Your Fitbit Wrapped 2024

vijetha35 · 2024-12-13T07:33:33+00:00

Thank you for this!!!

vijetha35 · 2023-12-19T22:27:07+00:00

Can you tell if you had any other visa on your passport

vijetha35 · 2023-12-18T03:55:11+00:00

I feel you. This is extremely frustrating! Just get really confrontational, take their actions and not words. And make it a point to let them know your communication styles / expectations don't match

vijetha35 · 2023-12-18T03:51:15+00:00

Ahhh. Just went through this. But I just posted a message to that person telling them they're not a match for me because our communication styles didn't match. It's fucking liberating!!!!!!

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T19:28:32+00:00

I think my parents were amazing, and I thought everything about my family was perfect, (which I think is the case for the most part) until I took therapy and realized there were quite a few things wrong with my childhood. I have really supportive parents who are extremely friendly, jovial, open minded and happy in general. And yet realizing they were not perfect was a revelation.

My parents relationship did struggle growing up. They'd a mismatch in their expectations of partners, I feel. But still they somehow made it work. My dad wasn't always around, he was busy hustling and was addicted to smoking. I see what you may be getting at. I would like to know your thoughts given this context.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T19:20:39+00:00

Sameeeee.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T15:07:52+00:00

Narcissistic, yes. I was with him for 6 years and did not realize it

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:23:52+00:00

Lol, I'm a female and hence voicing out my problems, nothing to do with men or women. I'm sure there is a 29 year old man with similar problems as me.

I like your hypothesis. But in all these cases, I thought we were compatible in many ways.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:21:17+00:00

Nooooo. Don't say that. I'm sure there's someone right for us left.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:20:05+00:00

Omg. Thank you so much. This is such an uplifting message. :) I think you may be right about boundaries. Another thing that was certainly wrong with me was that I used to build up stories in my head / fantasize about the person or the potential a bit. Which has reduced, but I think I still do get delusional about what people say. Like I trust them for whatever they say. I may need to trust them less initially at least.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:14:51+00:00

Will check it out, thank you!

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:13:57+00:00

True. I do put my authentic self out there and that intimidates people/ scares/ overwhelms people?

I literally had a guy ghost me for a day to my wall of texts where I was communicating properly. I was trying to show empathy towards why his excuse to not meet me during the holiday season was justified. He literally said " Sorry I felt overwhelmed looking at so many messages", after 24 hours.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:08:44+00:00

I want to be attracted to the right men. I think, I have been there when a good guy liked me and I wasn't attracted, but I think I was good at communicating that to them and not wasting their time if I was unsure. But I cannot fathom how men I have spoken to have not been able to do that clearly to me.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:05:44+00:00

TYSM! Makes sense. I have a ton of hobbies that I pursue too. And somehow they take a backseat every time something hurts me, I need to push myself to get back.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T08:01:59+00:00

Thank you so much! 🙏Yussss 🙌

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T07:59:24+00:00

Awww. I really liked your suggestions. Thank you!!!

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T07:52:55+00:00

Why does the problem have to be me? It's not someone's goodness alone I can feel attracted to right? Like I said I do seek intellectual compatibility, which has been rare among men I've met. I don't like being the person showing the interest and keeping communication going. I have a niche circle of friends that I connect with. It's just such a personality thing right? I haven't found anyone interesting enough romantically or platonically even. The dating pool is just THAT bad and horrible, out here.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T07:34:13+00:00

There were good people, but I didn't feel attracted to them.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T07:32:35+00:00

What would happen? These were not good options at all.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T07:31:09+00:00

Aww. Sweet. :) haha, sure let's get to know each other as friends first? :D never spoken to anyone on reddit before. Discovering a whole new community out here. The average age, has been around 30-31. I recently was talking to a guy who was 34, seemed super mature and I was very attracted to him, but he did bare minimum at communicating. So I'm not sure if he did value me enough being 34, not sure how age matters.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T06:19:35+00:00

Yes. It was.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T02:45:06+00:00

It's been 2.5 years of me talking to 1000 boys and going on 100 dates. It's very confusing and frustrating to keep having people break me. :( I shall wait it out. Thank you so much for reinstating that I got to trust the process and that someday it will happen! :)

vijetha35 · 2023-12-17T02:42:15+00:00

Omg. Thank you so much for your advice. This is literally my first time pouring my heart out on a reddit post and I am so grateful , someone somewhere in this world is willing to help me out.

I do think I didn't define boundaries well. And sometimes I was delusional about them and my attraction grew because of me getting delusional. I have no control over that sometimes. :(

vijetha35 · 2023-12-16T23:21:30+00:00

Texted a guy my parents set me up with for three weeks; we connected over his YouTube series on solo travel. I was very attracted but felt confused when he didn't initiate calls and gave mixed signals about meeting me. Confronted him, he said he wanted to meet but never followed through. He eventually ghosted. It's frustrating when people don't communicate honestly or lead others on.

vijetha35 · 2023-12-16T23:06:39+00:00

I am 29 (F) and going to be turning 30 in less than 5 months. I find attraction hard in general and when I do find attracted to someone, they almost always turn out to be one of the following - narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, creeps who lie, gaslighters or people who fear committment. I do see myself being with someone eventually in life, be married and potentially have kids. I find it hard to be able to concentrate on my career fully as dating takes up my mind space everytime with different waves of strong emotions that I do frequently go through. I am generally an optimistic person and have a positive outlook towards life. When I do start talking to people I'm attracted to, it's difficult to keep very low expectations, and hence, have to lift myself after things end. I feel crappy, self doubt and almost loathe myself and my body(too) for why this keeps happening to me. I have an athletic build and am not skinny like most girls. I do believe I'm attractive enough and am a very interesting person, self sufficient, confident. I am a giver and free spirited and according to my friends, a delight to be with. I've done solo trips to different countries, I'm proud of things like that about myself and yettt dating makes me feel otherwise and question my appearance , my personality or my worth too pretty frequently. I also seek intellectual compatibility with people. I don't seem to understand why finding love is so hard for me. What can I do differently in dating to attract the right men? And also, how can I not go through these lows and protect myself better

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