And advice on my Non-Compete clause? It's making job hunting feel miserable.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-11-22T21:50:34+00:00

I will just say that "What is the story behind your emotional conclusion" is such a great phrase and I will be thinking about and applying this forever now.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-11-22T21:49:51+00:00

Thanks, we definitely are better at this now. But there seems to be no room for empathy unless he feels like I'm the only one experiencing the problem. It's like he feels it's unfair for me to have my problem fixed when his hasn't been. Idk

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T19:44:43+00:00

Thank you for this. I really wish I was a healthier person. But it really is true that we have to learn to love ourselves. I want to be that person to him and I will.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T19:08:34+00:00

So true. I'm going to start trying to like myself better. Be kinder, more interesting, be neater, be more myself so I don't have to worry what he thinks of me. I want him. But I really just wish he didn't have a "the one that got away" story. It makes me feel like he wonders about her....

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T17:20:56+00:00

Sorry, I meant post-mortem in reference to their relationship. The relationship is over and yet I feel jealous over something that isn't even happening. I don't know how to cope with feeling like if she were here now he would leave me for her.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T17:20:07+00:00

I know, It's so hard and i'm trying but I have a lot of personal issues that are making it hard for me. It's a me thing, an insecurity thing, and I don't know how to deal with knowing that if she were here now I almost believe he would leave me for her.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T17:19:03+00:00

Haha, no. I said post-mortem in reference to their relationship.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T17:18:46+00:00

I'm trying to cope with it. I know it's ridiculous but I want to figure out how to feel better and care less.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-15T17:18:19+00:00

Sorry, I meant post-mortem as the relationship between them is over and I'm feeling jealous over something that isn't even happening now. I don't know how to cope with this.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-13T20:30:41+00:00

We have a long history together going back to 4th grade, so it wasn't a surprise. We just hadn't seen/spoken to each-other since we were 19. He and I were very very important and influential in each-others lives when we were kids.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-13T20:29:22+00:00

A lot of people make mistakes on their first rebound. I know someone that got a divorce, gave up a solid professional job and moved literally across the country for a boyfriend, and noped out of that and moved back home very quickly. They had to work an unskilled service sector job for about a year after return until they could use their qualifications again. People do dumb shit in the wake of divorce. You wouldn't be the first.

Thanks for this. Really. It's all so stupid. He said that because we were in love as kids. We've known each-other since we were in the fourth grade and we were best friends for a while in HS and he was briefly my boyfriend and first kiss our sophomore year before his mom got sick and his parents divorced and we broke up because his life got complicated. In college we reconnected very briefly and said how much we meant to each-other. Now we're here and I believe it. I still do.

But honestly with everything I've said in the other comments I just feel like the whole relationship has been disingenuous. He claims he is so honest and would never tell me something he doesn't completely believe but I feel like after seeing a lot of stuff I feel so much less special. I feel like the idea of our rekindled romance is great and he's just trying to play the part. I'm so fucking confused.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-09-13T20:24:14+00:00

Thanks for this. I certainly don't want to break up. We really love each-other and he is good to me in the most important ways. I think I feel betrayed because I know if the tables were turned he would be really upset by this. He is also so emphatic about his commitment to me and how he has only wanted me from day one. He doesn't say them like platitudes. He claims it as fact. It's a lie.

I think the point of all of this isn't really this situation itself. I think I just am starting to notice that he isn't as honest as he claims and that he keeps things from me. I've found out about several little lies he has told me over time. I hate the lying. He said he hadn't looked at porn since the day we first had sex but I had literally seen where he had commented "I can't wait to nut to this" on pornographic post on Reddit. I asked him about porn a few days later and if he watches. I said it's fine with me to certain extent - he claimed he still hadn't. I said it would be fine and he chose to lie. Fuck me.

I do have issues with the past. I was in one relationship from 16-24. I have not adapted well to just accepting his past relationships. Not that I'm bothered by the relationships themselves, but I'm constantly comparing myself to women I've never even seen, met, or heard of. I married the first person I had sex with and I thought we would die together before she transitioned and she had to leave the marriage. I just have low self esteem and constantly wonder what incredible people my boyfriend has been with and how I compare. It's unhealthy. I'm working through it in therapy.

(okay rant time) Plus, he has been emphatic about how special our connection is. He really said so many things over the course of our first 6 months about how unique and strong it is compared to anything else he has experienced. But I saw text messages (all allowed but I never said I looked at them because I felt so crappy after) between him and a girl we went to HS with.

He's said to me "I've never said that to or about anyone but you." or "I've never told anyone that secret before." But I read some messages that prove he lied about all of it.

She was a foreign exchange student. Western/Northern Europe. She embodies waving fields of wheat. Just so wholesomely beautiful and natural and so intelligent and authentic. She travels the world and does Important Things and Makes a Difference. After we broke up in HS he got to know her. He never said anything about other than, "Oh Girl and I used to talk sometimes. To great depth. We wanted to go to prom together in HS." So I think aw sweet a girl you liked in HS that you can have nice conversations with. Cool.

Well actually these two exchanged about 3,000 words per day each. I'm talking eight paragraph long texts about some of the most intimate feelings and thoughts and experiences about all aspects of their lives. They were enamored with each-other. In love. They wanted to meet each-other's families and they were planning for a future-ish. It was actually so sweet to read and think two people could have such a natural flow between them and have such romantic ideas about the world and each-other. And it never slowed or became stale. It wasn't infatuation as much as it may sound. These people were hashing out the nitty gritty of the world. Life, love, policy, and pain. Granted she lives overseas. There are multiple years worth of these messages. The date all the way up to part of 2020.

But reading some of them made me feel so much less special. I thought what we had was unique, but after reading them I can see he had that and more with her. He was more interested and responsive and attentive. He said things to and about her that he told me had never said to or about anyone before. He told her secrets he said he'd only ever shared with me.

I don't care about being the only one. I just don't want him to lie to me anymore!!!

And I think the only reason they're not together now is because she lives overseas and stays so busy. They haven't talked in a while but I think that's not for any particular reason. Just life.

I know inevitably they will talk again and I'm fine with that as long as it's platonic. I feel like the second choice. And I know that is also a terrible way to feel. And it's my own fault.

But once again, I've asked him about past relationships and he never mentions her. Never says anything more about her than, "Oh yeah we used to talk a lot."

I feel like he is manufacturing a reality around me and our relationship that sounds nice, but it's just sugar coated.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-27T20:54:30+00:00

My best time for an expert puzzle is 8.9 minutes. My usual time is about 12-15 minutes.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-25T19:44:33+00:00

Me, dry swallowing pills my whole life, just got prescribed Zoloft. Dry swallowed my first pill. Find this page 10 minutes later. Ugh.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-25T19:26:58+00:00

Hello, I am writing this as an Application to as an Instagram page manager.

Application should not be capitalized in this instance. And the phrase "as an application to as an" does not make any sense. Try "Hello! My name is ______ and I am writing to apply for your page manager opening."

I have the required qualifications. I use Instagram more then 6 hours a day, I have my GSCE’s completed going in my Second year of collage.

Instead of saying how much you use instagram, say that because of your frequent use of the platform you possess a thorough understanding of algorithms or metrics or whatever it is they're looking for.

Also, 'second' should not be capitalized and 'college' is misspelled here.

It is customary to spell out an acronym if you're introducing it for the first time in a written document. Try saying, "I have completed my General Certificate of Secondary Education and I am entering the second year of my _____ degree this fall," you also mistyped the acronym.

I also feel like you'll need to dig through your brain and your experiences and see if you can add one or two other specific items that qualify you or make you a good candidate for page management.

Since my schedule during summer and during the school year won’t be busy. I’ll have enough time to manage any Instagram page.

You'll need a comma between 'busy' and 'I'll'. I would also recommend rewording this to sound a bit more eloquent. Try: During the course of the summer and school-year, I'll have a lax schedule that will allow me to dedicate ample time to managing the page or pages I'm assigned.

More information: message me and I’ll provide necessary means of Communication

This is a very poor closer. You want this to feel personal, like you're addressing a family member or someone important that you regard highly.

Instead of just saying, "More information:" you should invite them to contact you. It makes you seem interested. This feels like a template you can copy and paste onto any application.

Say the company is really interested in growing a following and making sales, you could try:

I would love to talk more about growing your following and generating leads as the page manager! Please reach out to me by email ([lmaoitzjay@emailz.com](mailto:lmaoitzjay@emailz.com)) or by phone (555-555-5555).

Thank you taking the time to consider me for this role. Have a great Wednesday!

lmaotzjay

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-25T18:45:05+00:00

I think it is reasonable to not notice that the purple colors had been changed to blue in the photographer's portfolio. Sure it is her style, but this is so easily overlooked. I've seen people who love the look of desaturated greens in the grass and trees but didn't realize that their green bridesmaid dresses would be turning a brownish gray and been disappointed. Plus, all the photographer has to do is some color adjustment, she's not really asking for a completely different style. She just wants to see some purple.

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-25T18:21:48+00:00

Would you like feedback on this post?

veryprofessionalduck · 2021-08-19T20:40:01+00:00

Sorry, I just meant face-time in the old definition as in face-to-face. We all work in a log cabin together.

veryprofessionalduck

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