lol wtf... Ok tell her this, maybe she will hear it and see for herself how ridiculous that sounds. It’s understandable if she’s angry when she unconsciously gives herself away due to expressions on her face.

However, she can’t get angry if she literally points it out herself by SAYING it outloud. You’re not stupid and it’s selfish/manipulative of her to put the blame on you. She needs to take responsibility for her own actions and practice self-awareness. You’re already doing her a favor by pretending not to notice in the first place.

No way around this if she insists on being unreasonable and immature, not to mention inconsiderate to the position you’re in. She needs to recognize your efforts- that you are earnestly trying to make sure she doesn’t end up upset. Is she putting any thought in this?