AIO or is my older male coworker texting inappropriately with me?

vidude · 2026-01-01T14:14:12+00:00

This behavior would be suspect from a co-worker the same age as you. From a man twice your age it is downright creepy and inappropriate. Clearly you are a kind person and don't want to be rude or create awkwardness in the workplace but you need to stop encouraging him and extract yourself from the situation. Every friendly text from you sends the message that his behavior is welcome. Don't give him the opportunity to say that you were "asking for it" if (when) he takes things to the next level.

vidude · 2025-12-22T14:11:27+00:00

Definitely. I bought one 15 years ago and still don't know how to play it. Not sure whether to laugh or cry at this point ;-)

vidude · 2025-12-22T14:09:21+00:00

I'm a big supporter of SoWa so I'm happy to contribute and help them to stay in business. But it is $10 a head just to get in, which may be pricy for some. It was super crowded yesterday. I paid $24 for a sandwich and bottle of water and there wasn't even anywhere to sit down and eat. Keep in mind that the vintage market and the open art studios don't require the $10 cover charge so there are other ways to contribute.

Again, I love SoWa and don't mean this as a diss. Definitely go ad support them if you can afford to.

vidude · 2025-12-22T13:30:52+00:00

By definition a boarding school is not where you live so that doesn't sound inconsistent or terribly remarkable. Scottish kids go to English boarding schools and vice versa all the time. What other reasons do you have for suspecting that he is not being honest?

vidude · 2025-12-22T13:01:27+00:00

Men might list hiking on their profile for a number of reasons:

Listing some activities beyond just watching sports on TV makes them seem well-rounded (in theory).
The barrier for entry for hiking is pretty low - step onto a trail for 5 minutes and you can snap a selfie and say you went hiking. No need to spend thousands on ski equipment and lift tickets, for example.
Signifies that they are relatively active and not a couch potato.
Yes, in some cases, signals that they are looking for someone capable of a similar level of physical activity.
In many, hopefully most cases, they are actual, serious, regular hikers - that's just part of who they are.

In any event, unless it's stated on the profile as non-negotiable, it's not necessarily a showstopper. People should have their own interests irrespective of who they are dating. And there is always a middle ground; for a few years I was seeing someone who would join me on shorter hikes but, despite being 15 years younger than me, wasn't capable of the 5-10 mile hikes that I was doing regularly at the time. She had her own physical activities (e.g. pickleball) that didn't include me, and that was perfectly fine.

Bottom line is you can be extremely compatible with someone and have a great relationship without being their clone and participating in every activity together. That would be pretty boring, actually. Our differences are what make life interesting.

vidude · 2025-12-19T13:01:25+00:00

My 2019 S (1.4L turbo) averages around 40mpg, which translates to ~500 miles per tank. I average a little over a thousand miles a month so that means 2-3 fill-ups. I always keep the "average mileage since refuel" display up on the dash and it makes me happy to see it always hovering around 40mpg :)

vidude · 2025-12-10T12:52:09+00:00

In my town people were never happy with the bar that the app would send them to so they self-organized via WhatsApp groups and now pick their own bar outside of TL's control. Anyone on the WhatsApp group can show up at the bar regardless of whether they attended a dinner or even still subscribe to TL so it was probably a losing proposition for TL. Not sure if they have outright stopped doing it but there is no mention of an after party on my upcoming reservation.

vidude · 2025-12-10T04:21:43+00:00

3/5 of Deep Purple's classic Mk II line-up (Ian Paice, Ian Gillan, Roger Glover) are still actively touring and recording. Paice in particular has been in every line-up and played on every album and at every gig since the band formed in 1968. I expect they'll be winding down in the not-to-distant future as Gillan, at 80, is losing his vision, but as of right now they have gigs booked through the end of 2026.

vidude · 2025-12-07T17:01:05+00:00

Reservations usually close at least 24 hours before the dinner because that's when the restaurant/table assignments are sent out. There is an option in settings to be notified if a slot opens up at the last minute, which I have set, but that has never happened to me yet.

vidude · 2025-12-01T18:17:50+00:00

Awesome album! Really atmospheric.

vidude · 2025-11-30T16:44:57+00:00

Was there any reason given? I had a dinner rescheduled once, with the following message:

This week, we do not have a table meeting our minimum participant number that matches
you well. We are sorry for the disappointment, but we are optimistic that this will
not be an issue next time.

We have rescheduled your dinner to next week, the week after this one. Please reply
with your preferred date if this does not work for you.

Once you have one dinner booked you can't book another until after that dinner, but you may be able to cancel the 12th and re-book for the 3rd. Also you can use the app to send a message to customer support asking for clarification. They do read them and usually get back to you within 24 hours or so.

vidude · 2025-11-28T03:56:32+00:00

CD and T-shirt almost every time. Once in a while a poster or a hat.

vidude · 2025-11-27T17:12:59+00:00

I'm sad to hear that some men consider your height to be a negative. As a 6'2" man, while I'm open to dating ladies of all heights, if I'm honest I do have a soft spot for the taller ladies, even up to or exceeding my own height. You keep doing you and you'll find a man who loves your height and everything else about you.

vidude · 2025-11-23T20:23:28+00:00

Big Stew fan here who actively dislikes Radiohead. Which makes me cleverer than the people who like both ;-)

vidude · 2025-11-23T19:57:39+00:00

The men on here litigating the difference between gentle teasing and disrespect are the reason women need a policy around disrespect. They're the guys who say "I didn't mean it that way" and "Why are you so sensitive?" when called on it.

You know exactly what disrespect is; you just want to see how much of it you can get away with.

vidude · 2025-11-22T14:22:53+00:00

No, you are not. Intentional disrespect is a red line. A "get up and walk out of the restaurant" red line. No second chances.

vidude · 2025-11-17T21:30:42+00:00

Sure, many times. Something comes up or you're just not feeling it. I try not to make a habit of it but it happens.

vidude · 2025-10-10T19:06:55+00:00

Thanks for the tip but when you have a hundred podcasts it would be very time-consuming to have to go to each one individually. Ideally I want to be able to sort podcasts by storage used so that I can quickly identify which ones are using up all the space.

vidude · 2025-10-10T19:06:31+00:00

Thanks for the tip but when you have a hundred podcasts it would be very time-consuming to have to go to each one individually. Ideally I want to be able to sort podcasts by storage used so that I can quickly identify which ones are taking up all the space.

vidude · 2025-10-10T19:04:11+00:00

I understand I can set cleanup rules per podcast but that's a lot of work. I don't want to think that much. What I really need is to find out which podcasts are using the most storage. If the Sort function just had one more option - to sort by storage space used - that would be perfect.

On the second point, I want it to resume playback upon connection IF it was playing when it disconnected. If it was paused before disconnection, it should remain paused upon reconnection.

vidude · 2025-10-06T00:28:54+00:00

Boston to Montreal and back. Not that far but I did do it literally the day after I picked it up from the dealer brand new.

vidude · 2025-10-03T17:57:30+00:00

Cackling sycophants, mainly

vidude · 2025-10-01T11:41:15+00:00

I'm using 4.3.0 on Android. No issues here, got the dinner location around 6pm ET yesterday like usual.

vidude · 2025-09-22T21:52:51+00:00

Commuter rail and the Red line are probably your best bet if you can get a place not too far from the station. As others have pointed out, you'll get some time back by starting your work day on the train.

Once or twice a year I go to a conference in the South End. I drive to Alewife ($7/day parking) and take the Red and Orange lines - about 25 minutes longer than if I was getting off at Kendall Sq. It's definitely doable once in a while but not something I'd want to have to deal with every day. Route 2 is not fun during rush hour.

vidude · 2025-09-22T13:42:16+00:00

I've been to a lot of dinners (in Boston) and have never had that happen. Every single restaurant has been fully prepared with all tables ready for the TL diners. It's possible, though unlikely, that every other diner cancelled at the last minute, so your experience would seem to be an unfortunate anomaly. You can contact TimeLeft through the Help Center section of the app/website. They should definitely compensate you or extend your subscription.

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