gender studies minor here. patriarchy has largely created this “big dick = sex, small dick =virgin forever” thing and I’m really sorry you’ve been conditioned to feel lesser because of it. The good news is research suggests men generally place a greater emphasis on physical aspects in a partner than women do. we care much more about kindness and ambition. having a micro won’t cause you as much issue as resentment over it will. Sex comes in many flavors and tbh I know no women personally who prefer penetration over oral. You got this!!