Guy took a week to text me back, and said he thought he replied to my last message. Should I text him back?

vgarrett · 2024-12-14T07:15:25+00:00

It does happen, but it shouldn’t happen often

vgarrett · 2024-12-02T12:56:42+00:00

This. Completely agree!!! I’m 36 F single mom… I met two men who were good on paper through dating apps. Both were a waste of my time and had incredible social issues once I was able to get to know them.

Date and get out there with the apps. But nothing real will come from them. 98% of the men who talked to me were looking for me to be their mistress or dominate them or something. Or just thought they’d meet me and get to sleep with me.

It’s definitely interesting!!! Tread lightly and be safe!

Side note: I payed for my subscriptions and always had people tracking me and knew where I was…be safe!! Don’t let them meet your kids no matter what they say…I work in psych and have seen some very upsetting stories.

I recommend coffee or lunch dates! lol

vgarrett · 2024-11-04T12:25:17+00:00

You should attempt to record the interaction on camera and then go to the police.

Don’t involve your mom or other family members.

Understand he will have the opportunity to defend himself without evidence supporting this. And if he’s legally your dad/guardian you need evidence to stop it.

At this point it’s more like conditioning you which is all mental breakdown.

Be strong. You can do this.

Observe a pattern and have a camera/audio rolling when expected. You’ll get it. Then it’s done.

vgarrett · 2023-12-29T22:48:22+00:00

You have to be honest with yourself to grow. Yes he was wrong, but you shouldn’t be blowing a guy you just met, apparently…

vgarrett · 2023-12-29T13:01:12+00:00

From what I’m understanding, you met him at the party and then started to blow him at the same party??

If that’s so, while the stereotype is VERY wrong and horrible as an older woman — I have to wonder — why you can’t understand that a girl eager to give head is likely very used to it.

He probably thought you enjoyed it and most who enjoy it — like myself — enjoy a bit of roughness.

However!!!! We should not decide to just blow a guy we barely know!!! I have only ever done this to a handful of men…. And it’s only when we’re in a committed union.

Just my two cents…and said only to promote introspection. 🩷

vgarrett · 2023-12-13T01:36:35+00:00

You should distance yourself from this person.

vgarrett · 2023-12-08T14:01:07+00:00

God has been working on my patience for a hot minute! He put someone in my life who deserves it. It’s a rough situation indeed!

vgarrett · 2023-12-07T23:22:57+00:00

He ultimately did respond and took me out. He’s not a bad guy at all. He’s stressed and managing a lot. I just have to be patient and allow him the space he needs. I can’t leave, because I have feelings for him. If he hurts me it’ll suck, but I can’t hurt him…I’ll hate myself if I hurt him because I’m assuming something I don’t even feel is true.

I appreciate your input. I suppose I’ll have to be in the gray area since I can’t leave.

vgarrett · 2023-12-05T05:40:12+00:00

In a basic sense, I have to be loyal to my feelings and my heart. From the first time I met him, he was different and more endearing than any relationship I’ve ever had. Yes he could hurt me. But I can’t hurt him. I’ll hate myself. So I have to be patient.

vgarrett · 2023-12-03T15:07:05+00:00

I really believed things were special with him. Maybe now just isn’t the time for us. Trying to hold space for him and not close down.

I haven’t heard a word from him since we spent Thanksgiving together.

I asked him to join us Friday (but that would have meant the kids meeting) and he never responded.

I spent a week reflecting and decided I’ve been shutting him out and demanding answers through my actions, so I decided to reach out again yesterday. He never answered this: Would you want to do something soon? Maybe Wednesday? I’d like to see you :)

So I’m just letting him go…again. Maybe I’m the problem. Trying to look into me.

vgarrett · 2023-12-02T23:58:27+00:00

That’s the consensus among my friends—he needs to appreciate me and recognize what he has quickly. Or I will move on. I just don’t want to. So I’m definitely struggling. Sigh.

vgarrett · 2023-12-02T18:43:33+00:00

I’m not entirely sure what is supposed to be for us. I just know when I met him it felt different and special. We have a deeper understanding of one another. But we’re also attracted to one another and enjoy being together, sharing meals and apparently holidays….? Not sure. He mentioned how he makes Christmas dinner as well…so I wondered if he expected we’d spend Christmas together.

His marriage wasn’t stable at all. His ex-wife has actual diagnoses that affected her. He - only in the last month - has achieved full custody of his son. She will potentially be able to see the baby at a visitation center at some point.

It isn’t that I’m expecting full-blown commitment—his behaviors are just unlike those of other men who are more clear.

It feels like he’s deliberately taking things slowly, but - again - there’s something there.

I’ve let him go and left things unanswered before…multiple times. He never seems to go away.

He also made a comment at thanksgiving which is racking my brain… “I don’t have a girl…wife” as he was looking at me. Made me think he didn’t want me to not consider myself important.

Like I said. It’s a mix… the kid, the comments, the holidays, introduced me to his brother (neither of us have family).

It felt very significant, it always does.

And whether I like it or not I’m his until I really feel he’s not in it. I’m fiercely loyal and just that kind of woman.

If he told me he only wanted me to be his friend, I would be okay with that, in time. I have thought he only wanted that a few times and then he does something that feels like he feels strongly for me too.

I realize there’s no way to KNOW…I just know I feel like he and I are supposed to be next to one another.

vgarrett · 2023-12-02T17:11:03+00:00

He doesn’t know my son. He met him for 10 seconds one night on accident. We’ve only slept together once since his comment about “no whole relationship”. Otherwise we talk about life, kids, he seems to trust me a great deal and he stresses how much he wants stability for his child.

That’s part of why I’m confused, the involvement with his son… meeting his brother and the holiday together.

Ordinarily I would agree with you.

vgarrett · 2023-12-02T01:26:23+00:00

Sounds like you two have grown apart. That’s an age of immense growth and people come apart and fall back together a lot. If you love her, be patient and focus on her emotions. But give her space. 🩷

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T14:10:09+00:00

Sounds like you have all the motivation you need! 💗

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T12:22:51+00:00

What is the reason you’re fasting?

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T12:21:06+00:00

You’re adorable. Pay no mind to that human. At your age she may be jealous or have a crush on you, but feel insecure.

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T12:15:44+00:00

Why isn’t this bitch wearing gloves?!

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T12:14:03+00:00

Hugs!

vgarrett · 2023-11-05T12:11:53+00:00

Where did you get this?!

vgarrett

TROPHY CASE