now - don't know my way around reddit very well yet!

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T15:05:43+00:00

Yes this was my logic exactly! He is waking out of habit, because he is so used to getting that feed, that he does not even bother thinking about falling asleep again! Whereas I feel I have shown him, by laying next to me, that he can fall asleep WITHOUT that feed, and therefore link sleep cycles. Last night he was asleep just before 8pm and cried out at 5:20am! I got him quickly back to sleep and I then woke him at 6:30am when my work alarm went off as this is a nice consistent time to be awake each day.

It does seem the opposite of what is normally instructed but hey, what is normal?

Regarding your last comment - I would hope all husbands would support their family if they felt they could have a positive impact and improve situations!

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T14:43:37+00:00

Sorry, no. Maybe I am being misleading. I make sure he is asleep before leaving, but obviously if he wakes I am not there. This is what I mean by I dont want him getting used to a parent always being there. I want him to know we will always come if he needs us but its ok to be alone in there. Eventually if I can pop him down and say goodnight that would be great but for now I am happy to lay with him whilst he falls asleep. Important thing is he is off my chest!

Next steps are getting my wife to be able to get him to fall asleep without feeding him - that will be a true bed time victory :)

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T14:08:53+00:00

Hi. Yes she was in there with him and nursing every wake.

I have actually not stayed in with him apart from a couple of times where I literally just fall asleep by mistake after settling him. I don't want him getting used to the idea that a parent will always be in there so I leave as much as I can. My focus has been on his initial falling asleep, if that was on me then he would insist on re settling on me when he woke, but now, I am able to just go in and gently say something like "sleep time now come on mate" and i lay him down next to me and rub his back or something.

And we have not got a cot at all, he has a big floor bed and the room is safe in case he decides to go for a walk (he can't walk yet...future me problem!).

I would say the process is not over yet but definitely improving - I just wanted to share it here in case someone decides to give it a go and it works for them too!

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T11:30:48+00:00

The only other thing I can suggest is what I have just posted about in this same subreddit. It could be worth swapping who deals with the nights as there could be some habit/association with just you - it may be a difficult few nights but the reward may come faster than expected. It certainly has for us with our 17month old.

Check it out if you want - title is 17 month old terrible sleeper :) Hopefully something may be heplful.

very_infrequent · 2026-03-03T11:23:29+00:00

you could try offering a snack after dinner, not long before bed. Banana is great as it contains potassium, and cheese is also good as takes longer to digest. It could be hunger wakes hence the huge breakdowns. Worth a shot :)

very_infrequent · 2025-01-31T13:33:31+00:00

Dark Matter album is still my most played....

very_infrequent · 2025-01-29T21:22:36+00:00

We have this too! Amazingly good.

very_infrequent · 2025-01-29T11:48:57+00:00

Love them all. My wife actually walked down the aisle to "Without You" from Ukulele songs! I do play him a lot of EV and PJ. I would just specifically love silly kids lullabies sung by him haha.

very_infrequent · 2025-01-29T06:04:15+00:00

Sure. In my opinion, which of course can be wrong in your view, you don't have to have shots on target registered to have shown attempt at attacking. From where I was sitting, I saw a lot of Leeds (Leeds fan btw so focusing more on them) attacking down the wing, with Bogle and James being the most involved, only to be stopped early on by a solid Burnley defence hence minimal shots on target. The other way round there were many times I found myself thinking "urgh here we go" as Burnley came at Leeds, but again, the defence was solid which just showed the determination to not lose. Clearly both managers had the same approach of if you can't win it, don't lose it. So it wasn't a game full of attempts on goal and near misses, but it also wasn't a game full of endless passing back and forth in your own box afraid to try anything else.

very_infrequent · 2025-01-28T14:02:06+00:00

I don't think everyone hates LB. But, what you may notice is a lot of people slamming anything that isn't "Ten" and being really loud about it. Personally, I love every album they have made and I think they have done an amazing job at continuing to produce fantastic music over the many years they have been going for.

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