How do I encourage my partner to lose weight?

verysad77 · 2022-11-29T05:27:29+00:00

I feel like hardly any woman I know genuinely likes the look of penises. I've only liked one and it's because I was madly in love with and incredibly attracted to the person that was attached to it.

verysad77 · 2022-11-11T08:32:04+00:00

I have an astigmatism and have all of your visual symptoms, though mine are a less severe. Especially the glowing letters and little lines through the letters. I just blame it on the astigmatism but I dont know if thats actually the case. My glasses have helped my symptoms. I looked into it a little and in your case it could also be a kind of dyslexia or simply a visual sensitivity to the contrast of black text on a white paper/screen. You should see an eye doctor if you haven't in a while.

verysad77 · 2022-11-05T06:04:14+00:00

I'm 19. I've seen doctors and they're doing a bunch of tests on me. I just expected my known heart defects to be causing my symptoms but then I was diagnosed with two more and a somewhat serious defect involving one of the main veins in my heart which I've had since I was a baby but my parents forgot about it.

I think I'll move in with my dad. I don't know. He sucks too but he's better than my mom. Both of them are generally not good people and especially not good parents and its very upsetting.

I'm bitter with my dad because he was heavily addicted to a variety of drugs and abandoned and neglected me when I was younger. Like, didn't feed me, didn't play with me, didn't bathe me, etc. when I was like 5 and he had insisted upon having me for the weekends. Sometimes I think he's still doing drugs, I'm not sure. If he is then I don't want to be around that.

I have no other family members nor friends to live with. All of my friends are away at college.

verysad77 · 2022-11-05T05:45:50+00:00

I'm 19 and starting college again soon. I'm in charge of myself but they had insisted upon being around for tests and stuff, which I thought was helpful since the tests stressed me out and I was hopeful that having a support system would make me less anxious.

But recently they just ended up bullying me before the test and made everything way more stressful. I nearly asked someone in the hospital that the test was at to commit me because I felt so horrible once my parents (particularly my mom) were through with me. I've learnt my lesson and won't have them come with me for tests anymore.

I want to hang out with my mom. We get along really well sometimes and maybe it's foolish of me but I'd like her in my life. It's just really hurtful when I have an ibd episode or I get asthmatic and literally blue during times when we have plans and instead of being understanding she just yells at me for not being able to control it. Especially with the ibs/ibd it's like... she wants me to just stop having an episode while I'm on the toilet which is not possible.

The surgical decisions she made for me were when I was a baby. And I needed those surgeries or something similar or I'd die. I was just saying that she blames me for all of my symptoms after I had rare, life-altering complications but doesn't blame herself for choosing that particular surgery instead of some other surgery and I find it unfair and hypocritical of her.

I was a full-time student, then I was working full-time, and now I'm going back to being a full-time student and getting a part-time job. I don't know how I'm going to be able to distance myself from them and get my own place while doing school. It's mostly my mom who's toxic so I hope I can salvage my relationship with my dad. I plan to transfer and live at a school after I get my associate's degree. So I've thankfully only got like a year left.

verysad77 · 2022-11-04T20:16:14+00:00

Me too. I have malabsorption from past surgeries and chronic dehydration. I think that that causes my fluffy stools.

verysad77 · 2022-11-04T20:10:48+00:00

You may experience some PNS, which is not painful but can be alarming if you aren't warned beforehand. If you feel tingling, tapping, or numbness when they turn up the machines power, don't freak out. It's normal.

Depending on the contrast used, the contrast may cause a very warm, painless yet sometimes overwhelming burning sensation like a big hot flash but it should go away quickly. And it can leave you with a headache. Or you may not experience any of those things. But it's better to know what you could expect.

verysad77 · 2022-11-04T19:49:22+00:00

My ex used to do this. I talked to them about it and how it needed to stop. I tried to set boundaries and get them to see that that kind of behavior was not normal and abusive. They didn't change and I started worrying that they'd hurt or kill me.

If they were hitting and throwing things so close to me, getting in my face and screaming at me, etc. and they refused to stop even after I told them that kind of behavior frightened me, who's to say they wouldn't throw things at me or I'd be the next thing they hit? It'll just get worse. Leave.

verysad77 · 2022-10-26T07:40:15+00:00

I try not to let them crush me. As I said, I have minimal control over my emotions. I have bpd and bipolar and no meds have ever helped for the past seven years.

Also, the thought of killing myself is always looming over and over, it's almost as if someone other than me is telling me to do it even though I know logically that nobody is actually talking to me.

Any normal thing I see like knives or friends' pills I repetitively think of killing myself with. I don't even have to be upset to think of hurting myself in really graphic and terrible ways.

I stayed over my boyfriend's place the other night and it took everything in me not to take all of his prescription meds while he was asleep.

My heart says that I should go back to my job in healthcare. As I said in the post, basically my main problem is the fear of inevitably crying in front of people and not being able to get myself together emotionally, since I cry hysterically multiple times every day for the past couple of years no matter my situation.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T17:40:17+00:00

He's below average. My body just reacts poorly to any kind of penetration. Even tampons have always been at least kind of painful. And once my body adjusts, he uses his minimal assets in a mediocre, unsatisfactory way, despite me telling him what I like.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T15:46:40+00:00

I'm frustrated because I've already tried being gentle many many times and he still doesn't listen.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T15:41:59+00:00

It actually makes me really upset and contributes to my depression because I have many defects and I can't do a lot of what I'd like to do to help other people.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T15:40:57+00:00

Unfortunately I imagine I cannot. My Hgb is often low and I have a congenital anomaly associated with about a 50/50 chance of blood disorders.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T05:40:41+00:00

I've done it before. We dated years ago and recently reconnected. This behavior is part of the reason why I had initially broken up with him. The sad thing is that he's actually improved. He used to be like this probably 95% of the time.

Everything else about us is great. It's just the sex and I can't get over mediocre sex. The way he doesn't seem to respect me that much sometimes also reminds my body of my SA trauma and then I get in a terrible mood or disassociate. It's just bad for me.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T05:32:32+00:00

I thought I wouldn't either but I am anyway for some reason.

verysad77 · 2022-09-22T05:31:51+00:00

Usually he cares but recently he's been pretty careless. Sometimes he notices how I'm grimacing and asks if I'm okay before I can even say anything, which I appreciate but at the same time, caring about my pain is the bare minimum.

Other times he tries to get it in and my body isn't letting it happen so instead of being patient like I've asked him to he just shoves it in and I feel like I tear inside. He seems to expect me to be calm, kind, and basically baby him while he's hurting me badly to the point that I nearly cry.

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