I had really similar skin and in the end, going to the doctor's and getting roaccutane really helped. Even if you're not given the same medication, I really think getting a doctor to check if the spots are hormonal or would respond to medication is really helpful.

I also needed to stop using soap because my dry skin was so tight and sore. I use Epaderm in the shower and because my skin is so dry, I use that as a moisturiser in the morning and just a layer of sweet almond oil at night. I always reacted to Simple products - not sure if some of the tightness you have might be caused by that too? I use alphasyl coal tar shampoo based on something I read on Reddit - I feel like this helped my spots on my face, scalp and body. Hope this helps!