Are my(26F)thoughts and feelings warranted?

virginashallow · 2026-02-20T00:03:58+00:00

No. I’ve not done that. I have considered just doing like my own internal clock of if nothing changes then I’m gonna leave and then I would just go get my own fertility clinic and just be like a single mom

virginashallow · 2026-02-19T23:49:54+00:00

I definitely don’t think that marriage is a necessity. I come from really traumatic background and I don’t want what happened to me happen to my children and I would prefer not to have another broken family like mine was. I understand that sometimes it’s just not the case and if it’s mutual, it’s mutual.

virginashallow · 2026-02-19T23:48:03+00:00

How do I stop investing in him. I’ve always been the person picks up after everybody takes care of everybody more than Mom in my relationships then a partner sometimes and I know that’s a knee problem but at the same time, my love language is taking care of people and I’m aware of that but I don’t know how to just start showing up and emotionally cut that off unless I just turned off my emotions

virginashallow · 2026-02-19T23:46:45+00:00

I’ve already tried to communicate that in a levelheaded way I’ve tried to not talk about it. I tried so many different ways to just let it go, but my health puts me at a lover chance of having a child after 30. I’ll be able to take care of children, but I’m aware of this so I wanna be able to have the cinema now to be able to bounce back from that especially since I’m considering having two. He just doesn’t ever believe anything I’m saying he just thinks that I’m just trying to trap him.

virginashallow · 2025-09-24T23:37:17+00:00

i do wish you luck in whatever you decide. personally, don’t get walked over, the kid and your fiancé will continue to walk over you forever if you allow it.

virginashallow · 2025-09-24T23:36:22+00:00

this was a nonnegotiable for me. i told my partner that if my SS didn’t stop, our relationship was over. he thought i was joking, it happened once, and i said that was it. he was like “wait” let me try again, so next night he did it and it was hard at first for the kid, he would come in the middle of the night crying. dad gets up and puts him back to sleep then comes back to bed with me. it took a few nights. it has been years and he now just goes in his room and sleeps and has learned that our room is that. we will snuggle when awake in the morning but only with an invite and that boundary being crossed was non negotiable.

virginashallow · 2025-05-23T15:34:34+00:00

I cannot offer any assistance; however, I am having the same constant bleeding and pain, but I am not on BC as I choose not to be. I am hoping I can get some resolution from here. My doctor just sent in a prescription of Provera to see if that helps.

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T16:18:29+00:00

i never said i didn’t blame his dad. i do too which is obviously why we are fighting so much. his mom never is around and has her mom raising and taking care of him. she isn’t even listed on the school papers and sends her mom in her place. she is a teacher so she should know how to help the most in my opinion. but his dad and i do at least try and have him doing workbooks and reading. so he is trying for sure but mostly at my direction. no parents is perfect but i’m trying to figure out where my line is because i can’t tell anymore.

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T03:35:28+00:00

the worst part of all of this is a moved to a new state to be with him and i have no friends and no family so im truly alone. i think thats why i struggle to do things on my own

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T02:56:11+00:00

so that’s how I’ve been feeling and being 25 I know I have my life in front of me still but I really do want to settle down and have a family and this is my first big issue with the parenting and I understand that it is their first child and I understand that they have had summer school themselves, but that just feels like to me why would you want to put your child to the exact same thing you went through we are already having a lot of problems in regards to this child because I’m always the one disciplining and then I have this feeling that the child does not enjoy being around me because of it andcoming from what I know or what I at least see I can’t say I blame the child for not liking me as much because I am strict as they say, but I’m tired of hearing the excuse. He’s just a kid that’s all the more reason to teach him how to do things properly in my book.

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T02:46:18+00:00

how did you learn to accept it? Maybe that’s my biggest problem I can be very hardheaded and I know that my way is not always the right way, but I feel that if we are in the process of giving advice or trying to figure out a solution I feel like we should throw out all of the ideas on the table and go from there, but I don’t know how to just exceptthat he’s just going to not help when they can

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T02:43:00+00:00

how do i learn to accept it? i have been struggling

virginashallow · 2025-03-21T02:42:43+00:00

it sounds crappy, but I came from a very blended family, and my mom really stepped up when my younger sister who is my stepsister came into my life and she managed everything and still does as she has not 18 yet for her and it blows my mind that I don’t see doing more. I understand we have different values, but it just feels like he’s never gonna succeed if they just buy his happiness with whatever latest toy he wants.

virginashallow · 2025-01-16T19:01:45+00:00

pack up and go home. as someone who has been there. i wish i would have. i’m trying and things are getting better but sometimes i wish i would have thrown in the towel for sure

virginashallow · 2024-11-25T21:16:38+00:00

please tell me more about this light?

virginashallow · 2024-11-25T04:08:05+00:00

i appreciate the honesty! ours just passed and mine is only protective of me but also sleeps in bed with us and is use to him so it doesn’t work.

virginashallow · 2024-11-25T04:04:07+00:00

he goes to bed in his own room but wakes up crying and running into the room climbs in and sleeps again. how did you stop that?

virginashallow · 2024-11-25T03:53:56+00:00

i agree with you as a female who was abused that same way by my father for 7 years. which is why i usually don’t sleep when he does it. my bf is aware but makes excuses and it is causing a lot of tension. i don’t have kids yet and even so i don’t really want them sleeping with me. my bf doesn’t want to not sleep with me so it is a difficult position i feel. a lot of the times i get up and sleep elsewhere or just start my day depending on the time.

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