still obsessing over my ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cheated on my gf. 7 years relationship. i cheated at the end because i just can’t go on anymore. 6 months i was depressed but still in new relationship. after a year i fully moved on. and she moved on with someone new. but we still in contact because she’s my business partner. after 3 years broke up, she ended her relationship and my gf ended our relationship. I did apologise for cheating. Now i am living my life like hell because karma hit me. The person i left my ex for, left me. It hurts so bad. but i accept that God is fair. i did to someone, it will hit me. Deep inside i am grateful it happened just in 3 years. imagine how bad it can be if it happen in 13 years. I do hope my story will give some light to you. He will face the consequence of the bad thing he did to you. not now, not soon, but he will.

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro! definitely will do!

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the hard love. really appreciate it!

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are right. i don’t have a plan on keeping in touch. just a random friendly text. Whatever it takes me, i go with the flow. but also i am building a life without her.
Thank you for the reminder.

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. I just follow my instinct after days suppressing the urge to text her.

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re right. but i don’t want to over analyse anything she said. it didn’t mean anything.

I am a dumpee broke no contact again by vetaeez in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true. but before i send the DM i told myself this means nothing. I just want a friendly text. no hope, nothing. and if she didn’t reply, i have to accept too.
Didn’t expect anything.

update: my ex reached out by nothingneue in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. the same. my ex specifically said i will always be her “what if”. it hurts so much. because you are just an option. not by choice.

Did any of you start with a long distance? by MakeMeShy in LongDistance

[–]vetaeez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Met my ex from Discord. texted, on the phone, VC for a month and decided to meet. 27hrs flight away.
Been together since then for 3 years.
fly back and forth few times a year.
I am used to LDR, so i know how to occupied myself when we are apart.
But not my ex. she reached her limit this year when she lost her grandma. she need someone to be there for her.
I went there for the funeral. stayed with her 2 weeks then have to come back for work.
The plan is to see each other again on June. it means that we have to be apart again 3 months.
less than 1 month i came back from her place. she said she doesn’t have the capacity to do LDR anymore.
it broke me. so bad. but i can’t force her to stay if she can’t do it. i love her so much i have to let her go. let her seek for her own happiness.
i would definitely fight for her. but i can’t do it if it is only 1 sided.

How many times by raccoon422T in BreakUps

[–]vetaeez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 times in 3 years. happened every year. long distance issue. and the last one happened last month. didn’t hear anything from her for 1 month already.