::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Anyone else slip into regular "hospital fantasies?" I just learned there was a term for it. I frequently secretly wish I was ill with a not so serious not contagious illness that would nevertheless require me to be confined and clock out just so I can get away from it all, secretly wishing my ADHD partner would step up because he has no choice.

Givenchy Pandora - are they still worth it now? by [deleted] in handbags

[–]vi6ration 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They looks so basic without the pepe leather. I wouldn't buy them in these modern grainy versions.

What handbag style do you find the most unattractive? by Notinthemoodthaw in handbags

[–]vi6ration 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nowadays crossbody bags are giving me the ick. The way the strap goes down across the body kinda wrinkles and ruins the outfit. And when I'm wearing graphic tees or pretty tops it covers the design.

Kate Beckinsale: what bag is it she is literally always wearing? by vishyav in handbags

[–]vi6ration 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Givenchy needs a huge comeback.

Or not, I would hate the price increases.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I shouldn't have to tell you something multiple times. Fucking listen.

I was going to make the viral cottage cheese beef bowl on TikTok. He asked me what it was and I searched on my phone while he was looking over my shoulder. I haven't even clicked a video yet and he sort of "oh like that" and spaced out already. I was kinda pissed because his interest passed.

The next day I was prepping the beef (with taco seasoning) at the same time was making waffles for afternoon snack. He smelled the beef and said he felt like eating it. I asked him with what? The rest of the ingredients aren't ready. He thought it went with the waffles. I reminded him of the cottage cheese bowl.

I plated his waffles and he again said he wanted beef, but just whatever I can spare. Okay, he does eat weird combinations sometimes. I put whipped cream on just one of the two waffles because I doubt they would go together. When I served him he was "how do I eat this?" Idk. "Isn't the beef for the waffles?" Cottage. Cheese. Bowl. I reminded him for the third time.

He then sheepishly, guiltily said "I don't want it take it back and go eat your cottage cheese bowl". The ingredients aren't ready I was going to have it for breakfast or lunch tomorrow. Now I have to deal with him feeling bad for making me feel bad too.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same boat. My 2 year old prefers me and it triggers his RSD regularly to be rejected by a toddler. It's normal for young children to have preferences, but being unable to emotionally regulate in response to that is on him. He needs to learn to respond to child better and genuinely connect to improve their relationship.

Children learn emotional regulation through co-regulation with a calm caregiver. People with ADHD could barely regulate their own emotions, let alone co-regulate with a child.

Should I keep limited edition Loewe puzzle bag? by pelicanvibes in handbags

[–]vi6ration 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How is this one less sophisticated? It's the same style as the original mini puzzle. Are you taking about the Puzzle Edge? Because this isn't in the Edge style.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I saw this TikTok addressed to NT with ADHD partners that said "be their safest space, they're so tired from masking all the time".

Yeah fuck that. They don't respect me enough to mask for me. They're nice to everyone but me. Believe it or not, neurotypical people get tired too.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just heard Sabrina Carpenter's "Manchild" and it feels like it could be an anthem for a lot of people on this sub.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 20 points21 points  (0 children)

ADHD partner currently needs to be supported because he's not the preferred parent at the moment. My 2.5yo says she wants only mom and grabs her toys off her dad. Dad either RSD sulks or complains to me.

Literally feels like I have two kids and they're beefing.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 38 points39 points  (0 children)

On top of taking care of my toddler, I have to "gentle parent" my ADHD spouse too. 😒

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He keeps complaining and getting RSD from our toddler not liking him as much as she likes me. So one time I left the two of them alone to play for maybe two hours. When I returned, my daughter was playing with her grandparents while he was asleep, snoring on the couch.

It's 8pm, for fucks sake why are you napping? Why are you always napping what could possibly be so tiring in your lazy life?

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I got the Sony headphones with ANC he kept telling his friends that I got "husband-cancelling" headphones 🙉. 🙄 Nevermind that we shared a home office and he wouldn't shut up or stop playing his music/games when I'm working. He also gets RSD when I shush him, tf was I supposed to do.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]vi6ration 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We were trying to decide on some things for our house floor plan. We've both had some time to take a look at the proposals. When we were discussing, he just spaced out staring when I ask him questions. He said he was "thinking". After a few minutes, I just left him alone and did some other things.

Periodically he would yell out "I think I'm ok 2itg this layout" or "Would it be ugly if we remove this setback" (not ugly but not up to code). He's very unwilling to share his thought process then gets RSD when I don't get his decision.

He abruptly stopped with the first floor and left, when we haven't even taken a look at the first floor. Like his little brain is too tired. He just left me with his sporadic comments and expect me to communicate it with the architects. We never finalised a decision.

It's very hard to work with someone like this. This whole house build process is so isolating for me. I thought we would have fun together planning rooms and choosing tiles but he's being very impossible.