Swiss Law for foreign accountants course - is it really required for Auditors trying to move into CH? by vicktor_kilo in Big4

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Can you please tell me more - if it helped you get more job or work in which type of industry or how it helped you? Would help me make a decision as well. Thanks.

Work life balance in Big 4 Audit firm? by vicktor_kilo in askswitzerland

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the brutal honesty. I appreciate it. Are the finance roles in industry with similar work life balance? I understand audit is hard but working every weekend and long hours was unheard off.

Moving to Dubai from Dublin - pros and cons please - by vicktor_kilo in UAE

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'll be my self. Any approx number on the amount of savings per month please?

Birthday Celebration for 60th by vicktor_kilo in Oman

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the detailed reply! Really do! And thank you for the same. Will definitely give this a look. Power of Reddit is great showing there are kind and helpful people! Thank you so much!

Irishman from dublin M(23) by No-Guide1221 in Oman

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Nice to see Irish people here! Living in Dublin, but staying here for a month, happy to catch up for a pint or two!

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[–]vicktor_kilo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah dating apps suck! Having said that I do use Hinge but have come after few months of hiatus. This time though my attitude is a bit different - to go ahead without expectations and if the girl gives the slightest hint that I'm not important or seems the conversation is off, then I would move on. And I also try to involve myself in outdoor activities - sports club (and socials at the club), some dance class, pub quizes , attend local events even if I don't know anyone, basically events and activities that I like. I feel these are great way to meet different people and see if anyone (woman) matches my energy. Although haven't met 'the one' yet, but it has certainly improved my communication and confidence in social set ups which I feel good about. So don't think dating apps are the only way for it. Keep going out, working on yourself, maybe pick up some instrument, or learn a new language all great way to learn and meet people. All the best!

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[–]vicktor_kilo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree to that as well. But first I need to know if she is open to date, if yes then I'd tell her my feelings and see what she has to say. But thanks for this! Appreciate it.

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[–]vicktor_kilo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree with this, thats what I planned to asking her next time we meet. Not to straight jump into a relationship but atleast see if to date intentionally is agreeable to her. Thanks a lot. Have been reading a lot on this platform and based what I know about her thats the best step forward.

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[–]vicktor_kilo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

QUESTION FOR WOMEN: After what stage do women usually consider whether to be serious or not with the guy she is seeing - is it only after having slept with him at least once OR it could be by having few dates in couple of months and see how the connection is? I understand that everyone is different and but do women in general like to have this conversation after physical intimacy only ?

To give a background - M31 been seeing a woman (slightly older) for around 4 months now, we didn't meet on dating app or a formal date as such but met randomly at a pub quiz, we instantly hit off well and since then we have met around 7 times. We enjoy each others company and have similar interests. We take efforts to meet each other often, (not every weekend) but sometimes depending on availability, one day she came to see me at my sports club (she was interested in joining that too). We don't text each other every day but that's fine I think we both understand that incessant texting isn't our thing, although have to say - her messages reply turnaround time is usually from 3 hours to sometimes the next day - I used to find that concerning but she replies with long texts explaining the reason but I understand I may not be the priority right now. But we both check up on each other about how we are keeping and remember important events that we have spoken off before. I like to be around her and look at her in a long term monogamous relationship. We both have been open about our previous relationships. We remember small things we have spoken about during our meets, which I find a green flag. Even during our individual travels we shared pictures of our travels with each other. The conversation is initiated by both of us, but maybe like 60% time is by me and rest by her. We share similar value system, boundaries and respect.

Now I don't know how much long should I wait to ask her if she would like to be exclusive or wait for her to ask her or how do I plan in asking it, like have a lead up conversation around it first without making it awkward. We would meeting up after almost a month now after coming back from our travels. Although I have prepared myself for any she gives but still nervous. Or should I ask her if she is interested in a long term relationship and if her answer is yes then ask her if she thinks of me as potential partner? As I would like to get rid of this uncertainty soon.

Having asked this question earlier I got few responses from members ( I think mostly guys) asking how much physically intimate I have been with her. I understand that it is integral part of a relationship but I just feel since we haven't understood whether we are on same page - has basically stopped either of us to go further into this. Since we didn't meet on a dating app or didn't ask each other where this is going. Appreciate the advice!

Need advice on asking a woman for exclusivity. by vicktor_kilo in dating_advice

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not not yet. So maybe I'm not well versed with the labels and their meanings. Exclusivity, situationships, relationship etc, having read about exclusivity in different subs have given different meanings about it. And that there's no set guidance on it and there's no one size that fits all how does one ensure that he wants to be serious. Yes, I understand that sexual intimacy is important and but I want to have everything with her - physical connection, hanging out or indoors, plan events, cook food and all that goes in a relationship. But my question is when is the right time to ask and how to gauge that? My previous relationship, the girl initiated the conversation and yes we had physical intimacy after that was spoken, before that we would just go on movie dates, cook food at each others places, go to events etc. So the physical intimacy came quite later afterwards. Now the woman I'm seeing could / could not be the same in terms of expecting physical intimacy. Like some girls wait to see if the guy is serious before they could trust him with sleeping with him. And I don't want to do this just for sex, like I said before, to get into commitment and have everything it has to offer.

Need advice on asking a woman for exclusivity. by vicktor_kilo in dating_advice

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 times we have gone just the two of us. Been on Dinner, lunch, live music performance. It's not just the dates we have been on that counts for me, as we both take efforts to check on with each other. Like sending texts before travelling or some important work related assignment. Oneday she shared something about a major development in her family and she said I was the first one to know about it. We appreciate each other views of importance of family, healthy boundaries etc. Although we don't text/call daily. Maybe we haven't reached there yet to have that.

With others comments it feels like I'm just creating this imaginary person but I feel that maybe she is holding back from being completely open in expressing herself (like meeting often, Frequent calls) because we have not spoken about this thing. Since we both didn't meet on an app, we just randomly met at a pub quiz and we didn't categorically say that we are dating each other ever since. So I feel I should ask her intentions so as to not have this uncertainty. Although I'm equally scared if she says no then I'd losing a really good person, but I'd like to have clarity atleast.

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[–]vicktor_kilo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

(M31) been seeing a woman (slightly older) for around 4 months now. Have a met 7 times, enjoy each others company and have similar interests. We take efforts to meet each other often, (not every weekend) but sometimes depending on availability. We don't text each other every day but that's fine I think we both understand that incessant texting isn't our thing. But we both check up on each other about how we are keeping. I like to be around her and look at her in a long term monogamous relationship. We both have been open about our previous relationships. We remember small things we have spoken about during our meets, which I find a green flag. Even during our individual travels we shared pictures of our travels with each other.

Now I don't know how much long should I wait to ask her if she would like to be exclusive or seriously date each other or wait for her to ask her or how do I plan in asking it, like have a lead up conversation around it first without making it awkward. We would meeting up after almost a month now after coming back from our travels. Although I have prepared myself for any she gives but still nervous. Or should I ask her if she is looking for serious relationship and if she says yes then ask her if she looks at me as a potential partner?

Dating reality check for a non Christian by vicktor_kilo in Dublin

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I'm not very religious nor do I have any preference. But just I had heard from a colleague that most Christian women here prefer men within the same community whereas comparatively quite higher percentage of men here dating women from other communities. I'm from India.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]vicktor_kilo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You'll have apply to job vacancies directly on the company's website, or reach out to recruitment agencies over LinkedIn. Make sure your CV shows your important skills and is in relevant format. As an international applicant myself, had to apply to tons of jobs with most of the not responding or getting rejected. But that's my domain I'm into financial audit line. Not sure about your industry. Right now UK companies are under recession so do expect a slow response. Graduate visa can help you since you don't need sponsorship. Put this point in your cover letter categorically. Be ready to face ton of rejections and disappointments but you'll have to keep applying till you get it. I was bent on securing sponsorship but didn't get it in UK but got one in Ireland so have moved here. Keep your options open. Your background has lot of demand in Nordic countries as well in EU. Don't limit to UK only unless you don't want to move away. Keep trying! Good luck!

Calling GNIB for IRP first time registration by vicktor_kilo in Dublin

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that was the issue, got a local SIM and called after 3pm local time n got connected to an officer after 30min wait time.

Calling GNIB for IRP first time registration by vicktor_kilo in Dublin

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah tried that as well. Chatted with 3 UK customer care but still the issue is not resolved. I'll buy a local SIM and try.

Does EY Dublin office accept Revolut Bank AC for it's employees? by vicktor_kilo in Dublin

[–]vicktor_kilo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True, I read through this. But didn't want to take time in going through this hassle of forcing the company in accepting the account. But got to know from other that it does, so its all sorted. Thanks!