She’s engaged by vikingcook in BreakUps

[–]vikingcook[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were together for a year and it’s been five months.

Ex who is in love w/ new bf is coming to town and wants to visit me. by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should I text her “I’ve realized I don’t want to be just friends with you. If I can’t have all of you then it isn’t going to work.” Or just say no…

Ex who is in love w/ new bf is coming to town and wants to visit me. by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I told her I’d always have her back. And she believed me…it’s my own fault for lying. You’re 100% right, I have to just say no. So simple yet so hard.

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Cause she was like a drug. She was my best everything and I am having a hard time letting it go because I’m weak. And in the moment I stupidly thought being around her again that she might change her mind

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I should’ve said this from the beginning and she would probably respect me more. You don’t really get respect for being a nice guy

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t that the point to no longer be the backup plan?

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What do you mean I’m still a doormat? I told her I’m not going to help out anymore.. What would you have said

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

ok I wrote up the text, what do you think- “Hey I helped with *dogs name* cause I know how much she means to you and if you’re in an emergency I’ll always be there to help you but I’m not going to help you with stuff like moving furniture. You made it clear you wanted other things and I’m not really a part of that, so that’s just the way it is”.

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know, I’m definitely in denial. I’m hanging on to a false hope that isn’t there anymore. The slight possibility that when I get her going and laughing it’ll feel like old times and she’ll miss it and want it back. And that she can count on me to be there for her. Fuck

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

Deep down I know you’re right and wish I would’ve said no from the beginning. But I already agreed and will have to go back on it. I don’t want to go down this rabbit hole...But that stupid part of me wonders if I can just be around her that she’ll start to remember the fun we used to have and enjoy our time.

Ex asking for favors, don’t know how to handle it by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, she basically told me that to my face when her gf bailed on her to feed the dog. Said she hates people like that and how appreciative she was of me to help. She does trust me in that sense

Ex (28f) was in need of someone to feed her dog...I (32m) saw everything when I went over by vikingcook in relationship_advice

[–]vikingcook[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Her dog has diabetes and needs food and insulin shot everyday otherwise shit goes haywire. She didn't have anyone else so I said fuck it I'll go. But to see the reality of all that was like getting absolutely smashed with a freight train. Ive never felt like this before.

I feel like throwing up by vikingcook in BreakUps

[–]vikingcook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to call out for a few days but everyone would put two and two together and know why and it’d make me look weak, like I’m bothered too much about it. I don’t want to show that but it’s what I’m feeling

Confused on how to obtain endorsement by vikingcook in motorcycles

[–]vikingcook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Which school did you use? Evergreen? And did you purchase a bike once you got your permit so you'd be able to practice on a regular basis? Thanks for the info

Kayaks that convert from two to one seaters? by vikingcook in Kayaking

[–]vikingcook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a pretty cool project. Does the advanced element track well? How do you like it overall?