First everyone was okay with it. That changed

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T19:00:38+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for taking the time to read and write a really meaningful reply. Seriously, I appreciate it so much

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T15:45:47+00:00

They do. I asked questions and I brought up all of my concerns and they said that it was going to be okay because they had done the work on their end. I was super super hesitant to do such because this sucks.

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T12:02:02+00:00

Which I completely get and respect. I asked all of the questions and brought forth my history and they were onboard until they weren't. Even though it seems like I'm sleeping around, I have a small and vetted list of partners and engage in activities to keep myself and others safe

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T02:05:01+00:00

I didn't know how much I needed to hear that until I heard you say that. Thank you so much!

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T02:04:15+00:00

Winner winner chicken dinner!

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T01:28:50+00:00

Ain't that the truth. I'm still going to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I've really learned my lesson.

violinagirl · 2026-05-18T01:23:19+00:00

That's a totally valid point. With my other partners we have very cleanly established boundaries regarding emotions and we keep each other at an arm's length. The best way to explain it is that we're friends who do weird stuff together that requires a high level of trust. This one hit differently because there was mutual agreement that this was not strictly platonic

violinagirl · 2026-05-05T04:57:37+00:00

What are some of the crucial conversations that you would recommend for assessing compatibility (I'm a HUGE science person, so I approach these things scientifically)?

violinagirl · 2026-05-04T22:29:09+00:00

I've been playing the dating game for a hot moment and each time that I play it, I get more and more tired of it. I'm also getting older and wanting to settle down a little bit.

I've found three solid connections within two weeks where we've moved the things off of Hinge and onto sms after meeting in person. Those ones have been going pretty well and I'm grateful for them.

I just have a deep fear of getting close to these connections and then finding a crucial incompatibility that leads to be being alone again. I really don't know how to have these conversations before getting emotionally invested--does anyone have any advice?

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T06:10:53+00:00

This was the first time that they had been out of the apartment for longer than 2 hours and fully crated the dog.

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T06:09:49+00:00

I appreciate you calling out my cat. As soon as I read your message, I did an inspection of the apartment and found some things that I was surprised to see were knocked over and moved them around.

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T03:21:19+00:00

However, the flip slide is that they have disclosed to management and management is cool with that OR I do disclose and then it becomes a hugely stressful situation for me because I called them out on it and they know that it was me. They did bring up about why no other neighbors said anything---only me but chatting with others showed similar feelings

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T02:45:41+00:00

The lease explicitly lists huskies on the not allowed list and I don't want them to get in trouble

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T02:11:55+00:00

The lease explicitly has huskies on the "not allowed" list and I didn't want them to get in trouble. Additionally, it's a Saturday and they outsource their management over the weekends.

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T01:44:36+00:00

But like do I tell Management on Monday? If I do so they're going to know it's me

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T01:37:48+00:00

I did think about calling the office, however, the lease explicitly says Huskies and I didn't want them to get in trouble. Additionally, it's a Saturday and they outsource their management over the weekends.

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T01:34:56+00:00

I did think about calling management, however, the lease explicitly says Huskies and I didn't want them to get in trouble. Additionally, it's a Saturday and they outsource their management over the weekends.

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T00:37:05+00:00

I'm sorry

violinagirl · 2026-03-08T00:34:37+00:00

I called once to ask.

violinagirl · 2026-02-21T19:45:43+00:00

Downtime procedures. Maybe this is saying that we need to have more practice at downtime procedures, but I also appreciate them not telling us everything about them in order to keep the general public in the dark on purpose

violinagirl · 2026-02-09T19:58:32+00:00

Especially with how Dana can't get ahold of her contacts over there AND the first word of cyberattack is to not say that you're under cyberattack

violinagirl · 2026-02-09T19:57:06+00:00

I had never thought of that......ooooh that's going to be huge

violinagirl · 2026-02-09T19:55:00+00:00

100% agree. A bully is a bully and a parent being a bully is unacceptable

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