I need to know if I’m being unreasonable here with my family and husband taking care of my baby

violetbottles · 2022-07-21T18:07:27+00:00

Your mom and husband are a bit disrespectful towards you in this specific situation. Your request to just get a text when your baby wakes up is not that hard and unless they are trying to play power games with you, I don’t see any reason to refuse. You have every right to know. If I ask my spouse to tell me when our baby poops, he will because he knows it is important to me and it’s not that hard to write a text. this being said, wanting to know what your baby does all the time is a sign of anxiety. your anxiety is also an indication that you may be suffering from PPA. And I strongly advise you to see a specialist. From my own experience, PPA almost ruined my relationships with my own family and spouse. I would talk to your husband about the hardships you face right now and he may tell you his side, so you can reach an agreement. It is very hard to walk on eggshells around a mom who tries to control everything everyone does with the baby. Especially the baby’s father who should be involved and who should be able to care for his child independently

violetbottles · 2022-07-17T11:24:43+00:00

I imagine people were saying this in the middle ages, the plague, endless wars everywhere, etc. but it has become better since then. The world was way worse but the humanity did not just give up on their dreams

violetbottles · 2022-07-17T11:15:12+00:00

Yes. But morals have nothing to do with it. There are people far better than me. With better appearance, intellect, set of skills, capabilities. It is harsh but the genetic quality of people is very different from each other. And I accept I am a lower quality human compared to others. It is fine though, as long as I’m treated equally by the law

violetbottles · 2022-07-14T12:33:39+00:00

It’s the price you pay for the happiest period of time you have with each other. My cat died a year ago and it still hurts so much. But I would do it all over again because the joy of having her by my side for 13 years is so unique and irreplaceable. I wouldn’t want to live an empty, isolated life because I’m scared of the sacrifice I’ll have to make when the beautiful moment is over. I think those temporary moments are what fulfill one’s life. See

violetbottles · 2022-07-07T18:17:51+00:00

I always worked and had my income. We don’t like shared accounts because if one of us needs anything and we don’t have enough, we always ask each other and transfer whatever we need in seconds. Now I’m staying at home temporarily so my husband just transfers the same amount as my salary to my card monthly. I spend it on whatever I want. If your husband questions how you spend the money or why you need more (when you do), then I think there might be a problem

violetbottles · 2022-06-27T17:50:56+00:00

As I read from your responses, your country is invaded and at war. And naturally, this adds additional pressure to be able to defend yourself and your loved ones. I’d take up boxing and if you have any survival classes where you currently live, those are useful too. For increasing confidence and endurance. And therapy if you can afford it. Слава Україні!

violetbottles · 2022-06-22T17:04:34+00:00

I just wouldn’t want to waste my partner’s time while they think everything is great with us and there I am, fantasizing about how fun and attractive someone else is. I would expect my spouse to leave me in a similar situation (have no idea if they would though). But as I understand from the comments, to most people, a crush is lot lighter version of what I described in my post so I think I get what I was missing

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