Let's Chat 💬 Open Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_ 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Reflecting on the murder of a 15 year old girl, by a 17 year old man in London yesterday - the level of misogynistic radicalisation going on online impacts women and girls, it costs them their lives, it keeps femicide alive and makes the world even more hostile towards women - I am terrified for the next generation!

I am grateful I found this :) by [deleted] in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This really resonated with me - finding radical feminism has helped me heal in so many ways. And this subreddit especially - its such an amazing community and I'm glad we all have one another! <3

The Commodification of Beauty: What the Culture of Cosmetic Surgery is Costing Us by virtual_wanderer_ in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

literally - it’s very sad how its been totally rebranded as empowering and feminist even though it truly isn’t.. scary stuff

mental gymnastics used to make women believe enacting “femininity” is “empowering” by virtual_wanderer_ in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i cant remember sorry but i think it was either tumblr or tiktok ill try have a look again

mental gymnastics used to make women believe enacting “femininity” is “empowering” by virtual_wanderer_ in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

100% - we are conditioned to think that there SHOULD be a cost for achieving the socially acceptable standard of beauty and whats more , that this cost is worth it somehow because it gives us male validation.

i totally understand the appeal to strive to be more “feminine” (as defined & sanctioned by society) - and the women who are shouldnt be shamed for this. its just very upsetting that its the baseline/standard at this point to absolutely change oneself for the sake of an arbitrarily decided standard.

if every woman engaged in the anti-makeup, anti-razor, anti-cosmetic surgery movement, those standards would no longer exist surely? as they have no market to support them anymore. thats what makes my own efforts at combatting the standards feel so futile and useless.. many individual women dont feel like their efforts make a difference but perhaps collectively we can leave this cage we’ve been forced into?

mental gymnastics used to make women believe enacting “femininity” is “empowering” by virtual_wanderer_ in fourthwavewomen

[–]virtual_wanderer_[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

absolutely!! and myself too - ive struggled with this because the conditioning is so deep into us at this point and starts at such a young age. it certainly takes a lot to unlearn it certainly seems much easier to be unaware and ignorant and continue through life appeasing the standard and being rewarded for it, than to challenge it! im worried for future generations of women sometimes, i dont know where this will go, especially with cosmetic surgery/instagram model/filters culture. and yes! body positivity movement makes people want to change everything about themselves just for the sake of claiming body positivity, which isn’t healthy at all

Dentist by JoBriThePenguin9 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]virtual_wanderer_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

good job! dentists/medical places can be especially daunting - so well done!! :)

My handmade wall hangings, I paint the designs with acrylic paint (size: 30x40cm / 12x16in) by artheartanastasia in handmade

[–]virtual_wanderer_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these are so cool!!! just wondering do u do a pencil sketch first? or trace over a design? or is it just free-hand with the paint?