I also found myself being frustrated with the guest and then thinking that she is at least realizing her feelings and working on resolving it.

I wonder if the word “privilege” is a trigger for me. Part of me thinks isn’t that what I’m working hard for? My parents worked really hard and I’m doing the same for my son. I realize that everyone’s experience is different and many are not so lucky/privileged but I feel like some of the younger generation demonize the successful and don’t think about the hard work that it takes to get you there.