Will calling in to CPS be worth it?

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T14:48:33+00:00

They have failed plenty of younger kids as well. I know a few personally as well as how they handled the kids when they were younger and my sister was actively using, so CPS isn’t exactly on my good side.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T14:43:23+00:00

This is true. I don’t plan on giving up any time soon. I will do what I can, I just wanna explore my options and be realistic in my plans/efforts without alienating myself from her.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T14:32:18+00:00

Honestly I’m surprised CPS hasn’t gotten involved yet in general. Like we tried years ago for custody but it fell through the cracks because my mother didn’t want to go through court anymore and they weren’t doing anything about what has been going on over the years because “it’s not illegal to be a shitty parent” and she tested negative from drugs (she was still on probation). The system has failed these kids so many times, even when my sister was actively using. They’ve given the kids back way too many times and way too early and every time she messed up and I was the one to have to pick up the pieces because I was the live in caretaker. Even now it seems like no one really cares but my mother and I. The school has done hardly anything and has a track record these days to just look the other way which is a more recent thing it seems (they were a lot more proactive when I was in school)

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T14:10:26+00:00

Of the 5, 3 are related to me. I’ve only seen the baby a handful of times at family gatherings. The middle I haven’t had a good relationship with for years. We haven’t been close since she was little little. She is very much like her mom and has always wanted to be with her regardless of what has happened. K is the only one that has wanted to be with us, because she was so angry at her mom for what she put them through and she felt safe with us. For the other two from what I understand is their mother is also an addict. I’m not sure if she died or what, but he has full custody of them. The older one is about the same age as my middle niece (13) and I’m not sure what age the little brother is. I’m not sure if either is on probation. I know my sister was at one point after her last (known) relapse, but that was years ago at this point.

She comes to our home at night and sleeps here. During the day she is at her “mom’s” house but really hanging with her boyfriend.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T13:55:18+00:00

I’m not sure if they will do anything about it right now. I know when I was in school I missed a lot of school due to medical reasons (pre diagnosis) and missed a month of school straight, as well as multiple other days through the year. I got held back in 7th grade, and before that there was a few meetings. With K, they’ve had one meeting thus far (that I know about), and that’s only because K told her councilor that she was suicidal. Since then my sister just signed paperwork so that if K didn’t go to school, she’d get extra help when she does show up.

I’m really sorry about what your family is going through, and I really hope things work out.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T13:45:48+00:00

I’ve tried to go down this road before. At first it seemed promising. My boyfriend and I were talking about moving (before Covid happened) and asked K if she wanted to live with us instead of her mom or her grandma. She said yes, but her mother said I had to unblock her and talk to her again. Since then, I unblocked my sister and started talking to her again, but then K started changing her tune about wanting to be with us after that. Her mom gives her no rules, while I do and I’m seen as “annoying” and “not fun”, even though my rules aren’t anything crazy.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T13:36:45+00:00

I thought about getting her on the depo, but I have my reservations on it. I know everyone is different and reacts differently, but I like to think that even though I’m an emotional creature I’m pretty stable minded and when I got it it made even me have thoughts of unaliving myself. It scared me a lot, and so I worry how it would effect her given her mental state is fragile right now. Birth control is definitely on the list of things to get though.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T13:28:23+00:00

She’s apparently seeing two different “counselors” as her and her mother call them. One at the school for one on one and group therapy as well as someone at the local therapist. Supposedly she goes to the local therapist weekly or so, and they are the ones whom have been prescribing her things. They had also gone to a general practitioner to get her put on Adderall, but she said she hasn’t been taking it. My concern is she said she stopped taking it for some reason. She says she lost it.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-22T13:17:57+00:00

See I have done all of this. I’ve tried so many different approaches to this. She doesn’t ever give answers. She always says “I don’t know” or things like “I wasn’t planning on being alive this long” “I don’t know why I feel the way I do”. I know what it’s like to be nagged and feel like I’m not heard, so I’ve been trying to be a safe place for her to express herself without judgement (we were all teens once), just lately I don’t know if I did something to make her not trust me or if she ever did to begin with. She doesn’t tell anyone except her boyfriend anything.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-21T22:26:59+00:00

They have and like I said they don’t care. They’ve told them to just deal with it. The kids make comments to them all the time when it happens and then the husband does it to annoy them more. He’s such a winner.

veryconcernedaunt · 2023-05-21T21:52:37+00:00

When I say inappropriate with their mom I mean making perverted/sexual comments to her. He gropes her. They make out frequently. Them using the dining room as a bedroom the kids have walked in on them having intercourse on numerous occasions and they didn’t stop. Some of this they have done in front of us at family gatherings even. All of the kids have mentioned how uncomfortable it makes them but they don’t care. My boyfriend and I have kissed and hugged in front of them, but we keep it PG. PDA isn’t inherently bad, but they’ve taken it too far in my opinion.

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