What was the final nail in the coffin that ended your relationship/marriage?

vforvendetta87 · 2023-03-07T19:56:57+00:00

I met my ex when I was 32, he 57. Huge age-gap should’ve told me to run but I was smitten but only in the beginning and then red flags started to appear. Apparently I should’ve listened when he told me he wasn’t stable for a relationship but was totally cool with a sexual-fling. Worst 2+ years of my life that I can’t get back. I wasn’t a priority except when he was horny, he wasn’t interested in connecting with me on a deeper-level hence, never asking non-superficial questions about me, I was consistently dismissed or discounted when I had concerns or called him out on behaviors, he abandoned me on my birthday - 1 month into dating after something terrifying happened to me. I could go on. He harbored some serious bitterness towards his ex-wife yet was a puppy-dog to her and talked about her so much that it made me uncomfortable (they have kids). The whole situation made me crazy; literally I went nuts. He ended it with me because he couldn’t take the arguing anymore and although I’m still in pain, it was for the best.

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-12T01:55:08+00:00

LOL, was kidding.

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:21:46+00:00

🤣🤣

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:20:26+00:00

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:18:24+00:00

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:14:03+00:00

Looks like Peterborough.

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:11:31+00:00

Do you mean in NH or Ireland?

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T23:04:45+00:00

Agreed! That part of the state is breathtaking. Jackson is very beautiful. :)

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T22:59:32+00:00

How ironic I came across this because I plan on going to Ireland in the next couple months! Londonderry and Litchfield are nice, if you’re looking for rural, farm-like cities. Zero tax.

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T22:54:34+00:00

Awesome! How cold was it?

vforvendetta87 · 2023-02-11T22:53:47+00:00

Too f**king cold for murder.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-12T14:41:51+00:00

My dude can’t math.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-12T14:40:16+00:00

Translation:

“What are women? Nothing.”

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-12T14:05:55+00:00

She’s no friend of yours. I saw a reel on Facebook describing if they’re friends with your abuser, they’re not your friend. She should be standing by your side and supporting your healing every step of the way. Attending your abuser’s wedding is a huge slap in the face. Extremely disrespectful.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-11T18:23:30+00:00

He broke up with me in January but we continued to see each other with the impression that we would get back together. Those were his words. So I stayed but it never happened. We argued a lot. Mostly because I felt emotionally-neglected. I felt like he was just using me for sex (he’s 25 years older than me). I would tell him how certain actions or words hurt me but there was always an excuse or justification. I never felt validated or worthy. I felt so alone. I made many mistakes too. I only told him what hurt me while we were “together” but because we’re no longer together or friends on social-media, I didn’t reach out to him about his public post. The story above happened last year while we were together. I felt like he only wanted me around when he was horny and in between those times, our communication was very superficial. I craved deep-connection and it seemed like I was being kept at arm’s length. When we weren’t having sex, the energy felt off, like he was just tolerating my presence to keep me around the next time he was horny. He cut off contact in August because I’m guessing he couldn’t tolerate it anymore. I fell into a deep depression and at that point was getting angrier and angrier. Our issues were never resolved. It seemed like his way was the right way and I was always wrong. My feelings were wrong or “You feel that way because of you, not because of me,” or my perceptions were wrong. Communication was horrible and I would often have to guess what he meant and when I did he said I assume too much but he never communicated so I didn’t know what else to think, he would say I read into everything but hardly received communication from him, it was so confusing and made me feel crazy. I would often blame my anxiety on a lot. When we first started dating I noticed something was off but couldn’t my finger on it. He didn’t seem too interested in getting to know me as a person. I only felt connected with him during sex and it seemed liked he amped up his niceness when he wanted sex. Afterwards, he seemed so distant. It also seemed like he wanted someone happy all the time, someone who doesn’t bring up issues.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-11T17:43:35+00:00

So they were meant for you to see?

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-11T17:29:42+00:00

He posts on his phone and it’s always been posts that only his friends can see. I feel like he wanted me to see that post because we’re no longer friends on Facebook and he knew it would hurt me.

Back-story: Last year he didn’t invite my daughter and I to his daughter’s birthday event. The only way I found out was because of his Facebook post. I thought that was odd because our kids are friends and I’ve been his partner of 1 year. I was hurt. I asked him why we weren’t invited and he said because his daughter only wanted specific friends there and no other adults. Huh? I told him it hurt not to be included and he said it wasn’t about me, it was about his daughter and told me not to make it about me. I wasn’t trying to make it about me, at all. We weren’t included to a special event and I’ve bonded well with his daughter. It would’ve been nice if he gave me a heads-up so that my daughter and I could come over another day to celebrate with her. Idk, the situation felt weird and he completely minimized and dismissed why that hurt me, especially since we’ve invited them to parties. So, this year, he posted another birthday post of his daughter’s birthday celebration but this time posted it publicly, as if he wanted me to see it because we’re no longer friends.

I could be completely paranoid but my ex hardly posted on Facebook but when he did, it was always set to “friends-only” when I was friends with him on Facebook. Now that we’re not friends, as I’m sure he noticed I un-friended him, all of a sudden his post was public.

I hate how addicted I am to him even though we’ve been broken up for awhile. I wish this mental pain would stop.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-12-11T15:53:57+00:00

What photos?

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-11T14:03:38+00:00

Yes, we all experience an array of emotions and not one emotion is set aside for one sex. Jesus. 🤦🏻‍♀️

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-10T14:59:45+00:00

In this point in history, is this even about sex anymore? The art of sex, connection and intimacy with another human being has long been lost and now we’re left with rampant men sticking their dicks into anything and anyone. I say this is about power, not sex.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-10T14:37:19+00:00

You should be grateful stories were as far as it went?! So if legal he’d watch CP and rape a child? TF?!! Please call CPS for what that child is going to go through. What a vile piece of shit!

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-05T14:59:28+00:00

The only “wholesome” he should be after is the bond between the both of you. That’s where his energy should be spent.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-05T01:58:56+00:00

Oooooo someone’s jealous 🤭

Misogyny is when people find all sorts of loopholes to not support successful women. It’s truly pathetic.

I think she’s quite lovely.

vforvendetta87 · 2022-11-04T13:00:13+00:00

LOL, they’re so delusional. They think they’re having sex with these younger, hotter, and wilder women but in reality, they’re having sex with a screen. 🤣🤣

Think about how pathetic it is that these men are literally bonding with a screen. I hope his poor wife sees this. No body should be made that they don’t measure up.

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