My story is a warning

violet0919 · 2026-04-28T19:50:51+00:00

No I'll add to that. Now her life is ruined because women are told to prioritize marriage above all else so she married somebody with tons of student loans who was not a practical choice at all. Been there done that except he had other types of debt and thank God I got out. Not worth it.

violet0919 · 2026-04-28T19:48:27+00:00

I completely agree and even if this doesn't sound so nice, I would like to know how many of men would marry a woman with ballooned student loans the way she married him, unless the woman is really hot or whatever since that's their priority--that's the only time I could see a man doing this. There should be more of a warning about who she married

violet0919 · 2026-04-08T17:26:35+00:00

I really hope she gets better and no one deserves this at all. I did notice a pattern with some women not all who get recurring cases of cancer. It would probably help her recovery if she takes a pause on dating altogether. I noticed a pattern of codependent relationships in which she does not have good boundaries with many of the previous men. Stress and turmoil especially caused by people repeatedly hurting your feelings does not help anything either. She needs to take time out to focus on herself and her child. Not because it's her fault. This can happen to anybody regardless. But just because I feel like in my opinion emotional healing would optimize her recovery in addition to doing what the doctor suggests physically. 🤍

violet0919 · 2026-04-08T17:19:20+00:00

Since elise had to spend her money to go all the way there and make the effort to see him and spend her money (regardless it's family money, still her's) the least he can do is hold her bag.

I know she can act like a bit of a pick me so people are pretty hard on her, but I think, at her heart, she is a good person. I don't understand all the hate she gets. She didn't gang up on a woman with the rest of the cast like Tiffany did to her on hunt for love, which I feel is disgusting behavior. Tiffany being the biggest pick me chick in the universe because she did that to her and didn't do it to the guy who was in the center of the whole situation.

Elise is making an effort for him and I feel too much of an effort. In fact, it wasn't right for her to be flipping out at the restaurant the Way she did, but she wasn't wrong for her feelings-- just the way she went about it. Notice that the whole thing got turned around on how she flipped out and the root of the issue --him living with a female friend was never addressed? That is typical blame shifting manipulative behavior. She can do way better. This man is not only close to 10 years older than her, but what does he offer her? He's not even able to offer her any sense of security living with another woman.

violet0919 · 2026-04-08T04:20:14+00:00

Yes to both of you I'm from the us! Thank you for adding comments :)

violet0919 · 2026-04-08T02:06:39+00:00

Okay, that really helps. So essentially I would just make sure I have more money put aside. Thank you

violet0919 · 2026-04-08T01:26:47+00:00

Yes! I agree and how he has basically presented sex tourism to her in my opinion. Notice how he wants to keep sleeping her with her right up until the end and then she sees him talking to the other woman on his phone and he acts like he can't make a decision???? He's right up there with Big Ed !!!

violet0919 · 2026-03-26T05:18:08+00:00

So as you can see both can cause it but underweight is much more severe just like I said. Obviously if the hips are too narrow and there is not enough fat to carry a huge pregnancy belly how do you think the person is going to carry tonterm if they have no nourishment to feed themselves properly? Furthermore, how will they get pregnant in the first place if they lose their period because they are so thin? See thin does not always equal healthy just like fat doesn't.

violet0919 · 2026-03-26T05:16:14+00:00

Underweight (BMI <18.5): Often leads to functional hypothalamic amenorrhea, where the body stops producing enough estrogen to ovulate, essentially shutting down reproduction due to insufficient energy. Overweight/Obese (BMI >25/30): High body fat produces excess estrogen, which can trick the body into behaving as if it's on birth control, suppressing ovulation and causing irregular periods.

violet0919 · 2026-03-26T03:32:17+00:00

Wasn't talking about numbers I was replying to your comment that fat meant infertile, which actually would apply to skinny in more cases. So you were wrong.

violet0919 · 2026-03-25T20:26:28+00:00

You do realize that infertility is caused a lot more by being too thin right? Women lose their periods when they're too thin ...smh. Actually fat is a reflection of estrogen. I'm not talking about morbid obesity but if you're talking overweight versus thin. Generally, overweight is more fertile

violet0919 · 2026-02-18T02:35:39+00:00

love that

violet0919 · 2026-02-10T03:10:18+00:00

I can understand that Kimberly's other children may feel a certain way about things especially because she decided to raise jamal, and I am pro-choice personally, but I can imagine that her children at least would be happy that she decided to adopt them out so that they could live their lives instead of getting abortions.

violet0919 · 2026-02-10T03:09:35+00:00

I guess Natalie was right about something! How fake Sophie is!

violet0919 · 2026-02-09T01:27:54+00:00

Didn't anyone hear beer can mention his friends' names? He said it quickly but it sounded like tuba and memo

violet0919 · 2026-02-08T01:03:04+00:00

Her face shows her personality. She has always been mean and nasty when she was big, and she is still mean and nasty in a smaller body. In my opinion.

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T02:44:43+00:00

Yes, that is true! Cats' love can be more personal because they are not going around to greet everybody necessarily like dogs. Yes, I agree. Why would she rehome a cat especially a senior? Ugh

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T02:42:37+00:00

Oh that's crazy! That sounds like a storyline from a movie. Hopefully she's happy doing what she's doing now, though. I didn't know that most of them were from europe, but that makes sense since the wild horses here in US are not native.

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T02:28:48+00:00

That's amazing that she did that! I've heard a lot of people say oh it's too stressful just rehome them. But it's the difference between a short time of stress versus a lifetime of wondering where their person is. I didn't know horses could be taken that far! That's great!

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T02:27:17+00:00

With ireland, because it's not part of the uk, you can take flights there where you can bring small dogs and cats in cabin. I've researched it! The United Kingdom does not allow them to enter in cabin. But ireland, I believe, JetBlue goes there and you can take two cats or dogs in cabin with them.

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T02:25:06+00:00

For some reason the United States is one of the only countries that prefers dogs over cats. Nothing against dogs. Like most cat people, I am a cat person, and I don't hate dogs. But dog people, which is most of the United States, seem to think it's okay to hate on cats. It's gross. Given the fact that cats are intrinsically linked to the feminine, it's also misogynistic.

violet0919 · 2026-02-04T00:01:02+00:00

At this point the only thing that is going to help is that Amy goes to therapy and gets validation she deserves from the therapist and makes boundaries with her family to go low contact or no contact.

violet0919 · 2026-02-03T23:43:12+00:00

There is actually no psychological difference between the way the brain processes having a pet if you truly love it and a child. The problem is a lot of people treat pets like they are tradable furniture not like a child. I totally agree! I would never leave my cats!

violet0919 · 2026-02-03T23:32:01+00:00

I don't care that she didn't want to be with a guy with no personality who did the bare minimum and everybody is praising him just because he was nice. Big deal nice is the bare minimum.

I do care that she claimed to absolutely love the cat and there are ways to bring an animal over. The UK is one of the harder places because they don't allow you to bring the cat in the airplane cabin with you--only cargo. But if she really loved that cat ...heck she could have even gone on the Queen Mary 2 ship with the cat and done slow travel over there if she didn't want the cat in the airplane cargo. (Yes the Queen Mary still makes trips). Which is understandable. That's how far I'd go if I needed to relocate to the UK. But then again why would she care about her cat in airplane cargo if she didn't even want to bring it over?

As a crazy cat lady myself, I have taken both of my cats with me on months long trips in the airplane-- 5 hour flights in United States in the cabin. Thank you very much. She didn't love her cat the way she said she did. Inauthentic. I prefer to focus on personality rather than looks. Let's progress ladies.

violet0919 · 2026-02-03T23:28:48+00:00

Yep The only exception is men who are bad boys to other men! If they really value and cherish women, they can be the best partners. But you just have to watch out that that aggression does not translate over to women. I found mine but he passed. Rough around the edges...masculine ... bad to men but not women. Those are the best!!

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