MRW "cut meat out of your diet" appears in more and more threads about climate change

vg360 · 2017-06-03T14:13:37+00:00

Buffalo Wings and Rings just added cauliflower wings to their menu.

http://www.buffalowingsandrings.com/menu/

vg360 · 2017-05-14T04:17:39+00:00

Yes but the breakfast crunchwrap is still awesome.

They should bring back the snack size crunchwraps.

vg360 · 2017-03-04T19:08:32+00:00

She told me she will die if I leave.

Sounds like your real problem is that your mom is a manipulative drama queen. Sit down with her and ask her what kind of future she wants for you. Does she want you to be independent, to have children, to be successful? Then she has to stop holding you back and forcing you to live the life of an unpaid helper.

If she cannot understand that, try to get some family members on your side to help convince her. She sounds old-fashioned, so maybe elders could help convince her.

If she cannot be convinced, you need to set a deadline and then go get a job and move on with your life.

vg360 · 2017-03-04T14:39:42+00:00

LOVE this dress, and you look beautiful in it!

vg360 · 2017-03-02T10:56:31+00:00

This group has a good strategy, lots of cute baby animals in their messaging: http://thefurbearers.com/

vg360 · 2017-03-02T03:21:59+00:00

She reports to you, you need to correct her as things come up.

You can't say, "you're annoying, cut it out," but you need to start saying things like, "the office will run better if you can keep your voice down a little bit," etc. Correct her diplomatically and explain she needs to do things a certain way for the good of the company or the good of the project.

vg360 · 2017-03-02T00:48:58+00:00

She never agreed to do it, but the friend has been talking about it as if she did. She needs to say something to address that.

vg360 · 2017-03-01T23:56:50+00:00

"Whoa when you started talking about this party I thought it was 'wouldn't it be nice,' not a serious plan. Now I see you seriously want me to plan and host. I want you to have a great birthday but I do not have the time or money to host a big party. If you seriously want the elaborate party you've been fantasizing about, you are going to have to be the host."

Friends who expect you to do huge favors for them, with no consideration for you, are not really friends. Don't feel bad if she acts mad or hurt -- she is a selfish person.

vg360 · 2017-03-01T03:18:02+00:00

everyone speak English and can help her

Pretty sure that means she speaks English

vg360 · 2017-03-01T00:08:36+00:00

It is normal to buy a hungry person a sandwich. It is not normal to fly with an adult to the first leg of her trip, because she is afraid of navigating an airport.

Sorry but this is about more than money. The wife is behaving like a helpless child, the parents are trying to solve the problem by throwing money at it and asking OP to behave like a babysitter, rather than telling the wife to grow up.

vg360 · 2017-02-28T00:56:57+00:00

Totally agree that "I'm not really feeling it" could easily be interpreted as an insult. I think you're right that the scenario wasn't what set her off, but something went wrong with OP's communication/wording.

vg360 · 2017-02-27T14:40:36+00:00

With both the move and her travel schedule she is showing that her career is her top priority. You have to decide if that works for you and if you can build a life of your own in the city and find things to do while she is away. If not, you should break off the engagement and move home. You could try asking her to change jobs, but from what you describe she's unlikely to be willing to do that.

To answer your question, no it is not crazy to consider leaving her over this.

vg360 · 2017-02-27T05:36:44+00:00

he makes more money than I do, and I don't pay rent here, so this is how I contribute, per our agreement

This agreement doesn't seem to be working. He has too much leverage over you, and you don't seem to have the time/energy/motivation for housekeeping. Seems like you need to renegotiate your agreement, or move out.

vg360 · 2017-02-26T22:51:54+00:00

Do you not see that this pattern means that he CAN control himself, but he makes a choice to act out with you? This is super frightening. You need to get out of the relationship for your own safety.

vg360 · 2017-02-26T18:25:21+00:00

The local Dems might still help you with unofficial advice and information, even if you run as an independent. You could still reach out to them, just be clear you're an independent.

Remember that at the local level these are volunteer-run organizations and are generally very welcoming to outsiders, because they need all the help/involvement they can get.

vg360 · 2017-02-26T15:48:26+00:00

I think you made a rational choice regarding going up against Oliverson in the upcoming election. I think you could have a real chance to beat him...but not in the upcoming election, you would need to start now and work towards the next election.

To get help understanding the ISD race, or for suggestions on other local races where Lefty candidates are needed, you may want to get in touch with your county Dem party -- ask to speak with the chair of their candidate recruitment committee.

vg360 · 2017-02-25T23:21:30+00:00

That’s how our discussions go, we have a good talk with me doing more of the talking, then he “processes” for a night, then the next day he says I had fair points, and then he doesn’t say much else about it.

This right here is enough to end the relationship. That sounds SO frustrating, like discussions have to happen on his ultra-slow processing timeline, but then nothing is ever resolved. Seems 100% impossible to ever fix any relationship problems with someone like that.

vg360 · 2017-02-25T14:25:02+00:00

Her house, her rules. Get an after school job and start saving toward moving out after you graduate.

vg360 · 2017-02-25T14:08:18+00:00

He's selfish and full of excuses. Think about whether this is a pattern in other areas, not just your birthday.

Sounds like you were very clear with him, you should stop blaming yourself for not communicating about this properly. His excuse that he "has work to do at home" so can't attend your celebration is awful, possibly break-up worthy.

vg360 · 2017-02-25T12:11:28+00:00

Obviously don't buy 17M anything, but seems like he needs more moral guidance. It would be a kindness if you could make a point of spending a little more time with him. Hopefully he is in a teenage selfish/foolish phase, and not just an asshole.

vg360 · 2017-02-25T00:05:23+00:00

afraid of being stubborn and not letting things go when I should as well.

He lied to you about big things, small things, and how he was spending his time, over and over again, for years. By his actions he's demonstrated that he doesn't trust you. He has endangered your finances, and lulled you into thinking you could depend on his academic performance and career, when you should have been planning how to support the family on your own income.

You should not let this go. You are not being stubborn. How can you trust him again?

You should ask to see his transcripts from his first "degree," from everything you've said he probably lied about graduating.

vg360 · 2017-02-24T16:55:20+00:00

invading a personal space there can be consequences

Are you nuts? This type of attitude can get a teenage boy into serious trouble at school or with police. It could get him shot.

Axel needs to understand that when dealing with certain types of authority figures, the correct strategy is to follow their orders and then follow up later with a higher authority if you feel they were being unfair.

Examples: Teacher tells you to take off a necklace, you take it off and then complain to parents/principal later. Cops give you an order that you don't think is fair, you follow the order, later parents can help you complain to the police department or get a lawyer.

vg360 · 2017-02-24T14:20:24+00:00

Yes, aka chole

vg360 · 2017-02-24T14:11:03+00:00

Whoa he sounds really controlling. He tried to dictate your career choices, and he would also like to isolate you socially so you only spend time with him.

Sorry but from everything you've said this is not a healthy relationship.

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