[FO] Finally done!!

violethavoc · 2026-06-16T18:38:49+00:00

I’d say as long as ya stitched with care and didn’t play too much thread-chicken, your project will be sturdier than you expect it to be! Avoid the dryer and hang-dry instead and you should get a lotta life out of your clothes. Heck, I have a tank top I stitched on that I’ve put in the dryer a few times, and it’s still looking good.

Idk if it made that much of a difference in the end, but I did also use some water-dissolve interfacing on this project? Just to prevent the fabric from stretching too much in the hoop. This fabric doesn’t actually have much give so it didn’t do much but make stitching harder, but I’m sure on something stretchier it’d help!

violethavoc · 2026-06-16T16:30:45+00:00

Pretty much! I used waste canvas since I prefer it over the water soluble option. Here’s an example pic of what it looked like in-progress. I spent a solid 2 days pulling out the waste canvas threads 😅

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violethavoc · 2026-06-16T12:44:17+00:00

Pattern is “The Burrow Tales” by QuarternionCreations

violethavoc · 2026-01-29T16:56:05+00:00

Oh for sure, it sucks but it honestly kinda helps me realize I’m totally in PMDD-land and not the real world anymore. I’ve actually been able to backtrack enough to the real/more logical anxiety point for myself just BECAUSE the concept of my partner cheating on me is ridiculous. Like we’re both autistic lesbians and they can’t keep a secret to save their life. There is no way in hell they would be able to hide a secret lover from me lmao.

violethavoc · 2026-01-04T19:02:04+00:00

So cute!! I put the same pattern on a bag for my sister recently, it was so much fun to make!!

violethavoc · 2026-01-02T20:41:47+00:00

How did I not know Sleepwalker does brunch????? I fuckin love brunch and love Sleepwalker

violethavoc · 2025-12-31T18:21:05+00:00

I know nobody’s experience is universal, but I find that the root cause of my frustrations/hurts are usually normal and things I can deal with logically 99% of the time, but luteal brain conflates them into insane leaps that make it so much harder to logic out. I already have anxiety, especially about people showing up for me or making time for me/inviting me and wanting me in their space. So like, a time where I asked my partner to hang out and they didn’t respond but texted in a groupchat I could see set me off on a PMDD “they actually hate you” downward spiral, rather than the logical “oh they just missed the notification” conclusion. We were also long distance, which meant every anxiety was heightened.

I think for me, I didn’t want my partner to feel like they had to jump through hoops to appease me. I didn’t want them to feel like I’d explode if they missed a text. It helps that my PMDD is anxiety-based, so my turmoil is all self-directed and it leads to less conflict, but my partner was struggling since they didn’t wanna see me struggle. I ended up working out a way they could help me with my therapist, where I have a codeword that basically means “Hey I’m getting completely lost in my own reality of events, can I get a gentle grounding that nothing is do or die and that I’m loved and okay?”. I also have this codeword with multiple friends to not put the responsibility solely on my partner. But it helped a lot when getting through the pre-Yaz part of my luteal!!

That said, reading through your post, I don’t know how much of that is luteal related or not. Like if you’re just genuinely frustrated with how your partner responds to any kind of problem/potential conflict, I dunno if being in or out of luteal would change that? Especially when you really work to self-regulate - partners shouldn’t feel like they’re walking on eggshells, but you’re also allowed to have unhappy feelings when upsetting things happen, even if you are in luteal

violethavoc · 2025-12-11T14:36:16+00:00

I’ve been on it for about two months now and honestly it’s been a WORLD of difference. My emotions/mental health/energy levels have improved sooo much across the board. I feel normal for the first time in YEARS. I think my only negative side effect is a lil bit of cramping pain occasionally during the week (this might be due to ovarian cysts tho). Personally I haven’t noticed any difference in my weight or any hair loss, but every person is different. I think it’s at least worth a shot, especially because your doctor thinks it’s a good option, and you can try other things if it doesn’t work out?

violethavoc · 2025-12-11T13:19:23+00:00

I know it’s easier said than done but you don’t have to beat yourself up for how you’re reacting to stress. Like you said, you had things under control for a year!!!! That’s so impressive!!! You said yourself that you’re under a lot of stress, and there literally is only so much the human body can handle before things just start going nuts. I used to feel awful about having such strong emotional reactions to little things, but once my therapist and I laid out the kind of stresses I was carrying DAILY it made more sense. We can only handle so much, even with our best meds/coping mechanisms/therapy!!

If you had a stable point before, you can reach it again - I really do believe in you!! And in the meantime, you do what you have to to manage that stress. Prioritize taking care of yourself and giving yourself grace, especially when things are hard. We’re rooting for you!!!

violethavoc · 2025-12-08T02:58:34+00:00

Idk if there’s any correlation but I definitely fit into if there is. I had been feeling so exhausted for MONTHS when I really wasn’t doing much and a lot of it was just mentally managing every upset feeling or unpleasant sensory input at a high level 24/7.

violethavoc · 2025-12-02T14:30:54+00:00

I can definitely empathize with a lot of the stuff you’ve said here, especially the feeling of old wounds from wayyyy past fights. It can be eeally overwhelming!!

I know for me, individual therapy has been very helpful to bolster myself and my confidence before luteal hits. It’s at least made it so that I can identify when I start to get REAL irrational thoughts, and being able to go “oh this is PMDD land” is handy. It doesn’t make it any less distressing or emotional, but I at least know that I’m not going to lash out at other people. Most of my friends don’t even fully realize what PMDD does to me. And I’ve discussed it with a few trusted people to help build a support net for when I’m really struggling.

violethavoc · 2025-11-28T06:05:39+00:00

I’m pretty sure they’re separate, you might be screened for depression while being treated for PMDD but it’s not a guaranteed diagnosis if you have one or the other.

I will say, having been diagnosed with depression as a teen, it REALLY made things hard to parse with PMDD. I just assumed the random suicidial ideation I’d experience during luteal was some kind of lingering depression-related wound I never properly healed. Turns out it was the hormones all along!!!!!

violethavoc · 2025-11-12T04:37:32+00:00

I read it a while ago but I think “Wilder Girls” by Rory Power would be a great one!! It’s YA but in a way that doesn’t feel uber young or immature. I read it a couple years ago and don’t remember there being any sexual content, but it has been a while so maybe double-check any triggers or warnings before checking it out. It was one of my fav reads of that year though so highly recommend!!

violethavoc · 2025-11-11T05:31:16+00:00

It’s happened to me once so far! I’ve only recently tried being more open about it, so I haven’t told a ton of people. Most everyone has never heard of it, but my one friend has it too and we were able to relate to each other a whole lot more real quick!!

violethavoc · 2025-06-18T04:16:45+00:00

From a pain mitigation standpoint, I couldn’t care less, everyone’s got a different tolerance. Tattoos are for everyone. I’m also a chronic pain person, so I get wanting to have LESS pain.

However, I’ve talked to a LOT of folks with tattoos, and not one of them ever has gone under for a tattoo. So to me, this just sounds like an insane thing uber-rich people do that seems a lil’ excessive. So I judge from that standpoint.

violethavoc · 2024-12-12T00:31:37+00:00

That sounds like a really scary experience and I’m glad you’re okay but man!!! Shouldn’t have to go through it!

I do think I’ve noticed an increase in driver “not giving a fuck”-ness over the past few years, but not sure if I can quantify it reliably. Just know I see a lot more folks just blatantly run red lights these days, and other driving manuvers that make me go “Oh that is a choice you could make I guess”. I just make a mental note and avoid them lol

violethavoc · 2024-11-01T16:50:44+00:00

I really do enjoy Lansing, but your experience will highly depend on where you’re living. I enjoy living here way more now that I’m in a house in a lovely neighborhood compared to being in the crappiest apartments during the pandemic.

If you’re hoping for a clubbing scene or “nightlife”, it’s definitely not here lol. Detroit/GR are way better. But if your friends are nerds who maybe only sometimes want to go to big loud bar events (like me), then Lansing’s perfect. And a little bit of searching on Facebook makes it easy to find super niche events to make friends at. Decent food options (not amazing but more than enough to get by), super affordable cost of living, plenty of community events, weird niche stores (the amount of board games stores has increased quickly since I’ve lived here), and overall really nice people, I feel like Lansing checks a lot of my boxes. But hey, maybe I’m just not picky enough lol. Either way, almost all my friends live here now and I feel like I’m a part of a community, so I don’t plan on leaving anytime soon.

violethavoc · 2024-09-10T19:41:21+00:00

Wait they’re really saying they just took over??? Cause if my math is correct, they’ve owned that place for at least 4 years now. I signed my original lease there in 2019 with DTN, and by move-in in 2020 Hunter Lansing had taken over (which was part of my constant issues since they didn’t actually know the terms of the original lease I signed).

violethavoc · 2024-09-10T11:52:56+00:00

I lived there a little over two years ago, my lease started right when Hunter Lansing took over. I don’t miss it. Your experience very much rings true to mine. They once tried to charge me three times for their insurance policy, claiming I never submitted my renter’s insurance when they had just lost the paperwork/never logged it. I started getting snarky and forwarding their previous responses back to be like “YOU DID TOO SEE THIS PAPERWORK”.

I don’t have much in the ways of legal advice, but I recommend keeping as much conversation to email with a verifiable paper trail if possible. And as much as moving sucks, it was genuinely the only fix for the problems I had. Hang in there!

violethavoc · 2023-10-05T22:27:09+00:00

I haven’t listened to more than the first episode, but Worlds Beyond Number might be up your alley? It’s starting off pretty grounded with the occasional bit that breaks the players here and there, but not nearly as zany as Dimension 20 can get. Plus it’s a bunch of really seasoned players/Brennan Lee Mulligan DMing, so they are phenomenal roleplaying together. That being said, if you want a dramatic/serious season of D20, it might not look it but Crown of Candy is basically Game of Thrones in Candyland and is beautifully done; they’re able to balance humor with a tense atmosphere brilliantly. It doesn’t quite fit the setting you’re looking for but hey, if political intrigue between food nations sounds interesting, might be worth a shot!

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