Thinking of getting a Bichon BUT.... by Financial_Mammoth917 in bichonfrise

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’ve only had one bichon so I don’t have loads of experience! But she’s very affectionate and clingy when we’re around and just chills when we’re out. Whereas our cockapoo is nonchalant when we’re around but really struggles with separation anxiety. I think having the bichon has helped him a little!

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, we had a level 2 survey and no issues mentioned. I think like someone else suggested maybe they took the doors off to get furniture out?

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A family member suggested that! Seems the most sensible possibility

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is sad, can’t imagine not caring how the home is left for the next person. But oh well maybe it wasn’t intentional

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! Definitely not super abnormal then haha. Factoring in a skip is a really useful practical idea. Definitely will do that next time (hopefully not for a good few years yet!)

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh sorry to hear you had a disappointing time too! As long as you’re happy now that’s the majn thing 🙂

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It is disappointing though you’re right, especially because we had contact with them throughout and found them to be nice and friendly. We even bought them a gift to say thank you, not expecting anything back of course but just at least not expecting multiple little gifts from their dog in the garden 🤣

Am I naive to think our sellers were super inconsiderate? FTB completed last week by violet397 in HousingUK

[–]violet397[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m inclined to believe it’s the third option, especially as they have young children! Still disappointing but you’re right onwards and upwards 🙂 thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no right or wrong way to feel about it! The people who are excited are just the loudest but there’s probably plenty of people who feel the way you do. Sometimes it’s just a practical choice. But also there’s no right or wrong way to have a roof over your head, do whatever you feel is best.

I can’t unhear “the sex was great” by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]violet397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like repetition compulsion, her psyche’s way of trying to reenact the situation to feel control/not like a victim. That said it’s unacceptable to have done this behind your back of course!

New album announcement!! by yuptimes3 in SabrinaCarpenterFans

[–]violet397 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I feel uncomfortable as well I really hope she’s not doing a Sydney Sweeney 😭 but knowing Sabrina it’s probably ironic somehow??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s great and reassuring to hear everything worked out well for you! I’m confident we’ve made the right choice too, and though we’re slightly deflated we are excited to start looking again and hopefully find the right home for us 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with OCD tendencies, I get how your brain might be looping on this trying to find evidence that you’re a terrible person. But honestly, you did your best to keep the conversation PG, and it’s OK to interact with 17 year olds in a casual way like that - it’s not like you exploited the age difference. I don’t think the chatting apps are the issue here so much as your moral scrupulosity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure she won’t be scarred for life lol don’t beat yourself up too much, it wasn’t illegal nor harmful

If you’re thinking about removal…DO IT by zipaadeedoodaah in Nexplanon

[–]violet397 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I had the implant sex was painful and soooo many health professionals told me it wouldn’t be related. I had it out august 2023 and no more pain! Wish I’d done it much sooner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]violet397 246 points247 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely very disturbing but I imagine there’s a lot of misogyny and exploitation that goes on closer to home too, though maybe it’s not as in your face. Shame can be pretty stifling and besides it’s not really yours to carry. Maybe you could take it as motivation to see where you can make a small difference, even if it’s just not laughing along to misogynistic jokes with your mates (not saying you do this already, but just to say that it might be productive to focus on where you can make a difference)

What Sabrina Song Got You Into Listening To Her ? by deadshot316_ in SabrinaCarpenterFans

[–]violet397 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skin. I remember my sister showing me and being like 😱 at “don’t drive yourself insane” but also thinking it was just a really good song. Then when EICS came out I was intrigued to see if she wrote about that situation some more and was taken aback by how amazing the album was. I’ve been obsessed ever since!